young..i really never got to know her...now we talk on the phone and email..she puts herself down EVERY time we talk..and is a doormat and always negative..it's wearing on me..i try to help her be positive but nothing helps...should i tell her and exit..or keep my mouth shut? she's in her 70's...it's dragging me down...help!
2006-11-09 15:50:52 · 4 answers · asked by Happy Summer 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You will not be able to change her as she's already set in her mind, after all, she's already 70!
Why do you want to change her at this time? Let her wallow in her own self-pity. You go ahead and live your life and do not let her bother you too much.
Just talk to her as per normal without trying to convince her to change her mind. Give her a listening ear, that's all she needs.
2006-11-09 16:04:00 · answer #1 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their are 17 years between the two of you. You said you "really never got to know her". She sounds lonely, and miserable. You are doing the right thing by trying to help her to have positive thoughts (even though you think it isn't helping). Take it from someone who knows. I too have a sister, that is always negative about everything. But she keeps calling, and I keep asking myself "why do I even bother". But then I ask myself why does she keep calling....and the answer is...."she needs to hear my voice". Even though we were never close, we are still sisters and have that special bond. So, the next time your sister calls just be yourself and keep up with the positive attitude.....believe it or not.. it is helping her. She knows that you are strong and she is weak, and although you feel zapped after the conversation.....you also know that you can get back on track. Alas....she is unable to. Remember, God never gives you more than you can handle. And later, down the road, you will be glad you were able to help her when you could with a few phone calls and email.
2006-11-10 00:37:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should help your sister! Cause u will never know when u need help from someone one day and they feel the same way u feel about ur older sister! But you need to be there to love and support her. God will bless you for helping people. I know its hard sometime to deal with it. But sometime its just good to listen and let her get all things off her chest! So take care and it will pay off one day. Cause when she's gone away from this world. You would be able to smile and say I was there to comfort her. And not feel guilt that u werent there and didnt have time for her..... So good luck and keep your chin up. You can do it! :)
2006-11-10 00:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by heavenlyfemm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't let anyone drag you down and if this means cutting the ties then that's what you'll have to do. Sounds like your sister is not a happy person and you know what they say misery loves company. So I would be honest with her, tell her you love her but if she won't stop being so negative you'll have to stop talking with her. And stand your ground.
2006-11-10 00:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋