I really miss her alot but I know she doesnt feel like chatting at the moment. Sometimes I get mad or upset about this and then I tell myself shes sick and doesnt feel good. I know she loves me and misses me too. Is it normal to be upset and should I feel guilty? How can I get over it?
2006-11-09 16:43:19 · 9 answers · asked by KANSAS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I thank each and every one of you for your support and your words of encouragement. It's not easy when someone you love is sick and going through a hard time. I wont pick a best answer because I think all the answers were good. Well all but one...and as for notyou311. I hope you never have to go through what me and my girlfriend are going though. I have compassion for her and havent put myself before her at all. Sounds like your the one that should show a little compassion
2006-11-09 17:56:24 · update #1
she going through something very difficult, you just have to be there for her and have to understand her feelings...... very sorry for her.. best of luck.......
2006-11-09 16:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Relay for Life offers a support network for cancer patients and their friends and family. You can find their website online. This is a really hard thing to go through and the thing is when something big and life altering like this happens, there's really nothing to discuss because you don't really care about what else is going on in the world around you. Your world has come to an abrupt halt and you're in for a painful ride. Give her some time. Let her know you're there for her and when she's ready she'll let you know. The best thing to do is to wait it out. It is frustrating and painful for you too but it's just the only way she knows how to deal with it without completely breaking down right now. You probably won't get over it but try giving yourself a project...perhaps work on something special for her or pick up a new hobby to help make it through. Best wishes!
2006-11-09 16:50:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your point of wanting affection. You seem to have a straight head. You are not going to get over it, its natural human behavior. Just stick by her side and give her all the support you can manage. Look at the future, this will help make your relationship stronger. For "notyou311" they don't have a life and obviously didn't read your entire question so ignore them. Sorry about your girlfriend and best of luck for you both. God Bless!
2006-11-09 16:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by West Virginia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going through a hard time, relax and rember she loves you. You should not feel guilty as you have done nothing wrong. You should be talking to your mates, or your family, or her family about how you are feeling and when she feels she wants to talk to you tell her you love her. You should feel upset because this has happened to you and your girlfriend. I hope she gets better soon and has a speedy recovery.
2006-11-09 16:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by technopathe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People usualy don't like others making a fuss over them or treating them differerently. Just tell her you are there if she needs you and let you know if there is something you might have to change to suit. Then just try to be normal, most people in your shoes feel the way you are feeling. Just show her and tell her you still love her.
2006-11-09 16:47:27 · answer #5 · answered by graeme1944 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could try writing down the things you'd tell her if you could chat, or even fill up a mini voice recorder so she can hear the sound of your voice. Other than that when you're really down phone one of your mates and get it out of your system!
2006-11-09 16:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by renclrk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just show her all the support you can. Its a really hard time for her right now. Be patient, maybe she just needs some time alone. She'll let you in when she's ready
2006-11-09 16:47:06 · answer #7 · answered by exaluva 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the first answerer was right. just go along with her and support her through her difficult times, and understand the way she feels. i suggest that u visit her with flowers to ease her discomfort and pain.
2006-11-09 16:53:08 · answer #8 · answered by blingding 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please give her some space. Can't you imagine how difficult it must be for her? She is facing a life threatening disease. Not everything is about you.
2006-11-09 16:45:06 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋