Do you think that it is would be okay for a black guy to date a white girl?

Question

I have really been tight with this one white chick from work who is exactly one year older than me (18 yrs. old)and is completely "barbie doll beautiful." Yes she has the whole blonde hair, blue eyes thing going and not to mention an awesome tan. I've known her for about a year now and over that time I think that we have had some awesome times together and I feel as though she is just waiting for me to ask her out, but I'm just too much of a shy guy of course. Now she is in college and that makes it kind of difficult for me to ask now because I don't know whats going on in her personal life. I do e-mail her quite often and she responds to all of my e-mails. I am the one thing that kept her from quitting work because I urged her to stay and she now comes back to visit on her breaks and promises to work some during that time. So is it a good idea to take it to the next level?

Yeah I know that I have known her for a year, but at that time she had a stalker and I wasn't very interested until she got rid of him. So I have known her for a year, but have been tight with her for about 10 months(give or take).

And its not so much about her looks, but more about her personality. Because other girls that I have seen that look as attractive as this is usually "stuck up". But this girl is nice to everyone and will talk to them eventually.

I guess that I use the word awesome so much is because she uses it.

Answer 1

if you really like her, then go for it. if she feels the same way about you, then you already have a good friendship which is a good foundation for a relationship. good luck!

Answer 2

This has been an issue around me also. I believe the white girls that date black guys exclusively have a low self esteem. They are usually the girls that are overweight with pasty white skin that are not very attractive. The ones I know do not think they deserve white guys or that they are not good enough. It is not good for anyone to have low self esteem, it doesn't matter what you look like. From what I've seen also, it is a trend in high school. Usually short lived after graduation. Girls finally get tired of being mistreated and the guys usually grow up. Why don't many white guys date black girls?

Answer 3

You have turned this into a racial issue and I feel since you had to ask this questiona nd go thru the finest details of irrelevance then yes, you are trying to date her for the wrongest reasons that a lot of you black men fall into. Date her for a while and then bring her around your family and friends. If you have to think about it then you should not be dating her! I have answered 2 other interacial type of questions b4 like this one on the yahoo website, you may want to read into them, but then again, you will get offended and all defensive and start jumping all up into your chest about the whole ordeal. Remember, I am just an opinion on what you should do. If dating a white woman with blonde hair and blues eyes or whatever is facinating to you almost like a "fad" then gone and do whatcha do dude.
I WAS READING SOMEONE'S OPINION EARLIER AND THE "SOFT SKIN" I DON'T GET BECAUSE I KNOW TOO MANY WHITE WOMEN WHO LEAVE THE HOUSE WITHOUT MOISTURIZING AND DON'T KNOW ANY BLACK WOMAN WHO WOULD DARE DO THAT!!! WE DON'T BELIEVE IN ROUGH,DRY, SKIN.

Answer 4

It's 2006...not 1966. Times have changed. It's kind of like the whole age difference thing. I'm 12 yrs older than my girlfriend. At 1st I was really conscious about what others thought but I'm not anymore. So I say if it makes you happy just go for it. Best of Luck!

Answer 5

Apparently, you like this girl a whole lot, and are very attracted to her - and she may very well like you too.

So, why should the fact that you're a Black man and she's a White woman have anything to do with it at all???

You and her are two PEOPLE who like each other, and that's all that really matters - ask her out!

Good luck!

Answer 6

Dude stop b's ing around get up off your butt and ask the girl out, and if other people talk or stare , dont worry about them , there just showing you both there stupidity,i used to be a real hard *** against the whole inter racial dating thing, but you know what? i was wrong and am man enough to admit it,, your skin color dont mean a damn thing, were all human beings on the inside, and all have the same heart and blood pumping threw our veins, go for it and wish you both the best of luck always,,,,,stinger5906,,,,,,,,

Answer 7

Tony D, Tony D, it sounds to me like you are infatuated with this person because she is white and not for any other reason. Your usage of the word "awesome" several times leads me to believe that you should date her. I've never heard a black man get so turned on by a tan!!!!! You gotta be freakin kidin me!

Grow up, if you like her date her, but her race shouldn't have anything to do with it.

And to the woman with the "soft skin" being the reason why black men are attracted to white women, stop smoking crack! "Push over" is more of the reason. Soft skin, huh you need to stop dreaming.

Answer 8

This has nothing to do with color in my opinion. It sounds more like you want to get with this girl but don't know how to do it. You have to pull up the courage to just say something like,

"hey, you know, I've been thinking about me and you for a long time. Now I don't want to ruin our friendship, but, I always want to be honest with you and tell you that I like you more than as just a friend but as a woman"

If you can't take it from there, it's probably the wrong woman or you need to sharpen your skills. The color stuff isn't so important anymore.

Answer 9

I would move very carefully for one reason, and it is not in any way race-related.

Dating in the workplace can be hazardous to your career due to several possible complications that can arise.

Some might see your approach to her as sexual harassment, even though it isn't in any way. If you date her and your co-workers know that's happening it can make life difficult for both of you, and that would happen if both of you were black or if you were white.

So my advice would be to procede with caution. If you do date her be extremely discreet and try to keep the socializing away from the workplace.

Answer 10

It is perfectly acceptable for a black man to be with a white woman. A lot of white people, liberal or conservative, will not feel the same way. I'm white, so I can tell you where they are coming from. They see hip-hop/rap kind of black guys hanging around white girls, getting them pregnant and ending up on Maury. As for what she thinks, I'm sure if you're cool, she'll want to be with you. Buena suerte, mang.

Answer 11

dont even sweat the whole race issue. it means nothing to you two obviously. and arent you the two that will have the relationship? so who really cares what anybody else thinks. if somebody really has a problem with it (which I'm sure a lot of people still do, even in today's day and age), f--- em!!! You're in love and thats all that matters!