there is a guy that i've been in an up/down relationship for about a yr and a half now. he only seems to want me when it seems like i'm moving on with life. he acts so sweet sometimes and says that he loves me, and other times he's the most careless, rude, dr. jekyll-type jerk ever! he doesn't want to spend much time with me anymore (after i broke up with him, and he refused to get back together), but he's just such a jerk about it and now i think that the whole time he was just preparing himself to move on and keeping me attached so he could use me for company and as an emotional crutch. the thing is, he always comes crying back to me when it looks like i'm happy without him. i don't get it! why is he like dr. jekyll and mr. hyde? my roommates complain about guys acting the same way with them. why do men tend to act like this? what are possible reasons? i'm just curious at this point and seriously dying to know.
2006-11-09 19:02:33 · 10 answers · asked by l_brew0 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is playing with your emotions. he also still wants to be with you but he doesn't want his male ego to be crushed as well he wants to be tough. also this guy keeps coming back to you because he knows that you wont and haven't turned him down when he needs someone. he wants you to remember him. he is probably using you for an emotion crutch so what you need to do is not let him....when he comes crying for help deny him that and you will show him what place he is in and who runs it. you need to stand up for yourself and not accept his crying and whatever. he wants your attention and he is getting it when you give into him. don't let him do this....you will be just fine though what you need is a more emotionally stable guy because to me it is obvious that he is very unstable.
2006-11-09 19:08:51 · answer #1 · answered by Shischkabob 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alrite, this is from a guy (just one, this doesnt include the bunch of others who havent read your post ^^;;). I understand what hes doing because I know I've done this before. Its not intentional, but when I did it was because I was still miserable. When I saw she was getting back on track and I was still miserable, I felt inferior. Its not a male-female thing, its just emotional status. The fact that she was able to heal faster then me gave me the thought that I was not very important and therefore I went back. I understand that this doesnt work, but hell, I know this was the reason as much as I don't like it. I learned from my mistake, maybe this guy can too. Gud luck and hope this helps~
2006-11-10 03:09:24 · answer #2 · answered by xyz00192 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
guys can sometimes act this way because ego. Men have grown up with the attitude that they must look and be stronger that other guys. So to make themselves look good they might date 1 or more women and to prove that he is more important in a relationship he will nudge a girl on and be nice when he needs to be and ignore you when he is over it and back again. It is why a lot of men will do crazy stunts to show off. They feel they are not allowed t show weaknesses.
2006-11-10 03:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by yasu_elf_1 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because he's not a man, just a boy, and not to bust your bubble, but females do the same thing. Dump him and find someone more mature.
2006-11-10 03:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i used to have the same problem as you. theres this gal i tried to woo, but she always rejects me. yes, always. i asked her 8 times in 2 years but all i get is NO.
whenever i gave up hope on her and tried to go for other gals, she would appear back in my life again, giving me hope again. damn i felt like a fool.so on and off...i've been like her toy for 2 years. but love...bah...you cant explain it..
so not only guys do this, gals do this too. people who does this juz suck.
2006-11-10 03:15:40 · answer #5 · answered by sulaji84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to do what he wants but yet keep you from fulfilling life dreams. Being happy without him is very good thing to say and I would keep it that way and move on.
2006-11-10 03:07:13 · answer #6 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds to me like your ex-guy just likes the chase. once he has you, he doesn't want you anymore. it's not fun for him, so he does things to push you away. We function differently than guys do, so it's hard to say. He could be just a jerk who likes being a jerk. Stop taking him back & move on.
2006-11-10 03:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by jae 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first off you need to drop him./..find a hottie and flaunt what you got....if he cared he wouldn't play head games with you...it sounds like he has his cake and eating it too... so if he is like this now then think how he will be down the line....leave him and let him drown in the life he made for his self...good luck
2006-11-10 03:13:53 · answer #8 · answered by wendy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apparently you are his comfort zone. he keeps you on a string till something better comes along. they do it because you let them.
2006-11-10 03:13:04 · answer #9 · answered by firefly06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he drink some herbal medicine?
2006-11-10 03:07:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋