my dad touches me?

Question

my dad has been touching me since i was 13. im 19 now n stil lives at home. i started locking my door n he came in threw the window so ive locked that as well. i came home from work to find my lock gone so ive been staying at my bf's place. he doesnt know. no one does.

i dont have any younger siblings. my mum works full time so shes neva home n when she is her n dad get into a fite n start hitting each other.

Answer 1

You need to call the police, before he hurts someone else or their child like he did you!
-NmD!

Answer 2

ok, well this is a good start , that you are letting people know. What he is doing is WRONG, and it's not your fault!!!!!!!!!!!! but he needs to be stopped. Do not go home anymore... if you don't have to.

Do you have younger sisters or siblings?

You need to find the courage to let the authorities know and you need to get some counselling. This type of thing can lead to many forms of trauma, addiction suicide etc..and Im glad to see that you care about yourself becasue you mentioned it here.

Please email me, I have experience with this issue and will help in any way I can, if you want.

I hope you will contact me, I'd like to help. Share guidance, resources and be a friend. The people are right. YOU MUST DO SOMETHING, or else he could end up hurting someone else or come after you in badder way.

Take care and may the angels be by your side

Answer 3

So sorry, I had a similar situation with an uncle, I did tell my Aunt and I thought she would hate me, but as it turns out she still loves me and talks to me. Its a little hard to know what to do if your in this situation, but honestly, If you tell your mom, She will get over him! and you and her can live in a much better environment. I do agree with talking to the Police, even if you dont prosecute it should still be on record in the event he trys this with someone else, chances are if he is doing this with you he probably is with someone else too. Suppose you don't tell anyone and he is doing this to like a 4 or 5 year old, and its something you may be able to stop. You have to take a stand you are an adult, And your mom doesn't need that type of abuse either. She will thank you for it later. Go gettem!

Answer 4

hi im sorry for what has been happening to you.
i was abused by a memeber of my family too so i know what your going through.

im glad to hear you got yourself out of there your a smart girl.

now you need to tell your boyfriend what is happening then you need to tell your mum. she will probably be in total shock at first but im sure she will support you as will your boyfriend. after that you need to go to the police.
i know this will be really hard for you as despite everything he is your father but what he is doing is wrong and he has to stop now!!!
dont feel guilty in anyway about what he has done because its not your fault your father needs help and quick because if he is desperate enough to climb through your window to get to you who knows what he will do next.
i know its an awful thought but he may try and rape you next time, and if not you then someone else i he hasnt already.

i no this is so hard for you but you have to protect yourself and others from your father.

youve taken the first step by posting this question so be strong do what you have to do.

dont let him ruin your life anymore. be a survivor not a victim.

you are not alone in this.

wish you all the luck in the world.

Answer 5

I know that is your father, but you need to contact the authorities because if he stops doing it to you, do you want him doing it to someone else? You may feel guilty, but he is the one in the wrong and you havent done anything to deserve that. you need to teach him a lesson, he knows what he is doing, he knows it is sick and he knows it is wrong. I know you are in between a rough and a hard spot, but think of how many other girls you can save the torture. Think really hard about it, or even tell him if he doesnt stop you are going to make sure it ends, but by doing that he may move onto someone else and Im sure you dont want him doing that to another innocent girl, what if the next time he did it it was a child, that could rip someones whole life apart, im sure it already has yours.

Answer 6

It's very shame matter. I just don't believe that. U tell ur Mom or sister (or any person u believe) about ur Dad's behaviour. May be they help u or go to the nearest police station. How many days u will stay ur bf's place. It's not the solution. Be carefull ur Dad.

Answer 7

Tell your boyfriend and let him take you to the police station.
This is not normal and it is not right. I don't know if you love your dad or not but the man needs to be in jail.
Do you have other siblings because if you do, they could be in danger too.
Honey, Go to the police station.
It is not your fault.
Where is your mom?

Answer 8

God, im sorry to hear that. im sure you know about sexual abuse before. My opinion? Go to the police. Or just the women helpline. It doesnt matter whether he is your dad, your uncle, your brother, your friend or even your God. What he do is wrong, be brave and end it. You will be fine, trust me.
Wish you all the best sweet
Cheers

Answer 9

I know it sounds like a broken record... it is time to talk or walk. Tell your mom or another family member or go to the police. I think it is time for you to get financially able to get your own place. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 10

My God girl, you need to report this. Your father is a pervert !!!!! Do you want him to go around messing with other girls? Call the police immediately and then you find yourself some professional help to get through these issues.

Answer 11

go to the local police department and ask them what you can do. They can lead you in the right direction. Stop him before he touches other people.

Please seek professional help. You may not realize it but you may have some things you need to sort out.

peace to you!