hi, i recently broke up with my ambivalent bf who has lots of hang ups, and so the other day, we got into a fight. (long distance) he called me, he kept on shouting at me, telling me how BUSY he was. and making me feel like I was just an extra in his life. he kept manipulating me, then being really nice, then treating me like im nothing, then making it up on me, then blah blah blah. he's got no balls from being a good and honest man. so i went home, talked to my mom and bestfriend, and finally, i realized how he played games on me. but now, i wanna forget him, get a new life. and move on. but in his case, he still sends me text msgs, pretending that nothing happened. pffff... i hate this guy... what was i thinking? :(
2006-11-09 17:25:01 · 20 answers · asked by cutesy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks guys for your answers and wisdom. i appreciate it so much! god bless ya'll!
2006-11-09 19:08:38 · update #1
Tell him to stop contacting you. If he continues, file a police report for harassment and get a restraining order.
After you cut contact, you have to realize that he was a terrible person he was and just move on with your life
2006-11-09 17:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been in the same situation before. We broke up several times and then ended up getting back together. What I've been doing lately is I've been writing a journal of all the things that happened. When you feel like you start missing him and wanting to be with him, read your journal and to remind yourself why you're no longer with him. Because sometimes your mind will choose to forget because you long for him and hate to be alone. But people like him are emotionally abusive and mentally unstable. If you stay with him, your self-esteem will get dragged down and you'll start to feel empty inside. Take each day slowly. Maybe go on a trip to rejuvinate and create new memories for yourself. Read books about narcissistic people to give you more information about relationships like that to remind yourself that you're not the only one that's going through this. You probably will never forget him but you can stop missing him in 10 days. Don't choose to forget, because forgetting what you went through with him may end up making history repeat itself for you. Think up a mantra for yourself that you can say every night and every morning. Like: I won't let you get the best of me. I'm happy without you. Because it's mind over matter and eventually your subconscious will accept it and you will believe it and feel it inside. And remember, don't call him, text him, email him or make any other contact with him. Cut off all ties. Nothing good will come of it. Don't think you can be friends. You don't need friends like him.
2006-11-10 01:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by 00jag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like he's got you where you've lost control! I'm glad you realize that it's him doing it to you and not the other way around. The guy is obviously very unpredictable and you've made a wise decision inbreaking it off with him, so long as your able to hold to it. Because this guy is exactly how you described him, ambivalent. Continued exposure to this guy will inevitably drill a slow painful hole through your self-esteem. Another thing, you can't change this guy, this guy is committed to his behaviour, big time.
Here's a terrific web site for others in the same situation your going through, check it out!
http://www.iamnext.com/living_archive
2006-11-10 01:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by trieghtonhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well start first of all by deleting his number, any trace of him on caller ID (if you have it), even on your cell, delete his messages and if he doesn't stop get a new number. Forget about this guy, he isn't worth your time, you deserve someone waaaaaaay better, so just find other fun things to do and make yourself realize that time isn't worth throwing away over this guy, and if you find someone you seem interested in try putting yourself out there again if you're ready, just forget about him and delete and trash his stuff and things he might've given you, or sell it
2006-11-10 03:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by Bubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
day 1: do nothing
day 2: do nothing
day 3: do nothing
day 4: do nothing
day 5: do nothing
day 6: do nothing
day 7: do nothing
day 8: capture a skunk in a cage and let it loose in his house
day 9: laugh all day about day 8 with no regrets
day 10: forget about him
2006-11-10 01:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put him on ignore and find a new man! Don't waste your time thinking abou thim, and the only way to not do that if put your attention and focus on another guy
2006-11-10 01:28:11 · answer #6 · answered by Mandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Block him from calling, and find a new guy friend. You prolly have one in mind already, hopefully lol. Nothing makes you forget faster than finding andother person interested in you.
2006-11-10 01:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by Thumper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not a normal man; and you better leave him alone; he might not love you and just killing time with you. He may leave you earlier than you but I guess he had not an alternative. Go and start your life once again.
2006-11-10 01:33:24 · answer #8 · answered by buttar506 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would'nt recommand trying to get over it in a strict time period.
You have to take time for yourself to know where you're at and what you curently whant out of life...
Just take it easy.
2006-11-10 01:31:16 · answer #9 · answered by Jeronimo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
join a new hobby or something that you have been wanting to do,hang out with girlfriends n have some fun,go on a trekking trip,join new communities,get a makeover.
GOOD LUCK
2006-11-10 01:41:01 · answer #10 · answered by glamdoll 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋