I've been dating a lot of girls , my QUESTION IS ...?

Question

I am usually able to determine
if I would like to make things last with them
within the first two dates. My problem is with
the girls whom I just wish to be friends with or
even just put behind me, how do I let them down
easy? I don't want to be a jerk or burn any
bridges, but how do I get them to STOP friggin'
calling ME! This is especially difficult after
being intimate with a woman. Some pointers and
examples of tact in this situation would be
greatly appreciated! HOW DO I TURN IT OFF,

Answer 1

Don't get intimate with them if you aren't going to stay with them. It's as simple as that.

Answer 2

Lol, this question is somewhat refreshing, being that most questions ask: "How do i turn it on?" Well i got some pretty obvious and simple advice to begin with. Be calm and sympathetic to a woman, especially if you'd been intimate with them. Say, "Listen you've been so sweet, so kind to me(unless its untrue, it'll be a mistake if you flat out lie about it, since you both know your lying.) and everything, but i just don't feel that connection between us. Your charming, sophisticated, and funny, you deserve more than me. I know there someone out there just for you. Please understand that I'm just not the right person for you, we're just not right for each other." by that point its pretty much down hill, depending on the person they can take this easy to mildly hard. the point is that you go slow, if you rush it you might come off as a jerk anyway. Go to slow though, and you might leave some "strings attached" so to speak. the whole friends thing is optional of course, you don't "have" to be friends with them if you don't want to. Just be kind, sincerer, and be honest and you should be fine. Also just to note a small experience, the best place to brake up with someone, is at her house, that way if she starts crying she's in a safe environment away from public eye. but of course that's optional as well.

Answer 3

Don't be "intimate" with any woman until you have dated her long enough to know you want to pursue a relationship heading toward the possibility of marriage... at the very least.

How dare you have relations with a woman and then get mad when she keeps calling you! Don't ever let it get that far on the first few dates. Then it's not so hard on a woman if you are not interested in pursuing more of a relationship.

Then, just be honest and say that she's very nice, but you don't feel you are compatible for a romantic relationship. I have some guy friends who have been friends for years and we know we aren't right for a romance. It hurt a bit at first maybe, but I go over it quick because they were gentlemen who never took advantage of me. Get it?

Sue

Answer 4

Well, considering you're actually having sex with these women before your third date does indicate that you don't really set boundaries with these women before anything happens.

When a guy sleeps with a woman early in the relationship, it's usually "all fun" for the most part. But women do tend to get emotionally attached with intimacy.

The one thing I can suggest is to make it know that you're not looking for anything serious from the start. If something develops, then you can re-assess, but give it time before that happens.

Another thing is to give yourself time to get to know the "real" her and not have sex on the first flippin' date. While I'm all for expressing wants and physical needs, if you've got women getting attached to you before the third date, you need to slow down your tactics.

Good luck!

Answer 5

I am sure that if your are like most guys then you should know the third date rule. So, you should try waiting until the thrid date and by the third date you know well enough you are not in to her. So there stop trying to get a booty call with no string attach or is to hard to pass up a piece and then say, " Well were just friends" or drop her. You want your cake and eat it, too. Karma my friend, KARMA

Answer 6

Tact would be not being intimate with the ones you claim to want to be friends with, basically your to late because your already a jerk just from that alone.
-NmD!

Answer 7

Make yourself unappealing to them. Fart, burp, say dumb (but not mean) things, act clingy, listen to crap music, leave self help books around your house... They'll run away. Quickly. And that way you don't have to hurt anybody's feelings.

Answer 8

You seem to be...ah, low on i.q. Simple, tell them to stop calling, and stop acting like...THEM! you aren't a drama queen are you? Be a man!

Answer 9

well just tell them to stop calling cause of something(make something up) or just dont answer them

Answer 10

may be u should cool down !!! that might help the "turn off "