what should i do?

Question

I like to be free in a relationship, to want to be with someone. not need to be. passion and love are important to me too. my bf is kinda possessive, i know he's gonna be upset today because i didn't see him last night, if i go to see my friends he wants to know if they are guys or girls, and he gets funny if it is a guy. he often thinks i've been with another guy. he always wants to be able to reach me by phone, to know where i am. he says he's gonna call the police if i dont answer and he doesn't care if they think he's nuts, whatever it takes to reach me and to know that i'm ok. he withdraws affection if i dont see him. i am just finding it all a bit much. maybe a little suffocating.

if i try to tell him he cuts me off. if i say that i love him but some things are too much he's like 'fine!' and then he hangs up. he withdraws love and affection whenever i try to make it nicer.

Answer 1

just sit down with him and discuss what youre feeling, something must not be right if he can not trust you that much

Answer 2

he sounds controlling... get rid of him.. or tell him that u have a life and are not hs slave.. if he loves u h will need to compromie thats what a relationship is.. u both sacrifice and comprise your lifes to be with each other and ur normal social life..

And as for going through ur things thats invasion of privacy!!

Answer 3

I READ YOUR PROFILE. MOST OF YOUR QUESTIONS ARE GEARED TO THIS ABUSIVE BOYFRIEND. YOU KNOW THE ANSWER TO THE QUESTIONS, YET YOU STILL ASK. YOU SEEM TO GET GOOD ADVISE, BUT YOU DO NOT FOLLOW THROUGH. YOU JUST ASK ANOTHER QUESTION ALONG THE SAME LINES. ARE YOU WAITING FOR AN ANSWER THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO HEAR, OR WANT TO HEAR?

Answer 4

well you both have to meet half way, if h wont, or you wont thn there is no point in carrying on with this relationship

Answer 5

dump him now!