what do i do about baby momma drama!?

Question

Ok so i'm almost 19 and I'm seeing this guy. We're getting married and he has a daughter that's almost a year and a half. Her mother is a two face. (We all went to school together so i've known her for three years) She acts all nice to me then talks **** behind my back. That doesn't bother me too much, but this is what does... My fiance gives her $310 a month. She gets WIC but only works part time. She just bought a new car so she makes that her first priority. She will call my fiance and if he doesn't answer she'll keep calling. One day she called over 60 times within 15 minutes. She said she was calling because she had no diapers. He gave her 50 a day prior to this phone call. He gets her every weekend. Yesterday he got served. She's taken him to court for child support. She keeps telling him his daughter isn't even his. She thinks this is all a joke. So what do we do now?

Answer 1

Leave her alone !! She gonna see whos laughing if it comes up that the child isnt his. Shes gonna have to pay the courts for the court costs and the DNA tests and any money he has given towards maintaining the child if he has proof !! Stick it to her a $ $ ! I hope that she learns her lesson. A child isnt a game. So many girls think this is cute.

Answer 2

I guarantee that she will not get what she wants thru the courts. Let him continue being a good father and let the chips fall where they may. You cannot put a price on a child, you really dont know the mom's financial situation. If she chooses to pay her lights, gas, car pymnt, or to get or hair done with the money he gives then so be it, The child is still being taken care of. The child cannot walk to the doctor's office, park,or grandmas house . She may be a lousy b_itch but unless you are her accountant then you don't really know the full picture of it. Your fiance sounds like a good father, do not bering any extra tension that is not needed in the already stressful situation. He should do extra without the courts having to demand him to. Here is an example...
If $600 a month child support is ordered then.....
fiance pymnt should be ... $600 a month - seeing the kid every weekend, taking the child to the zoo or whatever and buying a pair of shoes for him or an outfit.
So many fathers these days get bitter with court and decide to pay what is ordered and nothing else. some fathers pay and don't even see the child at all. Be thankful that you have a loving finace and remember all of this once it is your turn to give him some children .

Answer 3

First off, you should stand back and let your "fiance" and the mother of their child work this out by themselves. You can and should be supportive of your guy, but you don't need to get into this at all. They should have an official child support agreement anyway, that way your guy is covered in the event that she says she didn't receive the money. The 50 phone calls can be documented and presented to the court to possibly issue a restraining order for harassment. A dna paternity test will remove all questions as to whether your guy is the childs father. A word of advice, you are much, much too young to start out your life with this kind of mess dragging behind you. Before you take one step down the aisle, make certain there is a resolution to this issue.

Answer 4

Well- she is doing the right thing by taking him to court and getting everything legal. I know it's not what you want to hear but it protects the baby in more than one way. If your fiance doesn't think this child is his- he will have to pay for a paternity test. Here is what your fiance will be responsible for: child support, any childcare costs (50/50), and if he has insurance than he will have to cover his daughter under his insurance. What your finace can do is ask for visitation and make sure he gets joint legal and physical custody. Make sure he has any evidence that she won't stop calling him when he goes to court and see if the judge can do something about it- he may have to get a PPO on her. As for you- stay out of it! You are not the child's mother and this truely has nothing to do with you. Just be there for your man and treat the child like she is a queen. That's all you can do! Sorry!

Answer 5

Obviously your fiance has an immature baby's mother.She says the child isn't his at times but she wants to take him to child support even though he supports the child. First he should request a D.N.A. test, second he should get money orders every time he gives her money for the child. On the money order he should write the date and what the money is for, because no child support judge cares about reciepts and your word, also make her sign a written agreement stating what the money is for everytime he issues money for the child.Third just continue being a good father until he knows otherwise,if he really loves this child and finds out it isn't his, he should try to stay in her life, because every child deserves a father. If the harrassment continues he should make police reports and seek an order of protection.

Answer 6

He can ask for a paternity test if he truly doubts the baby is his but if it is he will be charged for the cost of the test. Anytime he gives her money, he should do it by check or money order so that it is done with a paper trail. So any back child support can be adjusted by the receipts. Unfortunately you can't change what the ***** does with the money he gives her once she has it. That's sad, I know but all you can do is take the best care of that baby when you do have her. Try, try try try to make things work as BEST as possible for the child's welfare. Don't fight back with her, ignore her calls if they are petty. As far as being civil or amicable with her, fake it. Fake being nice to her, fake kiss her ***. The more you react to her stupidity and maliciousness, the worse she'll act. You're essentially adding fuel to the fire. Hope things work out for that baby's sake.

Answer 7

Sounds like she will try anything just to stop you from marrying this guy to me.

Try to be the big person in all of this, let her make herself look like a jealous fool ok?

Hopefully you can come to an agreement with the child support arrangements, and as for the phone calls, do you have caller id? Let her stew over the fact that she cant get under your skin, and that you choose not to pick up the phone.

She's going to get sick of doing this if she can see that you're not going to let it get to you, and you're still going to be happily married.

You hang in there ok?

Good luck.

Answer 8

First off, he should request a DNA test, Secondly, if he gives her anymore money he should do it by check or money order. Whenever she calls saying the baby needs diapers, he should purchase them himself and keep all receipts for anything that he purchases. Tell him not to allow her silly immature ways to prevent him from being a good father (It sounds to me that he is a stand up type of guy and is doing the right thing, kudos to him). As for you, do not allow her silly ways to cloud your judgment either. Do nit fall into any of her immature traps, once he founds out whether or not the baby is his, I think that he should file for visitation rights. His daughter's mother sounds very immature, but you don't have to act them same way. Good luck to you guys and tell your fiance to keep up the good work.