First off I feel a bit funny asking for help with this. Now let me get down to the situation. I work with a girl at work that I do like. Everyone in work obviously knows that I like her because I act so much happier when I'm around her. Now my friend thinks she likes me because she follows me around at work, but I think she does that just because she's looking for something to do at work. I make her giggle and all of that, but I can't figure out if she likes me or if she's just being friendly. I have her myspace/aim screen names but never had the courage to just say hi, I don't want to seem like the stalkerish type. I got her sns through other friends I have never asked for them. I am really shy and would love some advice, hopefully this is enough information so that someone can help me out. Oh yeah one more thing, everytime I look into her eyes I try to stop staring and can't sometimes I don't want to make her think something is wrong with her and that I'm only staring for no reason.
2006-11-09 18:06:14 · 11 answers · asked by neverbackaway 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nice guys finish last...quit being a wus and ask her out.
2006-11-09 18:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by Hi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know if she likes you unless you try asking! From the limited information you gave (and i could be wrong on this, so don't hate me if i am!) I think theres a good chance she likes you too. Here's my logic. If everyone at work knows you like her, theres a fairly good chance that she's not entirely oblivious to that fact either. If she likes you too, she may be assuming it's just her imagination, but she's probably at least aware of the possibility.
So far, so good. Now... if she at least has a suspicion that you like her... if she didnt like you, or was most definitely NOT interested in you, she would probably not follow you around at work. She would probably try to give you the impression that she doesn't feel the same way about you. If she DOES like you as well, then her main objective would probably be to make you not afraid to ask her, without it being obvious that she likes you too. That's the problem of beginning relationships... each side is hiding something. It's hard to admit how you feel!
When you gave her your sns... you just gave them to her, you didn't exchange them or anything? Was she reluctant to give you hers, or did it just not get mentioned? That might give you a clue as to if she wants to be contacted or not... I would recommend possibly not instant messenger... if possible, give her a little time to think how to respond... I don't know how myspace works... is there a "message" feature where you can leave her a message to read and get back to you about whenever she wants? On the other hand... if she doesn't know you have her sns... she might have a "ok how the heck does he know my sn" feeling, and that might not be so good...
As for the staring into her eyes... there are different kinds of stares. The eyes are the window to the soul, as the saying goes, and they can have many types of expressions. Somehow figure out what your stare is saying... might be awkward but id recommend asking someone else, if possible... if it's saying "wow i really like you but im shy", that's probably not a bad thing. if it's conveying selfish interest, or interest in only appearances, that usually isn't so good. How does she react to you staring at her? Does she act uncomfortable? Meet your gaze? (if so, what are her eyes saying to you?) Keep looking at you, and then turning away with a blush or a barely concealed smile or twinkle in her eye?
Watch out for the two extremes of telling if someone likes you. Some people are arrogant and assume that everything means more than it does and the person must like them. Others are overcautious and even in the face of very obvious signs tend to just dismiss it as wishful thinking. Do your best to see it from a rational perspective. Is your friend that says she likes you trustworthy? If so, he quite possibly has a more objective and therefore more accurate perspective.
So my advice... try to see if she likes you too, and go for it! Tell her how you feel. If she likes you too, it'll totally make her day. If she doesn't... well, hopefully she won't overreact, but she probably won't. Trying and failing, at least to me, is usually better than not doing something and completely regretting it later.
2006-11-10 02:28:36 · answer #2 · answered by maethoriel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a girl so i don't know what would a guy do. However, if i'm attracted to a guy, i would follow him around, spend alot of time with him. And one thing that i would not like a guy is not making a move. If she does like you, and you did not make a move, she might have doubts about how you feel about her. And then i won't be suprised if she asks the same question on this forum.. lol.
If you're really shy, get to know her more, get closer to her, drop her hints and then tell her.
2006-11-10 02:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by pizza5354 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying sending her a message on myspace. Just something simple like Happy Friday ro something. If other people that you work with have a myspace send them a message too just so she doesnt "think" anything. Also try to get a group of co-workers together and go out to dinner somewhere. Good luck!
2006-11-10 02:12:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women like confidence, so make an effort to stop being shy. If she gave you her myspace/aim screen names, then just drop by and say a casual "How's it going?" That will leave it open for her to respond, and who knows what'll happen after that. Try not to worry too much about it. If it's meant to be, it will be! Good Luck!
2006-11-10 02:10:03 · answer #5 · answered by jae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Son, you will feel alot better when you have gotten the poontang. You need to stay determined, like a tiger, and dont stray off target. Everyone can potentially like everyone and an oppinion of a person can shift extremely quickly. You should definetly start talking to her more often outside of work and away from potential player haters.
2006-11-10 02:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by Sir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to be a downer about your situation, but NEVER, EVER date someone you work with. If it doesn't work out, it will make for a very awkward day at work. If you end it badly, it will be worst. Plus, check on your companies policies about dating fellow employees. It maybe something that they won't tolerate, because of the reasons I said before.
2006-11-10 02:34:24 · answer #7 · answered by Twisted Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staring is a sure sign of interest, whether due to attraction or something peculiar. Whats the worst that can happen if you ask her out? Worst is she declines, which is not as bad regreting about what could have happened later on in life. Ask her out, period.
2006-11-10 02:11:31 · answer #8 · answered by chesscrazz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude honestly and any girl if she is honest will tell you you need to get the conies and ask her for coffee or something because if she gets to comfortable with you you will never get farther then friends and don't ask one of your friends to ask her if she likes you that is lame
2006-11-10 02:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by rahnside 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are shy then why don't you email her. It sounds to me like she likes you.It just sounds to me like you really like her. I say go for it. Ask her out for a cup of coffee.
2006-11-10 02:10:54 · answer #10 · answered by kitten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋