My parents divorced like idk....11 years ago or so. Me and my sisters were close with my dad. Since he remarried like 7 years ago he hast been supportive or even acknowledged us in any way ..really. I asked him a while back why he aint a supportive father.. I said is it your own personal choice? or is it the choice ur wife gave u? He said both. How can someone live with that? knowing the picked their wife over their own kids?
* Aside from this I do have a extremly suportive realtionship w/ my mother and step father.. just thought I'd add that.
2006-11-09 18:43:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
hey creativebliss.. f that.. I cant support anyone who told me I wasnt ever going to be anything. Someone who never belived in me and verbally/emotionally abused me. Its just sad to see that he's filling my younger sisters head with empty promises.. and in the end she gets hurt. The biggest value I have is that if u have children u be there for them.. at least make that effort.. however i do know it aint possible in all situations. I should of elaborated more on this question.
2006-11-09 19:03:08 · update #1
people are just very different, physically, mentally and emotionally. to generalize would be futile. not because we share the same title, i.e. parents, friends, children, we all think the same way or would act/react the same way. it would indeed be very hard to judge, or better yet, understand a person for living the way he does. i could make a list of people i know personally that just do not seem to care about their children. notice the word 'seem' - cause we can never really be so sure, maybe they do, they have a weird way of manifesting it.
sweetie, my only advice is to try not to waste your time and emotions resenting your father, you'll only be more confused and hurt. just accept the fact that your dad is his own person - whose probably just going for his own happiness and with a 'unique' sense of priority. we can't have everything in this life. it sounds like you got a great mom and step father, so focus on that instead.
God bless you kiddo!
2006-11-09 19:21:52 · answer #1 · answered by Bubuchachum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you had a close relationship with your dad growing up.
I don't think your father picked his wife over his children...I just think your dad has moved on and it his time to focus on HIM.
Your father needs a life too...why don't you try supporting him for a while? He has helped raised his children and supported them as you said...
I wish I could help you answer your last question:
How can someone live with that? knowing the picked their wife over their own kids?
All I could say is...your not a kid anymore. Learn to deal with the fact that your dad needs happiness in his life too...just like you.
Respectfully submitted by:
CreativeBliss
2006-11-10 02:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by Lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are inherently idiots. They don't form that same attachment to a child as a women does. A woman still feels attached to their child when the child is away from them while a man can easily become unattached to something that it out of site even if it is their own child. I would tell your dad that he is a poor excuse for a human being and leave it at that.
2006-11-10 02:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by jnp3577 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine,u as kids being forced to live in an unhappy environment,if ur parents were still together.Its good what they did,if they are happy with their present lives now.Parents too have thier happiness,choices and priorities.This doesnt make them less caring and less wanting to be with their kids.
2006-11-10 03:03:04 · answer #4 · answered by aquarian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hunny;
I can't preach to you on this one my "real parents" devorced and then desided that i was too much to handel, i have an older sister and younger brother we're all pretty much grown now i'm 19 pregnante and getting married in march my lil brother is ganna be 18 in july & my older sister will be 21 in march and ill be 20 in augest my baby is due in april but anyway my dad chose his wife over us kids he chose to move away and dumped me in an orphanage and my sister and brother with friends of thiers i was i don't know but i went to live with my grandmother and then moved to idaho with my bf at the time and then we broke up and i got with this guy i'm with now and haveing his baby and marrieing him in march and all..... i don't know i guess i'm trying to say just ride the wave baby it'll get better.......... aight just hang tyte,
peace out
still dreaming in idaho
stacy
2006-11-10 02:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by Stacy ` B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knw it hurts but dnt let it hold u down....Move on and tell urself dat, dat would never be ur case. U be the better person...Gudluck
2006-11-10 03:14:57 · answer #6 · answered by Tinnie Cutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he now he dont support u ppl y r u expecting?? leave him...ur mother & step father r there for u..so enjoy ur life.
2006-11-10 03:02:43 · answer #7 · answered by shweta - 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh well, never mind
2006-11-10 02:46:57 · answer #8 · answered by a_bike_guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋