Hi I'm 18.. and im really shy/nervous... round this girl
sometime's she ditches her english class just come to my class.
Well here's my problem, I like this girl at school and there is only 4 week's (including study leave) until we both finish college.. and well next year I'm staying in my hometown to study in my choosen degree (Busniess) and she's moving down south to study in her degree (criminologist)...
Im scared to ask her out cause of her reaction.
and does any1 know if the long-distance thing really even works out?
i kinda think she is outa my league, though im active in sports and i'm very weathly, with a good personality.. and lots of friends
2006-11-09 20:08:19 · 15 answers · asked by Mike J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok well today...
ok and is why i dont want to really lose her cause ive known her for 4 year(s)...
she asked me
"do you have a date for the ball"
i replyed
"no, she had different plans"
then i asked
"Do you hav a date?"
she replyed
"yeah"
i asked
"who is it?"
she said
"You dont know him."
Why wouldnt she just tell me his name?
I dont really want to get embarassed...
she also told me in a group conversation
"she doesnt do school guys at parties"
and she is always around her friends at school so i cant really get her by herself...
2006-11-09 20:23:14 · update #1
Correction**
i asked
"Who do you have in mind"
2006-11-09 20:24:56 · update #2
I won't bother answering the other aspects of your question since I already know the answer to the most important part-If you ever take anything away from Yahoo Answers while your 18 take this-The long-distance thing never works out-Good Luck and have fun making a stab at it anyway- I know you will-God-I wish I were 18 again!
2006-11-09 20:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by NATE 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The next time she skips class to come to your class, skip that too and go for coffee and talk about things. Don't worry about asking her out, just tell her what's going on, and that you don't want to lose her when you move apart. Since you will both probably be going through some serious changes in the next few months, don't try to start anything really involved - just build a strong foundation.
As for long distance relationships, they can work, but you both have to be very committed and truly love each other. Also, be prepared to give up a good chunk of your long weekends, study breaks, etc, in order to get together. If you (and you marks) can handle that, there's nothing to be afraid of.
Also, you seem like a really nice guy on first impressions. Even if a relationship doesn't work out, you may have found a great friend. That's the way it turned out for me.
2006-11-09 20:23:24 · answer #2 · answered by MikEnigma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long Distance can work, its just a little harder. You can stay in contact by mail, phone and email and see her whenever you can. It is hard, but you have to be sure you like her a lot to go throgh with it, you miss her a lot, you wont see her often possibly, i'd ask her if its really what you want.
trust me, ive been in a long distance relationship for over a year, and seeing my girl after a long time is like falling for her all over again, and you'll appreciate seeing her a lot more.
2006-11-09 20:16:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have alot more confidence in yourself. I also see some "ego" in there. Being rejected is a part of life. How will you know she'll go out with you if you don't ask? Long distance relationships are really tough. Unless both are really committed to each other, it won't work.
2006-11-09 20:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude your the man! you have to believe that. i had a huge crush on this girls and all i could do was think about her. we hung out all the time and i was so nervous because i knew that eventually i would have to go for it. so one night i asked her, she blew me off for like a week. then she wouldnt stop texting me. we got together later on. the point im trying to make is that you have to tell her how you feel.
just let her even think about it. she will be so happy that somebody even cares for in that way.
she be flattered. you have noting to lose and everything to gain. ive been turned down before and it does hurt but you get over it in a couple of days. trust me. GO 4 IT!!
2006-11-09 20:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't start anything now. It's too late. A long-distance relationship is not going to work if you are only together for a month before you have to move. If it was meant to be, it would have already happened. Sorry, buddy.
2006-11-09 20:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by bashnick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance relashonships do not work i repeat they do not work!!!!!!
u cant even get through a month if ur lucky through long distance relashonships dont even try it dont bother with her find someone else but if u really do like her then u can just have fun for those 4 weeks and maybe she'll change her mind if it is love
2006-11-09 20:11:43 · answer #7 · answered by !!David!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
things would wok out in the long distance if there is a chemistry between 2 person.......before you finish the college try to talk her about it ....dont be shy or you will lose ur chance .
2006-11-09 20:12:03 · answer #8 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gather courage and ask her out maybe she also likes u. Ask her now b4 its 2 late.
2006-11-09 20:13:00 · answer #9 · answered by Debbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(1) She says yes-- you got a date
(2) She says no-- she'll be out of your life soon anyway.
Hey: some girls like the shy type.
2006-11-09 20:13:50 · answer #10 · answered by jont 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋