what to do when the inside is worse than the outside?

Question

i am quite ugly (very hairy, bad teeth, short, fat, red hair, pale, freckles) however i feel like i am even uglier on the inside. i dont have any close friends, more like associates. example: at the pub with a couple of guys that i know when 4 other guys come over and bash me, while the others just watched. i dont think they are mates, but they're the closest ive got even after that.
i have destroyed relationships with other family members, and there is really nothin good about me. my mum is the only one that still puts up with me. she does however infuriate me, along with everyone else i know. I dont understand why i am so angry and such an ass hole, but its just my nature and instinct to be that way. what do you do when your not good looking or a good person? i was thinkin a bullet

the bullet was just a joke. plus if i was going to kill myself, i would. i wouldn't be askin questions. i think i just am angry at the world, and feel that i have been dealt a crap hand in life. (i am an aetheist, so religion aint gonna do anything but bore me). i just get very angry at anyone over the smallest things, and it stays with me all day (or until i have a joint).

Answer 1

you just lose your self confidence, i think you;re not really bad inside , because you think you are ugly ,you try to hurt people i think you experienced that when you're not good looking people dont care about ur inner side ..so you want to act like this to take advantage on people ...am i right?

Answer 2

If you think your inside is worse than your outside, why don't you make an attempt to change both? Did you ever think about why you destroyed your relationships with your family members? I mean, sometimes you look at your life and when you realize that you don't have any close friends, all you really have is your family, and if you ruin that, then you have nothing. Are you stubborn and refuse to listen to your mom even though she's trying to help? Because if she's the only one that puts up with you, then it's because she still cares. You should try to show some affection back. Maybe not all at once, but gradually. After all, if something were to happen to her, wouldn't you regret it forever? It's your nature to be an angry a$shole because you're bitter at everything all around you. I feel like that sometimes, so I know where you're coming from. If you feel ugly on the outside, try changing how you appear physically. Take care of yourself...get braces, shave, lose weight. Nothing is wrong with having red hair and freckles; I think it's pretty cool. Whatever you don't like about yourself, change...and then the rest of your personality can follow suit at the same time.

I think my last bit of advice and the biggest one I can give is that most people are idiots. Most of them are shallow morons who don't care about what's on the inside and pick dates based on appearances. They talk about shallow boring things, like how they "got sooo wasted over the weekend" or the dumb petty drama in their lives. But now think about the few good, interesting people there are out there. You're scaring all these people away from meeting you by acting like a cold and bitter jerk all the time. No matter how awesome these people are, if you act like you don't want to have anything to do with them, they're not going to pursue a relationship with you either. Forget the bullet and try living up to the challenge. If you want to give up and just let go, imagine how your mother would feel. No one here can stop you, but think it over first. All the best.

Answer 3

A bullet? Wheres your concentration!? You may be infuriated for a number of different reasons and one of the top contenders would be the fact that you dont appreciate who you are anymore. There is a man by the name of Bruce Lee who may be able to help guide you with his wisdom. Please read "The Warrior Withing" edited by John Little. You might also be holding back some of this devestating anger that you've been waiting to express.
If you are young and healthy enough to take interest in sports, I highly recommend to you to NOT hang around other people that make you feel ashamed of yourself or that make you feel unwanted. If you find a GOOD martial arts dojo, you will find excellent people, and you will get the self-confidence that you desire. The problem is that alot of martial arts schools in america house nothing but phonies. I recommend taking the time to search for a great school that you like.

Answer 4

A bullet? Nah buddy.
To ask such aprofound question of yourself, you have probably come to realise that you do not like the way you behave. This behaviour may stem from your low self-image.

One thing i can suggest is to take little steps to change the way you look. Eventually you will become better looking which will enhance your self image, and also increase you self esteem.

Maybe start by exercising and eating better foods.

This will help you to feel better physically.

Maybe also try to find another circle of friends. People who won't sit idly by whilst you are in a physical altercation.

Answer 5

Well if you came on here for pity...SORRY life is a ***** sometimes....as far as the BULLET comment thats just plain selfish, All I can say is no matter what anyone says that might hurt you inside....Always remember that your better than those people, you apparently are the bigger person and do not have to pick on people to feel good about yourself, KARMA IS A B.ITCH it will come back to bite them in the ass someday

Answer 6

What I think you should do is wake up every day for two weeks and look in the mirror and tell yourself that your a good person and that you are beautiful.Go for some power walks and start caring for yourself.You know your a good person and that's why you feel the way you do.You just are not reaching the potential you know your capable of.

Answer 7

clean your self up. Go to a groomer or a stylest even. Find a gay guy to help you dress yourself. Shave, workout, start running and become happy with yourself. Whiten your teeth, go to the dentist. Walk tall and be presentable, and you know you might even try smiling and laughing you have no idea how far a smile will go to brighten someones day

Answer 8

If that is the case try going to church and please sit on the front row. The closer the devils are to the pastor, believe they will take flight and perhaps you can overcome your behavior when you return to the outside world.

Answer 9

WHAT you do is change. TRY to be a better person. YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE YOU. G0d helps THOSE who help them selves.

Answer 10

rope is good