Women .....?

Question

This sounds like I am mard but when I met my fiance he only had eyes for me and said he doesnt like any women of tv or radio etc. But 4 years on he has changed, he keeps telling me all the women clebs he would date if he could, and if there is a saucy scene on tv his face lights up!! Why has he suddenly changed like this, I think its cus he works with men all day everyday and they are rubbing off on him. Sometimes I get upset, as I dont do this to him! Would you be upset?

Answer 1

Any chance you two have stopped shagging so often? Or maybe not as exciting as it once was? He is trying to tell you he is virile and looking for a bit of excitment. Suggest the pair of you fulfill one of each others fantasies and see how you get on. Your impending nuptials could be bringing this on as he is maybe just realising he is going to be with the one woman for the rest of his life. A scary prospect for a lot of people.

There is absolutely no point in getting upset with him. Do you really think there is a chance in hell of him hooking up with one of these celebrities?? Also, don't you look at other males and fancy them? Celebrity or not? You would have to have a hormonal imbalance not to fancy other people. Just because you are seeing someone doesn't mean that part of you gets automatically turned off. It might in the beginning for both of you but the longer a relationship goes on the harder you need to work at it and stop yourself from acting on any impulse if your head is turned by someone else.

Try to laugh it off or use it to your own advantage. He could be doing it to try and encourage you to be as playful and instead you are getting cross with him, not exactly a turn on is it?

I understand you might get upset but this could be due to maybe a bit of low self esteem. Remember he is marrying YOU not one of these celebs. Remind him why he is doing that and you will not regret it.

Good luck.

Answer 2

I think some of the new problems women face is that now they are just as equal, most of the time, earning the household money. But still are expected to get dinner and take care of the kids, clean the house. Men are also I noticed are less likely to work and expect the wife to take care of them. Men are afraid to open the door for us, I guess either from fear that we will yell at them that we can do it ourselves, they don't give nice compliments due to fear that we will charge them with sexual harassment. We are lucky to find a man that cares enough to want to be at home, and is a little old fashioned about taking care of us but still allows us to be an equal. I also think that women are pressured to look a certain way, because of false advertising that Hollywood has shown us with the perfect women. When in fact this is an illusion that without 50 people working on her for 5 hours will never achieve.

Answer 3

Why are you getting upset - he is with you isn't he and couldn't possibly put into practice what he is saying as celebs are out of reach! All men have fantasies and he is no different. I do think though he is winding you up to see your reaction and possibly trying to get a jealous reaction out of you. The reason he said what he did when you first got together was because you were in the first throws of your relationship and were 'in lust'. Don't give him the satisfaction of a reaction as I think when you don't react he will stop doing it!

Answer 4

Why would you get upset? First off, it's not like he is cheating on you. Secondly, they are celebrities. Everyone has thoughts about being with a hot celeb. Cause in real life, it isn't going to happen. Third, he's a man. What else do you expect. All they think/know how to do is sleep, eat and have sex. Period.

Answer 5

no cuz my husband and every man is the same way its just a fantasy so come on ease up on the guy whats the big deal as long its not other woman for reals, cutt him some slack its normal i mean its not like uve never fantasised about a celeb or watched a sexy scene in the cinema or at home on tv, so be fair

Answer 6

I totally agree with you. When i first met my fiance he too only had eyes for me but i know he loves the celebs with big boobs and he tells me sometimes and i do get annoyed and jealous but lets face it when is he ever gonna meet them ! but what can i do ? and anyway half the celebs are plastic in some way - they are not truly natural beauties like us !

Take away their make-up, money, personal trainers, plastic surgeons etc.. and what have you got ? an ugly bug !

Stick with it men are always oogling someone, i fancy male celebs too but dont voice my opinion as much as him but when i do comment on the men and their bods it doesnt go down too well - give him a tast of his own medicine - it will work, trust me !!

Answer 7

I'm not a woman, but as a guy I'll tell you that he hasn't changed, he's always been that way. If he does this and it upsets you, and it doesn't make him stop, why do still hang with him? this fiance of yours is a loser, he will not ever respect you later if he doesn't now. The fact that he works with men all day is b/s. I was in the Navy and worked with men all day and spent 60-75 days underwater with them, this did not cause me to disrespect my wife.

Answer 8

Think about it hun - in reality you're boyfriend wouldnt stand a cat in hells chance of getting it in on with a celebrity! Just be thankful that hes using women that are out of his reach to ogle - it would be so much worse if he was on about the girl down the road!
Boys will be boys - and you cant change it!!! xx

Answer 9

Hi,


Maybe he feels comfortable that he can b honest in front of u now?

People on tv etc are fictional and untouchable dont worry hes just a man.

Me i wudn't be angry cos i know i am 1 in a million!!

R x

Answer 10

OK think about this when you see male celebs on t.v you don't think how fine he is, women do it too just are more privet about it.
men do this its only natural they cant help it but few would act on their fantasies and yes that is all it is.
you could turn the tables and do the same as him and watch his reaction.
but he loves you but men sexual fantasy are there eyes and their is no harm in looking but you are the only one that can give him what he wants.