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Question

I am in love with a girl who is in relation with me. I mean no one of the family members will have any problem if we would marry. Her sister is my brothers wife and my brother and her wife knows everything and in my favor. My mom also likes her too much and her brother is also my friend. I am 21 and she is 17. We both live in the same city. Now I don’t know how to tell her that I love her. I have her phone number and address as well. Her sister invited me many times to her home but I feel shy going there. But I love her too much. What should I do? Should I go for this relation slowly and slowly? I mean being friend and then propose or should I tell her straightaway that I love you. She knows me. Girls put your self to the place of her and answer me because I am serious about this relation and I want to be with her for the whole life. I mean I want to marry her. Thank you!!!!

Answer 1

Go for this relation slowly. The girl is young and she may scare out if she sees you at her doorstep with a ring saying "Will you marry me?". So, easy and nice.

Answer 2

Wow, that's so sweet. But I ask you, do you HAVE to do it NOW? Is it not possible to hold off for a while until she's a little older? You're older and possibly more mature, so you would be handle a lifelong commitment. She, bceause of her age, may not. Seriously, I'm 17 too and the thought of spending the rest of my life with someone seems really farfetched. Be careful.

If you really do want to do it, try casually asking the question. Like, "what would you do if I asked you to marry me?" Judge her reaction. If she's delighted, then you know you're answer would most likely be "yes". But if she's shocked and says, "I don't know..." Then the chances are, it's too early and you should wait.

I think, age limits work here. Wait until she's a particuar age, like 18, before seriously asking her. When she's 18, she can, by law, be with anyone she wants, without any unwanted objections, she has more avaliable to her at that age. I would wait until she's "legally free" before making any life-changing desisons. My boyfriend has this rule with me...he wouldn't ingadge in any sexual actions until I turned 18 and was by law, an adult. It shitted me, but I think it was a wise thing to do. I think he may have also done it for my parents. A respect for me. So he wouldn't get into trouble for screwing a kid. You should do a similar thing with your marriage problem.

Of course, my boyfirend and I ended out eight month relationship a few days ago, so it neer ended up happening. Shame...*sigh*

Answer 3

You are only 21 and she is 17. Even is everyone of your combined families think it is great for you to be friends they may not be so happy for you to marry at this time. She is still in high school and I hope you are still in college. You both need time to finish your educations. That means marriage is at least 5 or 6 years down the road. What that means is you have plenty of time to say I love you and will you marry me. Start with friendship and go to dating and see what happens. She knows you but she may not have thought of you romantically. Or maybe she has. You have to take things one step at a time. Go slow and let her finish growing up and allow yourself to finish growing up too.

Answer 4

well dear if you are really serious about this then i would advice you to step into this relationship slowly and smoothly. this are my some advice.
1) try to be frank with her and share some comic memories of yours with her.dnt b too serious as then even she will feel bit awkward with you.
2)dont hesitate to what to talk and what not to, just start a common discussion on any topic with her.
3)ask her sister about her likings and dislikings .
4)then try to move out somewhere and increase your meetings with her.
5)also start calling her up and take her advise on small things like "i am confused to where to go,pls help me out" nythng or dat sort.

i know your asking to tell now or later and i am answering so long. this means i am saying that dnt say straightly now. try to convince her by doing all this things. and whn u think that its time to ask thn go for it and ask her that " will you be mine for ever" ya but dont take lot of time to do all this things. it should be done in 1 and half month. alllll the bestt !! m kipin my fingers cross and now lets hope for the best.
if you get succeeded in it then pls do inform me. c ya

Answer 5

hi
I am glad to knw that u have all the support from ur family.I feel it's better u don't straight go and tell her that u lov her.Be frnds wit her and giv her time to understand u,that doesn't mean buying her gifts and making her happy.......but be ur real self.Be kind and compasionate and be ready to giv up ur bad qualities in u(if u have)for her.I can see how passionate u r abt her ............since her sister invities u to her house,go and be ur self and be sweet to her.1st thing before asking her out,find out whether she likes a guy or whether she is in an relation with any guy.I'm sure things will work out well.Mail me if u want more help.

lov,
varsha

Answer 6

Hey I am Jennifer, I see what your saying in your question....If u love her u lover her and u need to tell her. I mean u never no she might even say ( I LOVE YOU TO) u never ever no unless u give it a try.Make great dessions. Go to her house and hang out with her show her that u care, and call her ever night just to check up on her. That makes her know that you are relationship type,I don't know really but anyways i tryed to give u the best answer i could I'm sry but i have to go, I wish the best for u and her.

Answer 7

if she has the same feelings as you then you should try but don't move too fast remember she is young but if she doesn't have the same feelings ask youre brother to get his wife to see if she likes you or not, but i think she will kind of tell and i hope you turn out happy together

Answer 8

Yes you might have to go slowly slowly in you wedding plans given that you're too shy to go to her house. Try talking to her first, don't get ahead of yourself - you might find you don't want to marry her afterall once you actally have a conversation with her.

Don't confuse infatuation with love.

Answer 9

Just take it slowly. I would certainly not avoid when she is around. That will give you time to get to know her. If it was meant to be, it will be. Okay? Good luck.

Answer 10

go for it but begin slowly tell her that you really like her... and go from there whe you know how she feels about you and your getting the vibe that shes serious about you too then tell her you love her :) good luck :D