Do you have problems with your 5 y/old like hitting you back or telling you no . Maybe cussing you .Or not doing what u told them to do .What about them telling u they aren't going to school?
What do u do to correct those problems
2006-11-09 20:51:34 · 16 answers · asked by Mommy to be!!! 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
be firmer.. tell them you mean business.. and stick to what ever punishment it is .... give a warning explaining what they are doing wrong and why they should do it .. don't laugh or smile ... look straight into there eyes.. then if they do it again .. tell them firmly- I asked you not to do that now you have to --punishment (take away a toy, sit out of the group, time out, in your room) then when they have calmed down bring them back and ask them to apologize... then get back to what you were doing...
good luck
2006-11-09 20:58:51 · answer #1 · answered by mum 2 Cameron and Ewan 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Cussing, Hitting, telling me NO!
My daughters ages 3,7, and 10 have never had a problem cussing, they all know the bad words, and know not to say them.
Hitting has not really been a problem either, maybe once or twice with each.
Telling us NO! also maybe once or twice.
The main reason my girls don't have these consistent problems is because when they do, their bottoms glow in the dark for a while. Yes A good old fashioned, pants downer spanking right out of the 50s works wonders with bad behavior.
2006-11-09 22:20:00 · answer #2 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have not set things up in a way that just kind of lets your child know you are the "leader".
You need to set up some firm rules, "I don't yell at you, and you are not to yell at me." and "We aren't having bad words used in this house. It doesn't sound nice, and it doesn't make a house a nice, peaceful, place to leave." and "You can stay home from school on Saturday and Sunday, but you cannot stay home today because today is a school day."
On some of the not doing what you tell him, that depends on whether you're telling him to do something that's more than he can handle (like clean his whole room in a half hour) or whether you're telling him not to touch the casserole you made to bring to dinner somewhere (in which case, you tell him; and if you see him headed for it, you calmly go over and remove his hand and lift him down from whatever chair he's on; and then tell him," if you can't stay away from the dish you will need to go in your room.")
You have to establish that your home will be peaceful and people will treat one another with respect, and then you just kind of "announce" to him what "we do" and what "we aren't going to do". Use an all-business voice with a tone of authority.
You also, though, need to find time when you are announcing rules and you're just having a good time talking with him and enjoying him. He'll start to see you as a nice person to be with, who happens to set some reasonable rules.
If he gets too ridiculous just calmly lead him to his bedroom and tell him to stay there until you tell him he can come out. Announce that if he's going to forget the rules about having a nice, respectful, peaceful, house he can't be out in the main part of the house until he remembers the rules.
I didn't have anything like you're describing because right from the beginning of bringing my babies home I vowed there would be a respectful, kind, friendly, environment with a few basic rules about not talking disrespectfully to me or others in the family, not hitting, and not breaking stuff. If you decide that you will have a peaceful and respectful environment in your home (that doesn't mean kids can't play and have fun or even get crazy once in a while) it will give you some guidance about what the few rules ought to be. Its very possible to have well behaved children without yelling, hitting, or otherwise having power struggles with them. I think you've let things go a little too free and out of control, and now it seems like you have power struggles and yelling fests - and you have to put the brakes on it all and start clean.
2006-11-09 21:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter will be 5 in January and Oh Boy do we clash, starts at breakfast and it doesn't stop till bed.
But, when dad speaks, what a different story!
I don't let it get to me, and I do believe I am winning the war, each time I get "no" or "i don't want to" I say OK then!
You should see her face!
And within a few minutes she is attempting something I have asked of her, but doing it in her own way! So funny!
I really don't like the idea of hitting kids I don't see the point really, I still remember getting hit as a kid, I'm 29.
I do blame myself for this behaviour, because I also have a 4 month old baby who lives on me! Leaving me little time for her.
Also just lately I have started having "our" time we do something she wants to do, and wow what a difference it is making.
Give and take I think, I'm not looking at her as a little girl anymore but as a small woman. It is making a difference.
2006-11-09 23:33:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is going to depend on you and your child. Spanking is not necessarily the answer. my youngest (7) is not fazed by spanking at all, and if you threaten to take his toys away, he'll actually help you throw them out !! I have however found my little trick that works with him and you'll have to be patient (trust me, you are going to need a lot of patience) Some kids respond to spanking, it really is up to the individual child. Maybe talk to his pediatrician, a lot of times they can ask questions you never thought of. How is he sleeping, what is he eating, any changes in routine? I know I didn't really give you a specific answer, but hopefully I gave you some ideas.
2006-11-09 21:00:59 · answer #5 · answered by Michele A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly what Pamela L says, and when you have put your child in his room, or on the step, or chair, or wherever, and he keeps getting up, then just keep putting him back...make him stay there for one minute for each year of his age...when you put him back after he has got up then the time begins again....he will eventually get the message that you mean business....be firm and explain why you are doing it...then don't say why just keep taking him back. Make sure you get an apology before he is allowed off his "naughty spot"
2006-11-09 21:07:11 · answer #6 · answered by sarch_uk 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
god help any of my kids hitting me i have a 7 4 3 none would dare i put the fear of god into them if one was to hit me i would hit them back and they would feel the pain if they cussed at me i would wash their mouth out with dishwashing liquid and if they told me they wouldnt going to do what i told them they would never see outside their room when a child knows you are boss and that you are the parent they wont test you and if they do you put them in check
2006-11-09 21:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by Avis S 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Have you tried time-outs? Or have you tried taking something away that he loves to do?
He is old enough to know what he is doing.
Send him to his room.
If you don't cuss then tell him that it is not nice to say those words but if he heard them from you then your in trouble.
When you put him in timeout, he needs to stay there 5 minutes.
It's a minute to their age.
2006-11-09 21:04:41 · answer #8 · answered by Stephie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Paddle their little padded but and put them in time out- you check them to make sure they have done what you told them- take away tv- toys whatever as punishment- you take them to school and they don't tell you what to do- take your stand as the parent- if need be- get counseling- or check into some MOPS groups= Mothers of preschoolers-5 is close enough in age for that-D
2006-11-09 20:58:27 · answer #9 · answered by Debby B 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
omg. oh your childs needs a long lesson in respect, take his toys away make him do his chores if he refuses then send him to his room and lock all the windows if he tries to climb out of the window. if this doesnt help then send him to boot camp.
2006-11-10 02:37:34 · answer #10 · answered by mamas_grandmasboy06 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋