I've been seeing a guy for several months. He told me he's visited strip joints and fondled the women. He said he liked women of a certain race because they were big breasted and had large bottoms. Then he told me I should change the color of my hair. I'm a natural brunette and have no desire to change my hair color. After he told me all of this I felt physically sick to my stomach and I just wanted away from him. After he left I thought to myself this is the last time you will ever see or hear from me again. I need women's advise, please tell me what you would do? Can you understand how I feel??
Serious replies only please!
2006-11-09 18:48:07 · 18 answers · asked by Jane 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm a guy,but feel obligated to give you my advice.Leave the jerk!This guy is a ***hole. He should care about your feelings and not try to purposely try and belittle you. This guy has some serious issues. You deserve better and I know that will be easy for you to do.I wish you the best.
2006-11-09 18:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by 69charley69 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok - if you can't deal with it then stay away from him. Obviously he is not ready to admit that this certain race is what attracts him. He apparently does not want to take the time to find a real woman of that race to have a relationship with. It could be a form of his not wanting to get close to any woman - so he claims to like a different race.
He will never love the real you. He just wants you to fulfill his fantasy. Ditch this man and never let him in your life again. There are soo many guys out there that are better quality. Find a man who wants the real you - brunette and all of your beautiful personality and your body. Your body is beautiful just the way it is. You will find a man who will think this.
Dump this current dude and don't let him make you feel bad about yourself.
2006-11-09 18:56:51 · answer #2 · answered by Sharon M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. He's shallow and you should find someone who will love you the way you are. There are so many good guys out there, don't waste your time with somebody like that. He would probably always be picking at you and that is a warning sign of an emotionally abusive person. Move on.
By the way, when something makes you sick to your stomach, that's your most reliable instinct. Your gut is like an unconscious brain that picks things up before you even can think about them.
2006-11-09 18:57:04 · answer #3 · answered by Sun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is honest with you so at least give him credit for that.He is a guy just like they all are,he likes women who look a certain way....he fell in love with you just as you are,he wants you to die your hair dont look at it as him trying to turn u into the women he fondles.....its your decision gal so take your time and see if you wanna be with a man who visits strip joints!
2006-11-09 18:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by babes28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm just curious, you said you were dating him for a few months, Is this the first 'red flag' that you've seen, or were there other things that bothered you about him before that discussion ?
It sounds like there's more to the story that you havn't mentioned (or maybe i'm just reading too much into things)
2006-11-09 18:55:02 · answer #5 · answered by Justin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I can relate. If he is that immature that he wants you to turn into someone you are not because he thinks it would make you better then you should run as fast as you can. He will likely always say someone else is better and that will leave you feeling bad when he is obviously the idiot.
2006-11-09 18:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by jnp3577 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET rid of him,your right let him find someone else good thing you found out n the beginnig before your relatioship went further never change your self hes sick
2006-11-09 20:45:53 · answer #7 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you. It is sometime difficult to let go a guy, even you know that he is not good for you. But I think you did the right thing by letting him go. If he can't be happy with "you" you like, the relationship will not work. If you are happy with yourself, be with someone who is happy to be with real "you".
2006-11-09 18:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by Sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you did was right, im all thumbs up and be true to your word dont ever let him see you again, that man is too shallow and a pervert, i would not want him myself,plus he could be sick or something, anyway you did the right thing
2006-11-09 18:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have plenty of choices out there.Sounds like he is too demanding of u and sort of overconfident rude person,not caring abt ur feelings.
2006-11-09 18:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by aquarian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋