I am having a baby in January and My cousin's wife just had hers two days ago and took my baby's name?

Question

What do I do? I already have my baby's name on his stuff? I have been calling him by his name since I found out it was a boy.
I can't stand this. I hate when people steal other people's baby names. Why can't they think of their own? How do I handle my family when I tell them that I went ahead and name him the same name? My whole family knew what I was going to name him that first because I had my shower last month with his name on the shower invitations. So should I feel quilty for keeping my name?
How do I handle the cousin who named his kid the same as mine?

Answer 1

I'm sorry your cousin and his wife are such jerks! That's just rude. The same thing happened to my aunt--she had her baby's name picked out since she was a teenager and didn't even have the baby until her 30s. Her brother and his wife named their first child the exact same name she'd picked out--including the middle name. :(

We are a fairly close family so she didn't want the cousins to have the same name. She picked a similar name and doesn't love her daughter any less for it.

If you are not close to your cousin and really have your heart set on the name then give your baby the name you wanted to name him. Or even if you are, then go ahead, but then it will always be a family story: "Why do you have the same name as your cousin?" "Oh, his mom stole the name my mom picked out." It could cause strife between the two boys. I imagine there are already a lot of hard feelings between you and the cousin right now!

So, in the end, only you can decide what to name your baby. Just like the situation with cousins on opposite sides of the family named at different times with no knowledge of the other or uncles/fathers with the same name as a child, having the same name isn't the worst thing that can happen.

With regard to handling the cousin, unless you want to start a family feud, just tell him you are hurt that he chose to disregard you by naming his child the same thing that he already knew you planned on naming your child but you are an adult and won't bear a grudge. And then DON'T bear a grudge! Or you'll think of it all the time and it will interfere with enjoying your baby which is really the most important thing.

Congratulations on your impending birth and good luck! :)

Answer 2

well thats a very tricky one but if I was in your shoes I would go and talk to the mother and ask her if its ok to name the baby the same because you had the name first and other reasons. If she understands she should believe you and if she says no well spell the name different or pronounce it different. Or even just name your baby that anyway! But even though you have his name all over his stuff if you have another baby and its a boy then call him that and he can use it. And no you shouldnt feel quilty about it

Answer 3

God, that would piss me off sooo badly. I thought long and hard about my son's name, and wanted to name a son of mine this particular name since long before I was pregnant...and I would be sooooooooooo mad if someone had taken it. I tried not to tell many people what his name was going to be before I had him, so then no one would get any ideas. I am pregnant again, and we are about 90% sure of the baby's name, but haven't told a soul that we know...better safe than sorry.

If someone HAD taken the name I wanted, I wouldn't use it...I know it sucks, but I would want my kid to have a name all his own. Maybe look through a baby name book and you never know, something else might jump out at you and replace the name you love. I would think they really ruined that name for you, so wouldn't want to use it anymore. However disheartening that may be.

Answer 4

It's not unheard of for cousins to have the same first name. If you feel that way about the name, then go ahead and use it. Family members will realize that you picked it first. Don't worry about it. Enjoy your new baby boy instead.

Answer 5

You shouldn't feel guilty for keeping the name. Perhaps your cousin really liked it and was afraid to ask you about it so she just went ahead and did it anyway. Trust me, when your kid is born, you will have so many things to worry about and do that this will not be an issue. Enjoy the time to yourself that you have now because it will be gone all too quickly!

Answer 6

You should go with the name you pick out, it doesn't matter what your cousin did. There two different children and you had the name first and your whole family knows, so do it.

Answer 7

Keep your babys name the same, dont change it just because of her. And if they complain then you have proof that it was his name the whole pregnancy.. the invites and your family to back you up. You baby is meant to have the name that stuck from the word go. Its a sh*t of a thing to do to someone, and i hope it never happens to me. but keep your head up high. Maybe if you were calling him Jackson or something.. you could call your baby "Better-Than Jackson" with jackson as the middle name. hehe. Sorry! Keep your babys name u will regret it in the end if you dont. goodluck Xx

Answer 8

i'm sorry to hearken to this. it would want to get very annoying searching after slightly one for the first time. possibly your spouse develop into having a foul day and took her anger out on you. possibly some blended thoughts from till now got here up till now she had the baby. ( this does no longer propose she would not love the baby). the biggest aspect to do is attempt to artwork this out through chatting with her, or attempt to cajole her to bypass counsling with you. If she refuses,you need to nonetheless bypass on my own to get some alleviation out of your greif. in case you imagine she's going out of hand convey her in to the psychological corporation. She will be tormented by melancholy.

Answer 9

You had the name first, use it. If your cousin's wife says anything, tell her you had it first. Next time don't tell anyone the name you select for your baby. If they ask, say you are considering many names.

Answer 10

you should keep the name...it's your cousin's wife not your sister.....besides it's not that uncommon to have people in your family that share a name......just think years down the road when they ask why they share a name she will have to explain why she chose it so if she just stole it off of you it's not gonna sound so good.