the advice I got was great but I live in Jamaica I do not have all the government facilities as you all have in america. therefore, all expense is on me. i dont even work enough to pay my bills. i was really depending on his help but now hes gone to someone else. should i beg him and bury my dignity? for the sake of my baby. I am now going into my 6mths and i dont even have any baby stuff yet. it has gotten me so depress that i am not feeling this child at all. i was really hoping to be a family. my friend told me i have symptoms of baby depression. she says brooke shields had it and i could end up ignoring my new born and i dont want to do that. my parents never really had it and i am here so i really want to try. is it okay to take antidepressant while pregnant?
2006-11-10 00:26:14 · 13 answers · asked by jillane j 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Please dont take any meds until you speak with your doctor first. It seems you have a lot on your plate right now and that could make anyone depressed. I don't know the laws in Jamica but hopefully I can give some advise that might help.
I respect you when you say you would swallow your dignity and try to work it out with your boyfriend for the baby's sake however, if it is not working out now then I am afraid it may not work out in the future. You have to be happy to make your child happy. You need to find out what makes you happy. It may not be with this guy. Being around and trying to keep things worked out does not always make a great enviroment for a child. You dont want your child growing up in an unhappy home. I am sure you have papers where you can find used items for babies, sales, anything like that. You do not have to have top of the market stuff for your child. I bought a bassinet for 5 dollars from a yard sale and it worked great for my son. (they are only in it for 3 months.. why spend 200.00 on it?) Focus on the baby. Focus on the feelings you are having, the kicking, the movements, what you plan on doing when the child is born, holding the child for the first time..etc.. that will bring out motherly instincts in you. See if there are any programs there that help with raising a child such as what we have "WIC", child support, etc. If you think you are going to turn out like Brooke Shields then you probably are. Keep your attitude towards this pregnancy positive. Stop dwelling on what you don't have and start preparing things for the baby. Are you having a boy or a girl? If you need someone to talk to email me. I will be happy to talk with you. Good luck to you in your pregnancy and remember stay positive! Having a child is a wonderful experience try not to focus on depression. Focus on what you get to experience with this child when they are born. You are lucky. There are people that go their whole life wanting a child and cannot. It is hard to focus on a child sometimes when they are not even here yet. I did not even feel pregnant until my 7th month. After that is when I started realizing I am pregnant and I will have this little person by my side depending on me for everything. Looking up to me and one day smiling at me and hugging me. That is what warmed my heart. He is now 7 months old and I actually get to experience his smiles and laughter. Its a wonderful thing!
2006-11-10 00:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to have things for the baby yet but if you can't afford to pay your bills you probably don't have enough to save up for baby supplies. Ask the baby's father if he can help you out with child support. I don't know what the laws are there regarding child support but you should look into that.
Brooke Shields had post-partum depression that is depression that you get after the baby is born so you don't have that. Discuss your feelings with your doctor and maybe there's something they can give you. Good luck.
2006-11-10 00:31:43 · answer #2 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some antidepressants are safe to take while pregnant. Only a doctor can tell you which ones. If you go back with your boyfriend, make sure it's for the right reasons. Money isn't a good reason. Does he know about the pregnancy??? If so, then he should be helping you out whether or not you are a couple. Think about that before you ask him to come back to you.
2006-11-10 00:31:14 · answer #3 · answered by eightieschic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your doctor. I took antidepressants while I was pregnant with my last child........he is fine. The doctors have to look at the risks and benefits of you taking the medicine while pregnant. There are plenty of medicines out there just talk to your doc and make sure it is safe.
I would talk to your ex.....for the babies sake. He needs to be involved in the caring for the baby. And financially is another way to support. If he is with you or not he still needs to step up to the plate. You should talk to him and tell him about your feelings. I don't understand why you aren't together.....but are having a baby. That doesn't make since. Anyways. Talk to him maybe you could work things out.
Best of luck.
2006-11-10 10:43:59 · answer #4 · answered by ♥just me♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like u need him for support if u r not happy u need to talk 2 him because u are with his child and let him no that u need some time a part 2 think things out . the baby is not here yat good things come 2 thoughts who wait.love yours first good luck
2006-11-10 00:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by maxineshickman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why didn't you use any kind of birth control? Take him to court and demand help? You did not make this baby on your own. Stand up you and the child don't let him get away easy. He needs to provide for the child also period.
2006-11-10 00:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by Good Grief 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking a doctor. I don't think it's a good idea to ask a question (and follow the answer) which might kill your baby. I personally think you should really consult a doctor.
2006-11-10 00:29:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't okay to take antidepressant. I am hoping that you are at least going to the doctor for regular checkups.
2006-11-10 00:31:23 · answer #8 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just need to be surrounded by a friends and family who love you. But talk to the docotor abt taking drugs
2006-11-10 00:31:19 · answer #9 · answered by sunshine23511 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhave 2 say 2 ur parents and ask for their help
2006-11-10 00:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by yamnona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋