How do you fogive and forget?

Answer 1

The best way to forgive is to care enough about yourself to let yourself heal. If someone has wronged us, they have already hurt us once, so by prolonging the pain we hurt ourselves even more. Close your eyes and let go, just let go of the resentment. And then give yourself a hug.

Answer 2

It is obvious you have been hurt or subjected to some meanness, which has made you angry. It may have been your best friend, and what he or she saaid or did hrt yoou badly. But in your heart you need to forgive to make amends and be friends once more. I am presuming that this person is a close and true friend. Say you are sorry for whatever has been said or done, That you value this friendship more than anything in this world. Thats the best way to get about it. And, remember one golden rule always once something has been said or done, it can never be taken back except by friends who know each others strong points and the weak ones, and, in spite of all this, still remain friends and value their friendship above everything else!:

Answer 3

It is sometimes hard to forgive but it is best that we do. Once we forgive we can move on past that situation without it controlling our lives. While you are hurting the other is out enjoying life laughing etc. You need to do the same once you lay all this to rest. Too difficult ask the Lord to help you..he will. To forget also takes time. The days that pass will become easier and one day you will look upon this as a good lesson learned without regrets.

Answer 4

One must realise that forgiveness has not much to to with the offender. Forgiveness doesn't wash over you miraculously along with amnesia. It is a choice, a concious decision to release yourself from the other persons offenses and negative doings and release them from the grudge in the process. Forgiveness really is about YOU, often the person who hurt you is oblivious to your suffering and there you are, allowing your energy to be sucked up by something that you can not change. Or the the offender could know your turmoil and be relishing in the fact that you give your power away to them by putting energy into holding a grudge. I don't believe that you have to forget, remember what ever happened as a learning curb that made you wiser and a bigger person

Answer 5

I think its the most difficult think to do, especially if you are hurt without doing anything wrong. But as time goes by and with the help of God we make ourselves strong and try to forgive.

But you must understand what forgiveness means, you can't dine out with a cheater to show you have forgiven him/her. Your outward attitude must reflect that the person has done something wrong, but from within you have no feelings for the person. This is a very tactful thing that we all have to learn. We must have to be very tactful while forgiving others. For example, if some one , who makes the same mistake time and over again and asks for forgiveness as many times and you have forgiven him all the time and behaved normally with that person as if he has done nothing wrong, do you think its gonna impact your or his life in any way.

To forgive some body is a real art which comes with experience. As I mentioned, to forgive someone doesn't mean to start over a relationship again in a normal way. You can forgive someone and won't see him again for the rest of your life.

Its very important to forgive, because if you don't forgive, you will burn yourself up with the fire of anger and revenage (towards that person) , making your life miserable. If you don't forgive, the fire might burn you up completely and the person might not even be knowing that you really are in pain and suffering because of him.

Just pray and pray and with the grace of God, may you be strong enough to forgive and forget. As human benings we are very powerful, but we must know how and when to use the power tactfully.

May GOD be with you.

Answer 6

Tell urself there is nufin u can do and cud have done for what ever happened, enjoy life, be strong minded, say to urself ur better then this, ur stronger then this, because end of the day we choose the way we feel, thats a fact, trust me on that, so u can choose to feel less down, u can always contact the person here and der and that slowly eases the pain, just talk to the person here and der as mates and it will go away, but like i sed think of urself strong and say ders nufin u can do, u done what u can.

Answer 7

Forgiving is the hard part and it takes time. First list all the things you have to forgive - write them as a list.
The go through the list every day and concentrate on item at a time until all is forgiven and you feel whole again.
Then, and only then, can you begin to forget and the best way to start that process is to get so busy with other things, with other people as soon as you can.
Cheers! and good luck.

Answer 8

Just wait and let your heart and mind heal from whatever has happened. If its a love issue then its probably gonna take longer than just about any other forgive and forget problem that you could have.

Answer 9

Hun, it's easier to forgive than to forget. Forgetting takes years and alot of effort on your part. Sometimes there are events in our lives that spark old memories we hoped had been put to rest. Just try to remember that it's over and behind you. Try not to look back.

Answer 10

This is sad but true my boyfriend cheated on me with my cousin and i said i would never get back with him but i love him so much and i forgave him and all but i will never forget how back it hurt to know that he left his son and my daughter for a kid. So to forgive and forget you can forgive all you want but sometimes forgetting isnt possible