For a while now, the guy i like has been joking around about getting a bl0wj0b from me. But lately, i think he is actually serious. Ok, he never talks about it in the daylight, but he IM's me at night, asking for a BJ. Me and him both live in the same apartment complex, and he'd type, "Come by around 1:00, just knock on my door." I'd always type back, "Yeah, ok i'll be there...lol." As a JOKE!! But then lately he'd IM me, saying "I was waiting for you last night, where were you" etcetc. And he says he is serious. Was I wrong to joke about it in the 1st place? Does he think I "don't deliver" now? Should i give him his BJ? Cuz i really really luv/want him, but he won't have sex with me, he just wants a BJ. So should I give him one? And if I give him the best BJ of his life, will it make him like me more?? Please help....
Also, he and I have never kissed before. If I give him a BJ, can I also kiss his lips, or is that off-limits? Help me. Please!
2006-11-09 15:23:18 · 30 answers · asked by yurika 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can't believe you are even considering this.
2006-11-09 15:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
Hon,the dude is way off,first off if he isn't wanting anything more sexually Wise than a bj,pass him by.He is not serious about anything,except pleasuring his own need there.You might want to please him because of your feelings,but you are only going to short change yourself and feel nothing but regret and hurt afterwords.I wouldn't joke any further on this matter with him,if he brings it back up,you need to tell him to get rosy and her five fingers,because it will bring him the same pleasure.He wants to use you.I have to be honest,when you stated that he didn't want anything but that,it was like saying you are not good enough but that,like you have a disease or something.Find Mr. right,he is out there,and he will want you with everything you can offer.Think with your heart.Don't be the apartment complex sleaze that he wants you to be,cause he will spread the word if you give into him.Guys like this make me sick.Good Luck to ya Girl.Think long and hard!Best wishes,i know you will do the right thing!
2006-11-09 15:35:29 · answer #2 · answered by twjp1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys have never even kissed before, so how could he really expect you give him a bj. He seems like a selfish type person, thats only out for one thing. Use your head, you know the right answer. And dont let him pressure you into something that your not ready for. He is also being disrespectful to you by IMing you at booty call hours, dont accept that. Leave him alone please. Let him find another sucker.
2006-11-09 15:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by nell16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew how old you are, but I'll guess young. Never under any circumstances give a man a BJ just cause he wants one. No you shouldn't of kidded about such a subject unless you are willing to do it. Don't let him talk you into it. NO he won't like you just cause you did that, there are tons of sluts who will do that. Especially,if he doesn't want sex or to even kiss you or date you. He is a pig, you will regret it if you do. You'll find then, he won't im you as much or talk to you cause he got what he wanted. Stand firm, have some morals. Tell him you are not that kind of girl and anyone you do that to, will be someone you dated and really like and it's mutual.
2006-11-09 15:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hi Yurika, Why do you want to belittle yourself?? One thing, you are to good for this loser. All he wants is a B L O W J O B and pleasure hisself. Instant of a B L O W J O B stick you foot up his A S S and see if he likes that!! Find you a nice guy who likes you the way you are and doesn't put pressure on you. A Friend.
Clowmy
2006-11-09 15:36:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all you want is a booty call type of relationship that's up to you. A guy who is really interested in you is not going to ask you to do this. He takes you on real dates. No, you aren't wrong to joke around with him. But actually doing this would be wrong for you. Respect yourself so that he and anyone else respects you. Besides, if he really thought about you, he'd be willing to munch!!!! Not ask you to do him. That's not an interested in you male! He is a selfish, do for me, male. I wouldn't look at him in any way shape or form.
2006-11-09 15:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by mich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the last three. I've had trouble telling why the fixed signs are called that, because to me the earth signs of Taurus, Virgo and Capricorn seem much more fixed that Leo, Scorpio, and Aquarius. I think of Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius as dynamic, not fixed. I've never seen people more set in their ways and inflexible than Taurus, Virgo and Capricorn.
2016-03-28 01:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen kid. u need to talk to someone about sex and relationships because u have no clue. here's a start. i'll tell u like i'd tell my niece. READY?
u shouldn't even DISCUSS sex with a guy who only shows interest in u when it comes to sex. in other words, if a guy is sayin when are we gonna have sex b4 he's sayin when can we hang out or spend time or go out to eat or a movie, u shouldn't even consider havin any kind of sex with because he's trying to treat u like a WHORE. understand. u don't wanna be a whore. givin him a BJ WILL make him like u, but when he comes all you'll be to him is a whore he didn't even hafta show real interest in b4 she gave him a BJ.
GOT IT???
2006-11-09 15:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you are really wanting to do it ask him why he only wants a bj maybe he doesnt know how to pleasure a woman , maybe he needs to be tought , maybe you should go out for dinner first and have a few dates insted of just giving it away , and if you do dicide to give it away make him give you one first who knows this could be a good thing or a bad thing , you could get a suck buddy out of it or just get a mouth full of .......... and thats it do whats right for you sex is good but being used for it isnt
2006-11-09 15:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way i look at it.. the guy is just interested in sex not a relationship with u...so if u give hima ******* that doesnt mean u can have a relationship with him...
If u want a relationship with him then do that before u proceed with sex...
Otherwise u can enjoy being his friend with benefits.
2006-11-09 15:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time he IM's you, asking for a BJ, you should go over to his apartment, knock on the door, and, when he answers, go inside, kiss him passionately on the mouth, and give him the best BJ he's ever gotten in his life.
If he likes you now, he'll REALLY like you after that...
2006-11-09 15:29:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋