okay, so theres this guy that i like. but then i found out that he doesnt want to be in a relationship right now. he doesnt know i like him.
right now we're friends. not close friends but we talk on aim and talk at school yada yada yada~ and so yeah. i was thinking that maybe being his friend will help bcz i really like him and i was thinking of just waiting ya know? so, can you guys tell me if this is a good thing or not? got any tips?
2006-11-09 17:53:22 · 10 answers · asked by xkawaii 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have to win him. have you tried performing oral sex on him?
2006-11-09 17:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by a_bike_guy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Darn. If he doesn't want to be in a relationship, that knocks you out of the running right there. If I were you, I'd get to know him and develop a friendship with him. Since he's "not looking", this gives you lots of ample time to become a good friend. Over time, either he may get to know you better, or you may end up seeing something in him that turns you off, and you'll thank yourself for testing the waters as his buddy first. Just take a deep breath, limit yourself to being friends with him, and find another fella to date in the meantime. Nothing serious. Play it cool and make sure you're not too "available" around this guy you like. Then, maybe by spring or so, he might be open to looking for a relationship. Guess who'll be first in the running then? YOU. Give it a try then check back with us, let us know how you did.
2006-11-10 01:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by Heather M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, the age old question of "do I wait, or do I spill my guts and hope the for the best".
The only advice I can give really is; Ask yourself how much you really like this guy, and how much you're willing to lose for him. If you know him really well, and it doesn't sound like you really do, is your friendship worth losing? There's always a chance, when you open up to another person, that they will run away. So, do you continue to build a valued friendship, and hope he will develop feelings for you, or do you confess your feelings? If you do confess your feelings, I suggest telling him that you realize he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now, and you don't want to pressure him into something he doesn't want, you just felt you should be honest and forthright with him about your feelings. That way, if he doesn't return the emotion, he at least knows that you value his friendship enough to respect his decisions.
2006-11-10 01:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by pantelone19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you don't get into a relationship anytime soon it could turn out to become only a friend thing with very little chances of getting together later on. When he says he doesn't want to be in a relationship, he could be serious, or is hinting he doesn't want to be with you. Perhaps he just wants to be your friend? I know there are girls out there I'd much rather have as friends because I know we wouldn't work out in a relationship.
2006-11-10 01:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by Misterman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have to wait. Case when a girl gets a twisted Idea that there in a relationship with somebody its not a red flag to the guy, IT'S A BLAZING SIREN to stay away. Kick it with him , but do not talk about relationships all day, act like you think about something eles besides dating.
2006-11-10 02:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by keithr2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im not a guy but i would say that you should not talk to him TOO MUCH because then you might end up in the friend zone and you know when you get to dat zone you cant get out!!! so be like really hot and misterious and see if he notices you and if he does then you can go ahead and tell him how you feel but if he doesnt seem interested its usually because he is not...sorry but i've learned that the hard way too many times so dats why im telling you...:(
2006-11-10 01:57:52 · answer #6 · answered by madmandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's his way of telling you he is not interested in being in a relationship with you, but he does value you as a friend. So don't get your heart broken over a guy who is not interested. Keep him as a friend, but look else where for romance. Good luck!
2006-11-10 01:59:28 · answer #7 · answered by beautyofthesea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're pretty flirt with him, he'll be into ya. If you're ugly stay as friends cuz he doesn't want it any other way. Talk to him but don't talk about relationships n all that....
2006-11-10 01:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by Brown eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't know you like him, maybe he will get to see you like a friend and no more. Maybe you should tell him you like him. This way, maybe you get a chance. But in case of a "No, I don't like you this way", you will have to know to loose. It is better to find out, then to be in incertitude. Good luck!
2006-11-10 01:57:35 · answer #9 · answered by ota marmota 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya, be his best friend that is a girl... then when he wants to b in a relationship again, ur the first pick... but... dont be worried bout dating others if u want, he'll still b ther
2006-11-10 01:56:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋