i talk about myself way too much probably... and while i a of course SOOO interesting... i really wish i had a better nack for talking about OTHER people (see how i even talked about myself there).
any tips? btw...we get along really good already. id just like it if i could bring more to the table for her.
2006-11-09 16:47:17 · 7 answers · asked by sean_mchugh6 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
lol ice, okay, ill give that a try
2006-11-09 16:58:05 · update #1
stymie, ive known women who were as abnoxious as me when it comes to talking about theirselves. but this particular friend of mine politely replies to my questions with short and simple answers.
2006-11-09 17:01:25 · update #2
Aussie, would you stop talking about yourself!
2006-11-09 17:01:56 · update #3
just keep asking questions. Women love to talk about themselves, so just ask a question, and shut the hell up
2006-11-09 16:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by Stymie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with silence. For some reason, so many people fear it and think it means something is wrong. I don't need to be a non-stop talk show host.
Try asking questions about things your friend is interested in. Actually listen, rather than thinking about what your going to say. Most people are so busy in their own heads, they only hear half of what the other person is talking about.
They change the subject so they can start talking about what they want to talk about. Themselves.
2006-11-09 17:03:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was always like that alot too. Not like you , but I was like your friend. Well I still am , so I immerse myself in knowledge, I think ,so that I can have interesting things to talk about. I am naturally quiet so people found it difficult to hold a conversation with me , but they loved me because I am a good listener. And I am very knowledgeable. I just have never found that I can share alot of my life or daily activities or life experiences with other peoples. But I do have a good empathic qualities.
There is nothing wrong with you and nothing wrong with her, some times quiet and company is good. Don't put pressure on your self to keep the air between the two of you busy. Silence can be comfortable when shared with a true friend.
2006-11-09 16:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by tamsgranny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The really easy thing to do is ask questions about the your friend. Did he/she have a good day, see any really interesting girls/boys, eat anything delicious, whatever you friend is interested in. AND then listen to the answer, think about it which will lead you onto the next part of the conversation. Hopefully you have heard of the word 'conversation' the art of which was lost when families began living in front of the television and now people communicate by texting etc.
Good luck, you care enough to ask.
2006-11-09 18:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by Wendy D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
focus on collecting topics of mutual interest,anything interesting you have seen,heard or read about,make a mental note to include it in your conversation,might seem tailored in the begining,but soon it will come naturally.
2006-11-09 16:57:43 · answer #5 · answered by dee k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be random, try saying hey have you heard what just happend to the eastern europe countries, if yes, then say wowo i didnt kno that, of no, then say i dont know either
2006-11-09 16:51:23 · answer #6 · answered by ceesteris 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ill be watching this thread as i have the same problem, lol
2006-11-09 16:49:13 · answer #7 · answered by Aussie Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋