me and this guy have been chattin up and stuff for the past 4 months.ive fallen for him SO badly..and he has too. except he has a gf..which he would be gettin married to, sometime soon..im hurtin so badly inside. he told me dat he loves me and dat he wants to be with me, but his and her parents have decided for marriage. she knows about me..and "My relationship" dat i have with him.. she tries hard to separate us.. but my heart yearns for him..and altho he tells me we should stop b4 things get really serious.but we still end up callin and contactin each other. i dont wanna let him go. i love him so much.
2006-11-09 18:47:01 · 21 answers · asked by Straw^BerrY A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You really need to let him go. He is going to get married and the most you can hope for is to be the other woman like you already are. You should think more of yourself and know that you deserve better than that.
2006-11-09 18:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by Ndpndnt 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Straw: He has no business setting you up like that, knowing he is to be married to someone else - how selfish of him ! So what are you going to do when he ties the "knot" ? Will he cheat on his wife (gf) for you ... is that what you want ? Head for the hills, this guy has more on his mind than just "chattin" - believe me. You are headed for a fall ( and not in love - either) !
2006-11-09 18:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
strawberry..u better stop right away..that man is getting married anytime now..leave him..think as u are the opposite gal..how would u react..come on..if he really loves u..he wont bother to leave that gal..i think he is not being sincere with u..that man is going to get maaried soon yet have time to flirt with another gal..yes u should listen to him when he said u should stop..just listen to him..and help him build a new life with that gal..in fact u just knew him for 4 months only..hey..i could love a model soooo damn much right a seconds away..fast enough for the world record i guess..
but if u still like him..i say u may proceed..go ahead and destroy that gals dream..good luck strawberry..may u make the right decision..
2006-11-09 19:02:07 · answer #3 · answered by atokboy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bring it out in the open before they marry. let every one involved hear about yours and his relationship, if he wants you so much he should be a MAN about it and get you. if he cannot tell everyone he knows how much he loves you, then i wouldn't think he loves you that much. sorry for being so blunt. love hurts,been there and done that. just be strong for yourself and do positive things for YOURSELF! tell him to ___t or get off the pot. you can't sit around and wait on him while he is planning to marry another. i would be afraid to trust him even if you got him. he would go back and forth, because you girls will let him. pray
2006-11-09 19:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by granny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 many ifs,ands,&buts amount to a bunch of bull.If you have to ask why,and thats just the point(YOU SHOULDN'T).....Why hasn't he told his parents and gf the truth about you?It has been 4 months already.You love him-let him go.He comes back-he is not ready to let you go.But,you will have to decide if it is worth the heart ache.GOOD LUCK GIRL!Just take some time out for yourself,ok.
2006-11-09 18:59:33 · answer #5 · answered by inyrfcgul 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have issues. Why do you begin a relationship with someone who already has a significant other ? Imagine if a woman did the same to you. What do you mean by "stuff" ? I do not blame the other woman.
go to http://personals.yahoo.com/ If you avoid this site you NEED a psychiatrist.
2006-11-09 18:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The decision is his. He is the one getting married. If he loves you he would break off the marriage no matter what. Ask him to decide and then you will know what to do. If he picks her then move on.You don't want to be sleeping with a married man.
2006-11-09 18:55:41 · answer #7 · answered by kitten 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well i think you shoud left that guy and start a new life because he is not a real man as he not respect for you or your love be practical if you will marry this guy you will lead a miserabal life because of his parents. he is not having power to go and tell to his parents that he want to marry you &only youwhat wiil he give you in future except tears
2006-11-09 18:55:44 · answer #8 · answered by richi_richer2007007007 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dont take this the bad way but if i was the gurl that he was going to marry and i knew he was with another gurl i would try to separete u and him. i mean come on. the other gurl probably luves him too. i hate to say this to u but if he is going to marry her than that kinda means that he has feelings for her. he cant be "forced" beasue of his parents.i mean this is america. i hate to break it to u but he proably is not the guy for u.
2006-11-09 19:02:16 · answer #9 · answered by iranian gurl and proud 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's not for you, girl. Please wake up from your dreams. How can you love someone who has already a girlfriend? Leave your fake love story, and find a better man/guy as your boyfriend. World is not as little as you've thought.
But please keep him as your brother or your best friend, not boyfriend. It's better for you than to make him insulted. He will help you if you are in trouble in the future. Give him greeting card when he marry . He and his wife will pleased you.
2006-11-09 18:59:25 · answer #10 · answered by eddy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋