ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he has no interest for sex. 2 weeks ago we were about to have sex and he was not turned on and he said sorry you still love me and I said of course I do but I was disappointed he doesnt give it to me often. we never have privacy because he lives with roomates. whenever I see him we always sit in th car ar sit in the house with his roomates they are always around and I get so pissed. He never turned on and doenst want sex anymore . I dont know hat happen. any comment? what should I do?
2006-11-09 22:57:32 · 16 answers · asked by merry c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no intimacy for 3 months . i dont know what going on
2006-11-09 22:59:22 · update #1
he not gay he's all the way straight
2006-11-09 23:00:57 · update #2
Try me. And leave your boyfriend for his roomates.
2006-11-09 22:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by mestredostomates1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him why?
It could be the roomates, stage fright
Um have you tried setting the atmosphere, and have you tried to throw some crazy stuff out there like
Is it because if we do we're going to hell?
are you embarrassed, shy.
Are you gay? Are you sure your not gay.,
Have you been molested in the past?
what can i do to make you tell me why?
Sexual disfunction can be a medical issue, so if its a physical thing, like tiredness, drugs, alchohol ect..
Try some Viagra if he's game.sex toys , porn.gay porn.
and if he doesn't know why ask him if he'd consider counseling.
Throw crazy things out there and you might hit the jackpot.
Good luck.
Meg
2006-11-09 23:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is just wanting a place where you two can be alone can you get a motel for the nite and make it cozy candle light stuff like that . maybe take him to a park sit down and have this heart to heart talk with him let him know what your feeling tell him this is way to long to be with out sex . but Ive learned that there is more to life than just sex . Ive been with my husband for more than 20 years and I'm lucky if we make love twice a month and trust me I know how you feel because I've been there so you need to let him know how you feel and you need to know what he's feeling good luck
2006-11-09 23:15:04 · answer #3 · answered by Libra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok he has issues, they could be physical or mental. Which ever, he needs to figure out or get help. Do you want a relationship with a man that doesn't desire sex at all? That doesn't get turned on and excited by you? You two need to have a talk and he either needs to get fixed, get help or admit he is gay.
2006-11-09 23:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by up2sumpthun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something very abnormal here. The question is he not turned on, or just unable to get an erection? (there is a difference) I would talk to him about it, but three 1/2 years without sex is ridiculous.
my other question would be for you? why are you still with him after that time without satisfaction? why are you clinging to a guy that is not turned on by you?
2006-11-09 23:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but he might be gay and just afraid to admit it. If intimacy is important to you tell him so as you are breaking up with him. From your comment that he said "sorry you still love me", it sounds like he has already broken up with you. He needs to come clean with you. And you need to find a man who can love you.
2006-11-09 23:07:08 · answer #6 · answered by lady01love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone who don't want to have sex with u before asking u to marry him,that's a truth love. a truth sens of love,so if u're confused about this kind of behaviors , just try to talk with him closer and the surprise Will be marvelous. don't be stupid, u have to think good for the future because there's the children who want to see father and mum together......................may God help u to understand this with my small English
2006-11-09 23:37:04 · answer #7 · answered by shym j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats crappy. is he gay?
try wearing lingerie in front of him. if he doesnt grab you then..i dont know. he might have erectile dysfunction. he just doesnt want to tell you. but it seems to me like this guy loves you. and i bet its an erection problem or something hes hiding thats all about his sexual prowess.
2006-11-09 23:01:39 · answer #8 · answered by happybeanstalk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes sounds gay. seems he is into his roommates. Ask them they should know. Don't wast you time if he doesn't want you.
2006-11-09 23:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by timeoutll 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bottom line is, if a guy doesnt want to have sex with you - he is getting it somewhere else!
2006-11-09 23:01:29 · answer #10 · answered by masteroflisa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋