Ok i am dating this wonderful women who i met last year in class. We have been dating for 1 year and 2 months. I found out she likes this other guy? How should i confront her about this? should i be worried about htis? is this a normal thing? Will this affect our Relationship?
2006-11-09 16:21:05 · 14 answers · asked by Chris 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's normal for women to look at other guys and find them attractive- just like men do with other women. But if she actually wants to be with another guy or really likes him than something is wrong. It will end up affecting your relationship because she likes something about this other guy that you must not have. She will always compare you to him in her head. I'm not trying to sound mean- but if she likes another guy than she probably wants to try new things- as in new men. I would suggest that you find out if she likes him as a friend or as someone she could date. If you didn't hear it from her- it may just be a rumor. Ask her and than make a decision if you want to be with someone that wants to be with other guys. Good luck!
2006-11-09 16:38:43 · answer #1 · answered by Tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say she "likes" another guy, what do you mean? As a friend? As a potential bf? A frank talk couldn't hurt. Relationships are built on communication and your question sounds like you could use some right now. In order to get her to open up though, change your mind (and heart) set a bit. This is not "a confrontation" this is an honest discussion between you and someone you care about. You're not going to bully her into feeling one way or another. Don't approach this discussion with a tude, or she may just tell you what she thinks you want to hear. And what you really want to hear is the truth.
2006-11-09 16:30:45 · answer #2 · answered by Caper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you find this out? If she likes another guy, then I would have to say that it would have an affect on your relationship. Would you stay in a relationship where the girl is into someone other than yourself?
Yes, you should confront her. It would not be fair to assume anything, you should give her the opportunity to explain.
2006-11-09 16:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are dating, she is free to do what she wants to do. If you are in relationship, there is commitment. But liking a guy is just a feeling, unless she's acted on it. You can't stop her from liking someone. You can ask (or confront) to get her side of the story and decide what do do with your "relationship". Just remember, you can't keep her from having any kind of feeling toward anybody.
2006-11-09 16:25:54 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if the girl is interested in antoher man then maybe youre not giving her all she needs and i dont mean that in a bad way..jsut youre not peeking her interest..i say that you should talk to her and ask her if she has any sort of feelnigs for this guy or if anything is wrong with your relationship so that you guys can work at it and she wont have a wandering eye..good luck
2006-11-09 16:25:58 · answer #5 · answered by sinful vampyra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her about this and if she says yes she like someone else then it's time for you to move on unless your both willing to just date and see other people. This relationship will go no where if either of you are interested in someone else.
2006-11-09 16:27:43 · answer #6 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not normal if you are dating someone for that long and she now likes someone else. Be honest, be open and just sit down and ask her about it. If she wants to end it, just go on and find someone new. She must not like you as much anymore or there would be no other men.
2006-11-09 16:24:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two should be close enough now for you too just ask. I wouldn't just play a little game, I would just come out with what you heard, and see how she replies. You'll know by the way she replies if there is more to it or not. I wish you both happiness!
2006-11-09 16:26:44 · answer #8 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she simply likes him, there's nothing to worry about... I mean if Mr. Eye Candy (insert any sexy celebrity here) were your neighbor, she'd probably be going gaga over him. Liking him doesn't mean leaving you. If she knows that you're a great guy, then she's not going anywhere. If she doesn't know how wonderful you are, then maybe you're better off without her
2006-11-09 16:26:42 · answer #9 · answered by jae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and find out how she feels. If she likes someone else then this could affect your relationship. Just talk to her.
2006-11-09 16:24:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋