how do I get and attact men?

Answer 1

Our mission: To find out exactly what men are looking for in a good girlfriend. Impossible? Not exactly. 10 traits every man is looking for in a serious girlfriend:

1. She has a life of her own — and it's pretty good to boot. Ladies, this means that you take care of yourself, pay attention to your personal style and find time to hang with your fabulous friends and family. You seek adventure by traveling. And you take in life's pleasures — from indulging in dessert to walking through the park on a sunny day. "You don't expect your boyfriend to be your entire existence," In other words, you're not waiting for some man to show up, so you can get your "real life" started.

2. She never makes the first move - This issue has been debated to death, and there is no true consensus. But people strongly believes women should never, ever pursue a man. Instead, she suggests waiting for the man to initiate and plan dates. Reasoning: If the woman is always the one calling, she will never know if he is really interested in her or if it's just convenient for him. She may find herself questioning the relationship every step of the way. Men simply aren't programmed to think like that and therefore are better suited to the chase.

3. She is sexy without being trampy - This means something different at the beginning of the relationship than it does down the road. In the beginning of courtship, a woman should refrain from making any comments that are overtly sexual. She also flirts by using nonsexual touch like placing her hand on his forearm or even the knee but only briefly. When the relationship gets more serious, and presumably more intimate, sexual touch and public displays of affection are more appropriate. At this point, it's okay to play footsie under the table.

4. She waits to have sex - Yes, the sexual revolution arrived long ago and few people expect a "pure white bride" nowadays. But sex is still a pretty big step for couples. Many women don't even realize just how much sex changes the dynamics of a relationship. When women have sex, they release a hormone called oxytocin (also referred to as "the cuddle hormone"), which some scientific researchers believe makes women feel extra warm and fuzzy for their sex partners and if women do the deed too soon, they might make too much of a relationship that barely ever existed outside of the bedroom. When you inflate the significance of a relationship, the man often bolts. Advice is to wait at least two to three months (actually to know the real intentions and the type of guy you are dating it takes at least a year to know) into the relationship before having sex with your new man.

5. She does little things to show she cares - The bottom line is that you should want to do the little things that let him know you care and you are paying attention to his individual needs. And he should do the same for you.

6. She should be her boyfriend's best wingman — err, wing woman. Help him to look good in front of the boss, friends and family. Laugh at his jokes and help him shine when it is important, you can tick him off later for his misplaced comment or joke when you are alone. Of course, again, he should do the same for you.

7. She never turns on the pressure - This one is important. Men have a distinct aversion to any sort of pressure. Therefore, women should avoid calling and/or emailing him many times during the day or dropping hints about the future. In fact, keep the dreaded M-word (marriage) out of your vocabulary all together. "Men don't want to constantly take the pulse of a relationship, They would rather just enjoy it."

8. She does not take any crap — from anyone. A good woman never accepts bad behavior. Guys respect women with whom they can't get away with anything. If he knows there's a penalty — like getting thrown to the curb — for a serious violation like cheating, he'll respect you more, and he will be far less likely to do it. You should also never even bother to date married men, those who already have girlfriends or anyone who verbally or physically threatens or abuses you. Period.

9. A good woman always chooses a good man. That means that you should look for someone who is honest and dependable. He has to treat you right. If he says he is going to be somewhere, he is there. Chivalry is not dead, by the way. "Good manners are a deeper window into what kind of man he truly is," You should also have compatible views on money (which is the number one thing couples fight about). Even though they say opposites attract, savers should think twice before shacking up with wild spenders.

10. She knows that love is the biggest part of the mating equation - Just how does a good woman know that she has found that crazy-for-you, toe-curling relationship? Some women have an "a-ha" moment, while love simply sneaks up on the rest. "I believe the feeling includes a unique sense of comfort and acceptance and the feeling that someone else's happiness is as important to you as your own, "A certain amount of toe curling is key as well."

Good Luck>r

Answer 2

There is no 'single-solution' to this problem. In general, it is more about NOT doing some things that will put people off, and just being yourself.

A few things to avoid:

1) Appearing needy (e.g. your question, sorry :-) )
- Don't talk about being single, or that you really want a man
- Don't talk about wanting to settle down and marry (assuming you do, wait until you've been with someone for a while!)

2) Trying too hard
- Don't try and be overly flitrtatious (but DO spend time on your appearance, something you are comfortable with, but make an effort)
- Don't chase men, act so that they chase you (this is not easy...)
- Don't pretend to be somebody you are not (this comes across as very unattractive)

3) Don't assume if someone wants to sleep with you, that they want to go out with you...

To sum up, relax, be yourself, and don't try too hard. Good luck!

Answer 3

Because any girl with a hole and a heartbeat would attract a pervy old man. Hence hes a pervy old man. Younger, attractive guys also generally don't go for girls as often for a few reasons. 1. they have too much pride to be rejected 2. they have young, attractive girls in their lives already through things like school 3. some are inexperienced and aren't sure how to go about showing that they are attracted to you 4. younger, attractive guys may see a relationship in a girl they hit on (they look for things they have in common with a girl), older guys generally do it for sex (they would probably have more in common with an older girl)...that makes younger guys more choosy, and older guys more desperate

Answer 4

It depends what you are after. IF it is just one night stands,,, head to a club/bar - the rest as they say is history hehe

If you are after a relationship try someplace where you are familiar slightly with that person? Someone from work but a different department maybe? (so if things go wrong it wont be akward)

Go find a guy who you think is hot and ask for his number.

Find someone who helps you in the street when you "fall over" like soemthing from the movies.

Answer 5

Well, I ask the same question also but for girls lol..... I guess you should have something interesting like a sport skill or a good job.... something to make a guy interest in you...........
If I'm a cute guy and ur okay or so so and your a doctor or say know how to fix cars lol.... I might actually get with you......

Answer 6

When you see one you like, greet them with a big, genuine smile and say "HI _____!" act genuinely happy to see them.

Be fun, be confident, be friendly.

As far as hanging onto one, heck, thats anyone's guess. I've seen guys live their entire life with abusive, lazy women, or dump a financially secure healthy one in a week. I think the secret is in making them feel needed in the long run.

Answer 7

1. Figure out what you need to do to raise your confidence level.
2. Go out and do fun things and smile while you're doing them. Guys will notice that.
3. Make yourself look the best you can be (and maybe ask guy friends what would make you look better, and do that)

Answer 8

Cleevage

Answer 9

First you must be attractve yourself. Willing to have fun and enjoy conversation. Smile alot and display your personalities and best quality. Be a colorful flowers and bees will come.

Answer 10

Well i heard this on the radio.

When your friend invites you to a workdo, say yes and dont act like your there to find someone, act like your there because you were invited to be there.

have a party and get your friends to invite there friend's.. and just have a social gathering or something.

Just try your best and be friendly... but not too friendly.

I dunno im not an expert but i hope this help's.