I was a single parent for 10 years and have always been very independent. 6 yrs ago my father passed away and I started to have panic attacks. The doctor perscribed Paxil and since I I have gained over 60 lbs. Now I take 50 mg of Zoloft. I remarried three years ago and started working from home. I am not sure what is wrong with me, but i hate leaving the house. I desperately want and need another job. I send out many resumes and when I get the calls for interviews I will schedule them, but can not get myself to go. Or sometimes I will go and when offered the job, I can not get myself to start it. I hate myself and feel so fat and ugly. I am afraid if I go back to the doctor, he will increase my medication and I do not want that. I can't stand to gain anymore weight and I hate feeling medicated all the time. Please help me, I am only 35 years old and so confused all the time. I can never carry anything out and always change my mind. I want my life back. Please help me.
2006-11-09 16:30:27 · 13 answers · asked by Julia 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I send my sympathy to your father passing away. I would try other options before going on medication. Medication should be used after you have exhausted all other options. You may be having problems with self esteem after gaining weight. You also may be having problem with panic because of a loss of security- your father. You should try therapy first for the panic attacks. Write a log..find out when they occur..what is triggering it. Why do you feel you cant leave the house- fear of people..depression? I understand your confusion. Start first by going to the gym...It will increase the endorphins in your body and make you feel good. Drink Camimile tea to relax you before you go to bed. Are you getting adequate sleep?
You should learn relaxation techniques to use if you have a panic attack episode. Deep breathing, progressive relaxation, relaxation tapes. You are afraid to start the job because you feel that you are going to fail. Start walking around your block every day to get over the fear of getting out of your house. Go out start the job. Get back on the horse. It will make you feel better to get out of the house. You should also start going to (church, temple..whatever your beliefs are) What ever you do get out of the house as much as you can.
2006-11-09 16:56:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not on the right medication. Go back to the doctor and DO NOT accept an increase in Zoloft. Tell him you feel confused and indecisive on this medication AND it's not helping.
Besides gaining weight on Paxil, you didn't really say how you were doing. I take Paxil. Yes, I've gained weight too, but am going to Weight Watchers and losing the weight. Even if you are hungrier on Paxil, you can learn to eat better and still lose weight.
So, just tell the doctor everything you told us. Make a list to make sure you tell him everything and get all your questions answered. If you don't get anywhere with that doctor, see another. The right medication will give you your old life back. Also, you didn't say what kind of doctor you are seeing. If it is your regular medical doctor, I suggest you see a psychologist for at least a short time. Understanding your disorder is another big step in getting your life back. Best of luck.
2006-11-09 16:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am no psychologist, but depression is very common and the drugs you mentioned can actually cause or deepen it. Drugs like that don't work for everyone. First I would see your doctor and discuss how you feel. If you need the meds then it might help to combat the effects they have on the rest of you. You can start by doing relaxation techniques. One of them I like is too find a quiet place and sit comfortably. Inhale deeply through your nose and exhale through your mouth, taking about twice as long to exhale as you did to inhale. Another thing is to start some moderate exercise if your doctor says it's ok. This can help trim some of the weight off and it kicks in the chemicals like endorphins that can make you feel good. Another thing that may help is to join a group that centers on a hobby or an interest you have, perhaps even a parental support group, that meets once a week or at least a few times a month. Look to you local community instead of online so that you can go out and meet people. Best wishes to you. I hope you can get the relief you need.
2006-11-09 16:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by jigsawinc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, i'm a mum of 3 girls 2! Anyway, your problem obviously is your looks and weight. You don't have a problem actually leaving your house because you obviously can so you need to find a way to get motivated to lose the weight and turn yourself into the person you wanna be. Have you sought a second opinion from another doctor about your problems, stress you dislike medication and do not want anymore and he may be able to help you with other ways. I've been told the best cure for depression is not anti-depressants, it's plain old exercise and a healthy diet. When you exercise and lose weight, you feel really good about yourself! Other than this, i can't help you very much but either way I would see a doctor.
2006-11-09 16:43:23 · answer #4 · answered by Abs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Panic attacks are caused from anxiety and stress, the mind working overtime actually. No one can control the thoughts that enter their brain, only how they deal with them. The best thing for panic attacks is exercise to slow the system down, OR a medication like Transzene, which is a tranquilizer. That also slows the system down. Zoloft is a antidepressant, NOT a tranquilizer. I do hope you are seeing a qualified Dr., such as a Psych. for this problem. Both medications can cause weight gain, mainly because they do SLOW the system down. So, now that you are aware of that, YOU need to push yourself to do your part and exercise. It will help with fitness and any anxiety you might build up. It sounds to me you are NOT on the right antidepressant. Keep in mind also, when a person shops for a Dr., you find one YOU like, it's your heath, and you need to find someone your most comfortable with. I know things will change, once YOU make the proper changes. Good luck!
2006-11-09 18:39:24 · answer #5 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... if you have the courage to contact answer.yahoo.com you CAN contact either a hypnotist, hypnoanalynist/therapist, or a psychologist. Something is seriously preventing you from living the good life that you can! Consider counseling, maybe your husband will help you, and obviously your not fat and ugly you just got married! Rejoice!
Really, discuss this with your husband and contact a psychologist.
Best of luck,
Ezekiel
P.S. Try to look for a book called Being Happy! A handbook to Greater Confidence & Security - by Andrew Matthews
2006-11-09 16:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by Ezekiel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay ditto on what the other folks are saying. But here is a new thought.
You cannot give what you do not possess.
Your 3 girls are looking to you as their main role model in life. As far as they are concerned YOU are what it means to be a woman, a mother, a wife.
You cannot pass on confidence to your girls if you don't have it. They will grow up thinking they should be scared of the world, timid, sad and void of joy.
Is this what you want for them?
You can get this under control. You can! It's never too late!
YOU ARE A POWERFUL WOMAN and I want you to write that on your bathroom mirror and wake up each day declaring it!
This is the day the Lord has made...
will you rejoice in it?
With Love,
Ponderpink
2006-11-09 16:42:58 · answer #7 · answered by Ponderpink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow my dearest apologies. I have a best friend whos a phychologist and he helped me when I felt like that. First, you are not focused. Second, you are not healthy emotionally which leads to you physically. Last, this overall takes your initiative away. You have to be focused, why do you want a better job? Because you could do better- if you dont believe this than the cycle will continue. This is yourlife- learn to be responsible for yor health. I think you fear what you could acomplish. Let that fear go, and try new things this will really help.
2006-11-09 16:40:19 · answer #8 · answered by rareicon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEPRESSION seek help ( yes i know that drugs are heavily advertised and prescribed but your best bet is to try NO DRUGS AND COUNSELING if this doesn't improve things then you need to try medication - MANY PEOPLE were cured long before the meds existed )
have you seen a Psychotherapist or Psychologist or are you being treated by an MD - seek the proper help ( and reach out to friends and family if possible )
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