Help my boyfriend hates pets?

Question

i really wanna get a pet but i am scared that my boyfriend will be unhappy. he said we could get one but i know he doesn't want one, i desperately want one...HELP

The reason why he hates pets, is because of the responsibility. I have already told him that I will look afetr but then he just says something stupid like it better not leave hair anywere, or can it live outside all the time

Answer 1

I had this same problem!
I went ahead and got the pet when he told me I could and I often gave him "rewards" for letting me, even though he didn't want one. not sexual rewards really, just a foot massage, I'd hug him and say "I'm so thrilled you let me have him/her even though you may have not wanted a pet. It shows me how much you love me" Show him how much it means to you that he let you and let him know how grateful you are to have someone that cares about you that much. it worked for me

Answer 2

Please don't get a pet if you think you'll only have to give it away. It will break your heart if you break up with your boyfriend and kick yourself for giving away the pet you loved. There's always something to be said about people who don't like animals...be very suscipicious of them! Controlling people are even worse--what's to stop this guy from controlling your other decisions. Relationships is about equality and compromise. Besides many people who date find that most of their relationships can be temporary where your pets are for life! Pets should never be disposable. Just look at the shelters...they're full of pets that people decided they can't have them, because they're significants either : doesn't like them, allergic to them, moving, peeing all over the house, mean to other pets, no time for them, travel too much, etc.

Answer 3

I am with you...I would go a pet...my husband doesn't like pets. But hey there is alot of things of his that I don't like but I live with them. And if he mistreats my animals, he knows where the door is too. I don't tolerate the cruelty to animals. You have a right to enjoy what you like in a relationship and if that relationship ends that it wasn't meant to be. It takes too. If you boyfriend works, than he wouldn't be there all the time with the pet, so tell him to "chill out an get a life"

Answer 4

When I first started dating my boyfriend he hated cats...Dogs didn't bother him but cats were a no no...But I'll tell ya what when we first moved in together, I brought my cat with me and he got used to her...Now we've been living together for 2 years and we have 4 CATS and 1 dog...Talk about the tables turning, huh? Make it something that you guys can do together...Go to the pet store or animal shelter, or where ever you are planning to get your pet, but do it TOGETHER....Pick the pet out together, name it together, and I really think that he'll warm up to the idea...He may just not be used to being around pets...good luck

Answer 5

Unless your bf has allergies to cat or dog hair, people generally hates because of the increased number of chores and the mess they can make daily on the floor and on furniture (I am one of them!) and the fact that you can never leave them alone and go on a vacation and it sometimes becomes difficult to find someone who will look after them and this is for their entire lives. That said, if you really want a pet, ger a very small cute pup and be prepared to look after it yourself, without expecting help from him. It is better that you research a bit and find that whether you have neighbors/friends/pet centers where you can leave the pets when you want to go on a vacation and they are well cared for too. You know even pet haters love to play with them sometimes but they just hate the mess, chores or their work being chewed upon. We got rabbits on my hubby's vehement request and though they are no more with us, you can still see the marks of their teeth on every furniture piece that we have, plus they tore and ate up much of my work and his projects and wires too. I haven't let him get another pet since then but it can be his next surprise! :) Well, make sure that you have a separate space, big and comfortable enough for your pet but out of your and his way to put your pet in when you are not around. It will be for his safety and your convenience. If you can handle the chores yourself, make space for them and find someone to look after them during vacations, I think your bf will come to love them too.

Answer 6

If you live with this boyfriend you need to discuss what it is that he doesn't like about pets. Depending on his reasons I would then decide to get one or not. If he doesn't want to be bothered with caring, then you can take on full responsibility for it's care. If he just doesn't like animals, I would not get one. It could cause for problems for you.

Answer 7

firstly..................... I would never be or even fall in love with a man that hated pets. Any pets!!!! I am an animal/nature lover and those are the very people I attract.

You chose a boyfriend like that! You knew he hated pets, and you continued to be with him. You and you alone have chosen that way of life.

Don't ever adopt, buy, love any animal and bring them into your household or anywhere NEAR that boyfriend you chose. And I would never dream of having children.

Answer 8

If you are a person that loves animals, you really have to ask yourself if you can see yourself married to a person who does not like animals. Is he Mr. Right, or Mr. Right Now? In the long run only you can make yourself happy. Do not sell yourself short on happiness by being with a person that is incompatible with you.

Answer 9

Everyone is right on! If your boyfriend gives in now, but doesn't really like animals, he will make you get rid of it eventually. Probably after you have become attached to it. Find someone more compatible!

Answer 10

He will get used to having your pet around and will learn to love it. I balked at getting a dog, a huge german shepherd, but now I love him so much. He didn't refuse, so he's open to the idea. Have fun choosing!