Just broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years and im lonely, but I met this other guy quite recently... do you think rebound is the way to go? Coz I dint know if i like him or not. I know your all gonna say no you'll just get hurt.. but I feel it sometimes helps to move on? And he fully knows he the rebound guys. :-)
2006-11-09 22:51:34 · 17 answers · asked by chickyboo222 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are sure that you are over with your ex, and as long as you make it clear to this new guy that you just got out of a relationship, then I believe that it is OK.
I believe that the best way of taking your mind off something, and stop dwelling on it, is having something else on mind (this is very true to me).
You just need to be honest with yourself, and with the new guy about the whole relationship.
Enjoy your life :)
2006-11-09 22:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You maybe lonely right now its a given, but going on the rebound will only cause more problems. I dont know if your looking to have a long lasting relationship with the other guy or if you just want him around for that security blanket? what ever the case may be the ex is still in the picture or the feelings for the ex is still there rather and it will put a lot of stress on the new guy. Thats why its best to be alone until those feelings of the ex are in the past, Im not saying you cant be friends with this new guy and hang out with him that may help with the being lonely part but i would hold off on the courtship until you have healed from your last relationship.
2006-11-10 07:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by tess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be as clear-headed as you can.
But go out with him.
Conventional advice is that you not. And for very good reason.
Taking time out for yourself, is sound advice, if you can take it.
But if he fits what you are looking for (current state aside), then it could help ease the ache. He really needs to be the sort who is supportive and emotionally together. From my past experience, (being a guy), it has helped ease the transition for me, when I was on the rebound. But girls generally are naturally supportive and practical when it comes to emotional matters.
I think the rebound effect is there in us for a reason. It keeps us healthy and from getting hurt too badly.
Be as open as you can be, about what you're going through, with him. Deal with any issues that come about between yourselves in the new relationship very quickly. Make sure he doesn't get hurt either. In some ways he'll have to take the active role, considering your position, therefore needs to be trustworthy.
You will have stronger emotional needs and esp for reassurance, than usual. So take it slow - slower than usual.
Make sure that if you do go into this relationship .. that you are fairly serious about it. Posting here is an indication that you are.
But if something tells you this could be like jumping from the frying pan and into the fire .. then nip it in the bud.
Either way, hope it goes well with you.
2006-11-11 12:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by prav k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not into the whole rebound thing........unless you just need to get over the person for good. It is only human and normal for a person to be lonely.............no one wants to be lonely. I say just stay single for a while and let life go on. After 3 years of being with someone it is always good to just lay back and have time for yourself ..........and that is when you will find someone....when your not expecting it. Hope this helped a little
2006-11-10 06:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by tmcfmj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not the way to go, you need to give yourself sometime to heal. Now is a good time to play the field and get out there.
By doing this, two people are going to get hurt at the end.
2006-11-10 06:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do agree with one of the suggestion. You need to take a break. Try to be alone for a range of time... Give time to yourself. Try to chck back what have you done it your past relationship. Try to discover the best and also the bad things about yourself because it will be a valuable tool when you're ready to start new relationship...
2006-11-10 07:09:00 · answer #6 · answered by yusdz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, sometimes it does work and the only way to find out is to date this guy, you never know he may treat you a damn site better than your ex and turn out to be the love of your life, you wont know till you try and if not than at least you have had some fun rather than being at home feeling sorry for your self...good luck hope things work out for you
2006-11-10 07:09:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont see why not, my last rebound girl lasted 7 years, you never know.
2006-11-10 06:55:41 · answer #8 · answered by Gary B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with the rebound guy. He doesn't seem to mind.
2006-11-10 06:55:56 · answer #9 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen - I may be single later tonight. If you fancy hooking up for a date just let me know ;-)
2006-11-10 07:11:48 · answer #10 · answered by charlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋