After getting back together and realising some problems were coming back up we've decided not to have sex for a month.
That was a week ago.
Tonight we're meeting for a drink in a bar but I know now I want to try and shag her. Probably in the car.
Is this a bad idea? What will she think? Should I bring something to tie her up with just in case? (she likes that)
Help!
2006-11-09 22:49:02 · 26 answers · asked by charlie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The sex ban was my idea - D'oh!
2006-11-09 23:00:04 · update #1
Schoolboy error. Tell her you can't wait and were foolish to think you could. But as your man said, it's only another 3 weeks. You could knock one out before you meet her, release some of that tension.
If you do tie her up make sure she knows about it first.
2006-11-09 23:17:40 · answer #1 · answered by ralph d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The moment conditions are placed on sex in the context of a relationship then the realtionship stops being about anything BUT the sex. Either about trying to convince the other person that it is right, or trying to find a way around the warning and prohibitons of other people around you. Best thing to do is let things happne on their own. Somehow I doubt she'll want to wait the month either and she'll make a move herself. Just don't let her know you had any idea that she would not want to wait either...
2006-11-09 22:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by kveldulfgondlir 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one month sex ban? you said "we decided" you must mean she decided. why not raise her stakes and have a no talking ,kissing or cuddling ban as well. she is using sex as a weapon. either you have done something to her or she doesnt like sex with you. she will always have the power to do this if you agree to this. getting back together never really works, the reason you split up in the first place will still be at the back of your minds.
break up now spend a while getting over her or prepare for future sex bans ,and reasons why we broke up in the first place conversations .
2006-11-09 23:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by STEVEN E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will survive a month without sex. If the same problems you two had the 1st time you dated are coming back, then having sex will just complicate matters. Don't rape her, that could get you jail time. If you can't handle celibacy try making sure you two only see each other in public places to reduce the temptation. Just respect her wishes to slow things down.
2006-11-09 22:59:19 · answer #4 · answered by lady01love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why won't she enable intercourse with different contraceptives alongside with a condom or a spermicidal sponge? besides, this is extremely clever of her to decide to take very proactive steps to circumvent a being pregnant she does not desire. so you might get a vasectomy is a lot much less invasive or volatile of a surgical treatment than that's for her to get her tubes tied. that's probably the main important reason she's insisting you get it carried out; yours would be out-affected person with a interior reach anesthetic and a sprint discomfort for a pair days. you quite ought to talk on your wellbeing practitioner approximately vasectomy and which techniques are the main reversible sooner or later. carry your lady buddy with you and get each and all of the recommendations you are able to so which you the two comprehend the pluses and minuses of each and every form of technique. i in my opinion doubt she'd be cheating on you by ability of making up an excuse like this. If she grew to become into cheating she does not desire you to do something that's going to make her greater probably to stay with you long-term. I hesitate to point breaking apart because of the fact i think in couples engaged on their problems and coming to a compromise. even though, when you consider which you assert you're able to truly like the possibility to father a toddler, you should contemplate whether that's a relationship you quite decide to stay in when you consider that she is so adamantly against being a mom. in case you 2 have been to area techniques you're able to desire to locate a girl buddy who could decide to have infants some day, and he or she would be able to locate a boyfriend who shares her thoughts of in no way having infants. truthfully attempt to come back to a compromise first, nevertheless. consistent with hazard some couples counseling could be so as besides to the debate with the wellbeing practitioner.
2016-10-21 14:16:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would a mature couple consider refraining from sex for a month in order to fix problems. This would only add to the problems as you are now realising. Just have sex and enjoy yourselves and quit complaining. Sheesh.
2006-11-09 23:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by friendly face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not take something to tie her up with. If she doesnt want to have sex with you for a month then respect that and wait.
2006-11-09 22:51:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she gets so little from sex that she can plan it like a hair dressing appointment, it is time to move on.
2006-11-09 23:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by Clive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch "something about mary"... dont go out for a drink her with a 'loaded' gun.. but use a picture of her, other wise thats cheating!
2006-11-09 23:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by chickyboo222 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she agrees as well you might as well end ot on neutral grounds. Remember it might be a test by her though to see if you can stick it out.
2006-11-09 22:53:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋