i have a long distance gf who i am deeply in love with and have been dating her for 4 yrs, she is my all i cant think of anyone else, however, she has admitted she is not in love with me, and infact never has been in love, i want to marry her which she knows and be with her forthe rest of my life, i try to treat her the best, is my love enough for both of us, and could she grow to love me
2006-11-09 23:03:30 · 31 answers · asked by johnny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't force these things, she either loves you or she doesn't. Sounds like she doesn't. Also possibly because your relationship is long distance you romanticise about it too much. If you lived together day in, day out, the rose-tinted spectacles may have come off long ago. You sound like a lovely guy, you deserve better. Let it go and find someone who will be there for you and love you the way you deserve to be loved.
2006-11-10 10:41:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a true romantic at heart.
A relationship is composed of 2 people. She is not in love with you and has been honest about that. Additionally, a long distance relationship plays upon your emotions when the one you love isn't there and you begin to fantazise about what could be - rather than what is in reality.
If you've been together for 4 years and her love has not grown, then you need to ask yourself how much more time you want to spend pining away for someone who can't give you what you really want .
2006-11-09 23:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry but she has to love you back, You must really love this girl and would obviously do anything to keep her but thing of it in the long run could you really be with someone who doesnt love you like you love her.
I'd finish the relationship as it will only get worse the longer it carries on. Go out wiv friends try and take your mind off her it wont be easy but after time it will become easier.
You deserve to be loved back, you deserve better.
Good Luck
2006-11-09 23:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That must be terrible for you to hear and I'm sorry. I think the honest truth is that however much you love her, if she doesn't love you then a marriage would not work. I think maybe you should seriously consider ending your relationship, I know its difficult, because I have had to end a relationship with a guy who I loved, but he didn't feel the same way, but trust me however broken hearted you feel to start with it really does get easier. I hope this helps, and that you can find someone to love you as much as you love them because you deserve it.
2006-11-09 23:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by Leggy_Babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be heart broken. However, do not linger around waiting for the impossible to happen. You cant make her be with you on the assumption she'll grow to love you. Wouldnt you feel alot better if you spent the rest of your life with someone who loves you back? I think the phrase 'It is better to have loved and lost, then to never have loved at all' applies here
2006-11-09 23:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by Need_to_know 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been 4 years and love hasn't grown yet! Come on she said she isn't in love with you. You don't want to keep pursuing a long term relationship with a woman that doesn't love you. Move on Miss Right is out there somewhere for you.
2006-11-09 23:06:49 · answer #6 · answered by up2sumpthun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your love is not enough for both of you and no she will not learn to love you. You've been together 4 years and she's not in love with you??? Sounds like she's using you. You deserve to have someone feel about you, the way you feel about them. I would break up with her an dmove on. It's hard but better than happening down the road.
2006-11-09 23:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by Mica 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the thing is, about long distance relationships, you have to see each other. She can't know she loves you until she's able to look in your eyes, and feel your skin against hers. I had a long distance relationship, I lived in america, and after 2 years of dating at#nd 3 trips to UK.. I live her with him.
Good luck <3
2006-11-09 23:23:18 · answer #8 · answered by October Sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry babes but no - after four years if she doesnt love you - shes not going to - shes obviously just using you.
You sound like a lovely guy and any girl would be lucky to have you - you deserve better in life so my advice is to forget about this one and find one that will love you in return xx
2006-11-09 23:15:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
loving someone and being inlove r 2 diff things, she may want to spend forever with u but just as boyf and girlf sand not a married couple. chin up, she must feel summit for u or else u still wudnt b togrether after 4 yrs x hope it works out for u
2006-11-09 23:12:24 · answer #10 · answered by kitten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋