I have known this guy for about three years and we have always had something, but our timing has just been off. We both known the feelings exsists and even when we have been in relationships with other people we have talked about how we both need to know how we feel. He has been with this girl for about a year now and they have best friends since high school, but while he has been with her he still tells me that he wonders about me and even thought Im with someone I wonder about him. I think he got the message from me that there was no chance, today he became engaged. Should I take our off timing as a sign that it just wasn't meant to be, or should I ask him how he feels. If he tells me he is in love with her and doesnt feel that way for me I Would leave it at that and be perfectly content, but its the not knowing that scares me. I Am worried that there will always be this thing between us, that is so unresolved.
2006-11-09 21:32:23 · 8 answers · asked by thereis 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I, too, am in a similar situation. I know what it is like constantly THINKING about him, it, the situation. I have not gotten any closure yet either. My advice to you is to contact him. Ask to meet up for lunch or something. Discuss your feelings. Life is too short to be spent wondering. He's not married yet. You never know. You guys could be 'the One'(s) for eachother. Evaluate your feelings for your boyfriend now. Make a pro/con list. GOOD LUCK and let us know what happens!
2006-11-10 00:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey you!To be quite honest,I dont know what ya gona do.Im in a similar situation.Ex whom i still see now and then and we both know that the connection always will remain strong between the two of us.It seems now that we are both afraid to tell each other how we really feel and because of this,he is now officially engaged.And to top it off,he comes to me for advice on whether to propose to his witch or not!How dare he,knowing that he was and will always be my first love and the ever lasting feelings that come with that.For me,i think im past that and told myself that it just wasnt meant to be me and him.It hurts cause as you said 'you neva know' but you need to resolve the situation.You need to close that chapter in your life.
2006-11-10 06:59:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you got 3 years and he has been with her since high school should tell you there that you cant win. Just because he wonders doesnt sound like he wants to marry you. I'm sorry but women need to quit looking so deep into everything.. its words
2006-11-11 03:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by Wretched 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop it. There's three billion men you have 'unresolved' feelings for.
If you were single and he didn't go there, it must not've been that important. Get on with your life. If he turns up later, great, buit don't wait around for it.
2006-11-10 05:42:17 · answer #4 · answered by Roadpizza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if he has feelings for you, he wouldn't have asked the other woman to marry him. But it may help you move on better if you hear it from him. He may have doubts about her, but remember he may not. However, I would ask him just so that I wouldn't spend my life wondering. Good Luck!
2006-11-10 21:56:44 · answer #5 · answered by MISS 84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To avoid your life playing out as "My Best Friend's Wedding", you should find some time with him alone and talk about your concern. Way before the wedding. If he is really worth it to you, you will find the courage. If he really loves his fiancee and wants to marry her, back off; time will make it better. If he admits to undying love of you, he must break it off gently with his fiancee. If he says loves you and won't break up with her, he is lying and just trying to sleep with both of you.
2006-11-10 10:02:44 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberly H 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just leave it as it is. Don't spoil the other gal's life.
2006-11-10 19:05:46 · answer #7 · answered by Melody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just jealousy.
2006-11-10 06:29:36 · answer #8 · answered by Vas 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋