This guy and i was set up on a blind date,it turned out really good.At least i thought it did.We talked like we had known each other forever.When he got ready to leave he said he had a good time and every thing was nice.He's a very nice man ,somebody i would like to get to know better.He told me some really personal things about himself.His wife died about 7 yrs. ago. As for as i know and by what he has told others he is not seeing anybody.The thing is he didn't ask for my phone number so he hasn't called.Some of my friends though that i should call him. Since then i have called him three times he is always nice and says that i am not bothering him at all. But i do feel like i am pushing him by trying to stay in touch. I don't want to lose this newly found friend.
2006-11-09 18:23:29 · 7 answers · asked by darlyparly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds like he's got baggage left from the death of his partner. Honesty I wouldn't be too keen on calling him again...c'mon, 3 times *you* call him and he didn't ask you out? So if you did again and asked him out and you guys went out, what's it going to be then, you have to keep chasing him? Think about what's best for you as well, if he's that worth it or just good enough for now. My answer would be leave him be. If he's not ready to start something new, you can't change that. Also, do you think he's nice because you feel pity/sorry for him?
2006-11-09 18:30:35 · answer #1 · answered by Craiova 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if I have to be honest, I'll say he doesn't feel ... any chemistry between the both of you. I'm sorry if it sounds kinda harsh. And maybe his wife's death was holding him back so he's not ready to let another woman into his life. I think it's okay to call him and all, but not too often and don't expect him to ask you out. Think of him only as a friend. And when you really are friends with him, then hopefully it'll turn into something more.
2006-11-10 02:35:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop calling for a bit, he is obviously not interested in a romantic relationship with you. Give it a few weeks, then call and say hey buddy, want to go {insert non-romantic time here}? and if he says no, say ok, I'll try one of my girlfriends. Basically he is not interested ROMANTICALLY so you have to make sure he is aware you only want his friendship.
If you want more than his friendship, either give up now, or be prepared for a lot of hurt until he 'notices' you if you know what I mean.
Good luck! Remember, you can never have too many friends!
2006-11-10 02:27:43 · answer #3 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just ask him out on a date next time you talk to him. These days women are asking guys out more than they used to. If you want to continue this, then try it out. And if he rejects you, just say that it's fine and that ya'll would like to be friends. You never know what can sprout from friendship.
2006-11-10 02:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by blissfully_rebellious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably just keep it casual, because he doesn't seem like he wants to be in a relationship or commitment type of thing right now, just be friends with him and maybe he'll come around to dating later on in your friendship.
2006-11-10 02:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by Bubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is still not ready to start dating anyone. If he was really interested, I think he would try to keep in touch with you. Take things slow.
2006-11-10 02:27:03 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time. keep getting to know each other. ask him if he can call you, or ask him if you guys can go out again. you guys dont have to communicate over the phone. how about in person instead?
2006-11-10 02:27:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋