I met this guy (Portuguese spunk) in 1997, he was driving past and i was at the busstop on my way to school. He winked and i took down his businesses number. I called him and we really hit it off, more in a bootycall way I guess.He was thrilled when i called today and started talking naughty. Im in love?? ... I havnt seen him in 2 years is this poss??? Or is it lust? I just like heaps about him, except his booty call attitude. I phoned him to say hi today he was Happy ... I am a concervative girl, i dont sleep around, and i am engaged. The man im with isnt 'passionate' enoough though he is a great provider, and i do love him to a point, i just dont feel as happy with him as i did.. Bt i am not independant enough to live alone etc, so i wont even contemplate moving out. This is a tricky question/s i guess... How do i snag my mechanic hot guy? Should i stay with my fiancee? (Who is lacklustre) What should i do... Im now 26 and need to make a choice. Thanks for your help and understanding
2006-11-09 16:26:27 · 9 answers · asked by Aussie Sarah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My fiancee and i have our wedding booked allready - so yes he is intending on marriage we have paid deposits but im intrested in a lasting realtinship with sparkle.. not just one of convenience. (But i want stability)
2006-11-09 16:45:08 · update #1
Stick with your fiance...in the end, he will prevail. Long term relationships aren't easy and they require some work. You can get the lust back into your relationship with your fiance, you just need to spice things up and talk to him. You both need to talk to each other about trying new things, tell him what you want him to do and what you like...otherwise he'll never know he's not giving you what you need or want. This guy may be a good bootycall but not worth losing love over. You just want excitement and to feel your heart jumping again. The best way I found to satisfy the thirst for those feelings, have your girls' night out and dance and flirt but don't let it get too far...score some free drinks and then go home and have hot wild monkey sex with your fiancee...lol. But who I am to tell you how to live your life. Do what you feel is best for you...follow your intuition. Best of luck!
2006-11-09 16:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you're not happy with your fiancee if you're thinking about Mr. Hottie so much. Be careful, because if you're not happy now, marriage won't make it any better. Being a good provider doesn't mean much if you're going to spend years of your life being unhappy with an dispassionate guy. If passion is what you need, then don't deprive yourself of that "til death (do you part)".
On the other hand if Mr. Hottie makes so many references to the booty calls, and that's what you don't like about him, it's very likely that he is only interested in the physical... in which case you would have a decision to make.
2006-11-10 00:34:39 · answer #2 · answered by jae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds kind of mean and I'm not an intentionally mean person, but you do want the truth I presume, so here goes.Sounds to me like your using your fiancee, be a good girl and break it off with him. You shouldn't marry someone you aren't totally In Love with,you said yourself you weren't plus your actions say your not.It's not fair, nor is it fair to just stay because you aren't independent. It's time (at 26) to go up and learn to take care of yourself.
2006-11-10 00:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like ur more in love with the mechanic than ur fiancee. It sounds like the only reason that u want to stay with ur fiancee is because he can provide for u. Follow ur heart and go for the mechanic.
2006-11-10 00:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st of all why is your Fiance' your Fiance' for 6 years ? Do you really think he has intentions on marrying you ? 6 years is a helluva long time to plan a wedding...I say Drop the looser an move on the Hot Guy maybe temporary, but at least you aren't wasting your life on a dream that may not come true!!!
2006-11-10 00:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by chubbie dumplins 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well as they say a bird in the hand is worth more than 2 in a bush,If u are close friends ans its but 7 yrs what are u wating for.U knows his like and dilike same as he know yours.Well good luck.
2006-11-10 00:33:41 · answer #6 · answered by gxsilver1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
FIRST OF ALL YOU NEED TO BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF
WHY ARE YOU WITH SOMEONE FOR 6 YEARS THAT DOES
NOT GIVE YOU WHAT YOU NEED. OTHER WISE YOU WOULD
NOT BE LOOKING ELSE WHERE. THAT THE PROBLEM
IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY AT HOME THEN THE RIGHT THING
TO DO IS LEAVE IT ALONG. AND YOU SHOULD NOT GET
MARRIED TO THIS GUY IF YOU FEEL AS YOU DO. IT WILL
ONLY GET WORST. TIME TO GET YOUR SELF TOGETHER
AND LEARN TO LIVE YOUR LIFE. AND THAT MEAN START
DOING THING MAYBR ON YOUR OWN. BECAUSE AT THE
END OF THIS SOMEONE THAT YOU SAY YOU LOVE IWILL
BE HURT.
2006-11-10 00:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're thinking about leaving your fiancee for another guy, then it'll probably always be on your mind if you marry him. You don't sound really happy with your fiancee, and if you're not happy, I don't think you should stay with him.
2006-11-10 00:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by F.J. 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should stay with your fiance who provides for you.The mechanic just wants a booty call.
2006-11-10 00:33:25 · answer #9 · answered by teddy bear 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋