I have a friend who asked for my advice about him going on vacation (Europe) with his best women friend. The problem I see is that he has a girlfriend. He doesnt see anything wrong with it because its his best friend...as a women I see alot wrong with this picture. My friend is a good guy, really and nothing will happen if he does go on this trip...but I feel thats its still wrong, especially if he's love his girl...am I wrong? On the other side, he has talked to his girlfriend and she doesnt like the idea either. She hasnt denied him not to go but she doesnt want him to go either..she wants him to make the decision, but know he his confused..cuz he really really wants to go but not hurt his girlfriend either. Your thoughts on this???
2006-11-09 18:52:20 · 17 answers · asked by catfish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well if they are just frieinds then they won't do anything and its worng to not let you bf go out with his freind just because its a girl.
2006-11-09 18:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by Haley 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Speaking as a guy in the same position as your friend (well, almost - I don't get to go to Europe), I would say it depends a great deal on the relationship between the two friends. I love my best friend like a sister, more sometimes, and there's no difference from a family vacation in that case. If they are simply best friends, though, I might be slightly more concerned. Forcing him to choose between his best friend and his girlfriend, though, is a bad idea. If you don't trust him enough to let him go, then why are you dating him at all?
2006-11-09 19:47:06 · answer #2 · answered by MikEnigma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should not go. Even if this is an innocent friendship and he believes nothing will happen with this woman, the very act of going on the trip gives the wrong impressions about their relationship. If he truly loves his girlfriend, he needs to consider her feelings and look at the impression his actions are giving to the rest of the world. Even giving the slightest hint of infidelity is disrespectful to a significant other, and going on this trip gives more than a slight hint...
2006-11-09 19:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by bashnick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal thought are that if my boyfriend went on vacation with another girl...even if it is his best friend i would be very angry. Things can happen especially in Europe. And i have had feelings for a friend of mine before too without telling anyone else.
2006-11-09 18:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by firebaby212 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did they meet? which could have alot to do with what they desire there friendship to be. you will get solutions the two way with this question. There are some people who get alongside effective with buddies of the different intercourse yet there is often that fellowship can get wrong for greater. i does not outright forbid it, because of the fact it makes you look jellouse and insecure, advantageous properties a guy does not desire in there lady buddy or spouse, yet shop an in depth eye on them. don't be overly nosey, yet shop up with what they are conversing approximately, and what they do whilst mutually. If he starts to grow to be very secretive whilst it comprises her, that's an alarm bell and that's whilst something should be carried out.
2016-10-21 14:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was his girlfriend- I would tel him that I don't think it's OK, but I wouldn't hold him back either. The moment he buys that ticket- it's over between us. How would he feel, if she left for Europe with her male best friend? Ask him this.
2006-11-09 19:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is ill advised on way too many levels to list. If he wants to go to Europe he should take his girlfriend. Why would he not want to take her instead of the "friend" anyway? Maybe the three of them can go?
2006-11-09 19:06:02 · answer #7 · answered by AK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would he want to go with some one else? it sounds like he is just wanting some one to tell him its ok, so he can go and do what he wants and come back home and still have a gf. I agree with you and his gf its wrong and it shouldnt matter how bad he wants to go he is in a relationship and you have to give up things like this when you are. how would he feel if the gf wanted to go a vacation with a male freind of hers and leave him at home?
2006-11-09 18:58:17 · answer #8 · answered by firefly06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy can't be serious??
What a jerk.
The girlfriend needs to realize that this might be a clue that this guy isn't good boyfriend material.
What part of his weirdness doesn't his girlfriend understand?
2006-11-09 19:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thoughts? He has drawn a clear enough picture. He sounds like my brother...deny it, deny it, deny it. While he's gone, tell his girlfriend to move on, you'll be doing her a favor.
2006-11-09 18:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋