i've gotten into a relationship with i girl who i dont find attractive, but she treats me right, she wont/hasn't cheated on me, and i love her personality, i love being with her, but when i tell her i love her, i feel like im lying coz im not attracted to her. does love have to be the whole package? personality and looks?
2006-11-09 20:26:13 · 15 answers · asked by dang_hippies 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think there has to be a certain amount of physical attraction to have a successful relationship that involves sex,
BUT
I don't think physical attraction is THE major thing for a good and functional relationship.
I have had quite a few relationships, and by far the one I am in now, is the best. My partner is caring, emotionally mature, can communicate in a way that makes me happy and is fun. I feel physically attracted to him at times, but it is not an overpowering overwhelming thing that is always there. We've been together 3.5 years.
Compare this to my previous relationships where I was in LUST with my partners and was alwasy in the bedroom, but they treated me like $h!t and there was nothing substantial there. It was very shallow.
I wonder how long you have been in the relationship? I don't think you should say you love someone when you don't. You don't have to say I love you, just because she does.
I think it's hard to get 'the whole package' but I think you have a good character if you can recognise all your girl's good points that are important, such as her personality.
Good luck, whatever you decide.
2006-11-09 20:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by Ambience 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is not what is on the outside all the time that counts. Love is what comes from the heart. The inner being of a person. you look past the beauty or the flaws to the inner beauty that drew you to them. If you still have problems, break it off with her. You have to love someone for who they are not how they look.
2006-11-09 23:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by chocoholic_40 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You probably feel like you love her right now and today.... The problem is when you meet someone who has the great personality plus the looks, you will be unable to love this girl.
Your probably young, while young you can play the field. Think of it as, she is Ms. Right now.... And when you find Ms. Right Now who might turn into you wife, go for it...
Good Luck!
2006-11-09 20:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by coolchick 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's different ways of being attracted to someone. If you truly love them, then they will be beautifl & perfect in your eyes. Maybe you don't truly love her, and you are focusing/blaming it on your lack of physical attraction.
You need to either get past the fact that not all relationships are perfect. And if you feel like you're lying now, you need to end it with her to try to minimize the suffering.
2006-11-09 20:29:29 · answer #4 · answered by calane3 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are many levels to love, I mean I love my brother but I'd never do him!! Actually you know what the best girl I was ever with was just a plain Jane but when we were together the conversations and the love making and just being with her were incredible so it doesn't have to be looks.
2006-11-09 20:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by older_fat_male 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not the kind of love that should be labeled boyfriend and girlfriend. You can't be with somebody that you arent attracted to. A love like that is the kind of love you have for your mom or your sister. You should be best friends. Love her like a sister.
2006-11-09 20:35:32 · answer #6 · answered by PeytonsMom 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on individual. There are people who don't mind their partners' look but what they want is their partners' must have good character.
If you don't like her or not attracted to her, I think it is fair for you to made yourself clear to her and not decieve her.
If you don't tell her the truth now, it will be more problematic when you tell her the truth later
2006-11-09 23:08:56 · answer #7 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you can love someone without being attracted to them physically, but you kinda need to be in order for it to be great.
2006-11-09 20:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by lovemykalli 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm somewhat in that situation... I feel guilty often, and I sometimes feel like breaking it off, but I care too much for him, I'd never hurt him like that... So I figured, if I'm willing to live like that so he doesn't feel pain, it must be love.
2006-11-09 20:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes love have to be the whole package, when you love someone you have to love everything about her, yes you are lying when you say you love her, you cant love partly
2006-11-09 20:33:19 · answer #10 · answered by Lorato m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋