how do you talk to you child when they do, have problems of grade at scoo?

Question

she thinking the i am attacking her or pushing her every time the I look at school report

Answer 1

A parent with a child who gets less than great report cards needs to know, first of all, if the child is honestly struggling or if she isn't motivated.

If she's not motivated you could try talking to her to find out what things are bothering her or taking away her motivation. This one is difficult, though, because kids sometimes don't even realize what things are adding up to the lack of motivation.

If she's honestly struggling you should look on the card for the things she did well in, comment on those, and say something like, "Well - the C is better than the D you got. You brought that up." or "Its too bad about the D in math. Do you think that we could work together to see what we can do to help you get it to a C?"

Try to keep the talk matter-of-fact and direct when it comes to the poorer grades, but don't do the "I know you could do better" or other accusatory remarks that parents often make. If she's got some problem with motivation she may be doing as well as she can right now, even if she has the abillity to do better under more motivating circumstances.

Be positive about whatever good grades she has, matter-of-fact and kind of "we could work together on this" on the bad grades; and if it comes down to it develop an attitude of, "Well, The D isn't great, but if you think you can get it up to a C next time; maybe next year you'll enjoy the class more."

Answer 2

I would sit down with her and ask her why her grades are not good without yelling or being pushy. Just have a civil conversation with her. If it has something to do with a bully at school or hanging with the wrong crowd, you will need to deal with it accordingly. If it has to do with not understanding what she is learning, get her a tutor. The tutor will be able to address learning disabilities that she might have.

Answer 3

maybe you should set up a converence with your daughter and the teacher so the three of you can come up with a solution together maybe instead of punishment you can solve the problem and it might make her try harder if she is involved in the process.

Answer 4

Maybe she sees the way you type and knows she is smarter than you.