I dont know if I should forgive my boyfriend of 5 years who I caught writing emails 2 a girl from school.Since we live 2gether, 1 day I turned on the home computer to go online & it was logged in under my boyfriend so I checked his email and there I found an email from a girl.It said something about clubbing 1 night.I wrote back to her but til know she has not wrote back.Since I didnt have a good feeling about this I went under his cell phone account, which I had never done.I felt bad but I just had to get this done.After logging in to the account I couldn't believe it there were so many calls 2 the girls phone number, that broke me into pieces.Then when he got home I confronted him & he didnt know what to respond, which got me out of control.First he denied her than he explained to me that it was only an old friend from college. I just dont know how I never found out since it had been going for 5 months.We actually are not together on weekends & those were the nights he would talk2her
2006-11-09 18:40:37 · 11 answers · asked by MARYLOU P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Marylou P......First let me just say that I am sorry that you had to find out the way that you did. Im sure you were just devasted and heart broken to learn that there was someone else in your boyfriends life other then you. The guy couldn't even explain himself other then to tell you that it was just some girl from college. Then on top of everything else you find out that he has been talking to her for the last 5 months and has even talked to her about going clubbing. You say this guy is suppose to be your boyfriend? I think not.......If he cant even be loyal to you for the 2 days that you 2 arent together then he doesnt deserve you. I believe in my heart of hearts that the best thing you can do at this point is to just let him go. I know its easier said then done, but this is something you need to do. The sooner the better. There is just something not right about this guy and I dont think you should wait to find out what it is. Let him do whatever he wants to do with this other girl. You just need to get out of this situation so you can move on with your life. In a nut shell, this guy isnt worth your time and effort.....I know you can do better, just move on, ok? Good luck sweetie......
2006-11-09 19:08:13 · answer #1 · answered by D.J B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will lose in the battle!
They are in contact, in different e-mail Id, you should understand!
All that you should have done is to leave unnoticed and time to time you have to check how far the development has taken place!
At a right time catch them red handed at the place of crime and kick their@$$ and say good bye for ever.
A deceiver should not be encouraged!
2006-11-09 18:50:09 · answer #2 · answered by SESHADRI K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.... It really depends on what the e-mails say. In my opinion there is nothing wrong with him having a friend from college... But if he is cheating with her, then there is something wrong. Maybe what you should do is have him invite her over, so you can meet her, and just watch what she does when she is around him. And if all is clear, then maybe you should try to get to know her, she may be able to tell you things about him from then that you never knew.
2006-11-09 18:43:54 · answer #3 · answered by blissfully_rebellious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don’t forgive him a cheater is always a cheater. But first check if they have done any thing wrong I mean some sex. May be they are only good friend and nothing else happened in between them. Do check this before jump to any conclusion
2006-11-09 18:49:02 · answer #4 · answered by Eccentric 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have lasted 5 years with him? He is a two timing man you need to forgive him in doing so dump him forever and for good You do not need any body to treat you like this. He is and will make you slowly but surely a nervous wreck
2006-11-09 18:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow - That would really worry me.
And, I wouldn't want to be with someone who might not be as into me as I thought.
I would back off, (like where are you on the weekends; spend more time there) and if he comes back to you...
And, if he doesn't, you don't need him.
2006-11-09 18:47:56 · answer #6 · answered by Feather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... give it some time first. Or maybe u can go n confront the gal and ask her nicely if she has anything to do with ur bf. OR!!!! You can give ur bf a kick in the groin and a slap in the face and dump him. Now which one will u do? ;)
2006-11-09 18:44:52 · answer #7 · answered by uNoS 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this means, he is cheating.. once cheating, he'll look for another way to cheat on you.. can be from ur back or even fronta ya.
i dun think, u wanna give ur trust to him anymore.
As i know, he must hv hurt you badly.
..pieces..
2006-11-09 19:51:43 · answer #8 · answered by Aii29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive him, you're probably a bit uptight and he needs another woman to relax with.
You'll get used to it.
2006-11-09 18:43:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Follow your six sense, it is telling you to move on...you know the truth, leave the sucker. he is playing you and he got caught.........who knows who else he is talking or seeing get out...girl while you can..............
2006-11-09 18:46:27 · answer #10 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋