heres the deal.
we have been seeing each other for about 3 years now and I just found out through a friend 2 weeks back that she has cheated on me multipul times. First with a close friend of mine, second "attempted" time with a guy from out of town, & a third time with a guy I know and have a deep dislike of. My friend was the worst, it hurt me more that he did this to me than her actually cheating on me. The second she came to me crying the following day and told me about, they started makeing out and would have gone further but were inturupted by his girlfriend looking for him. The third was at an event that I was not 25ft from her and she slipped off with him while I was correcting a disturbance. I found out about the 1st and 3rd from friends of mine. Apparently everone knew this but me. After I confronted her she cried alot and told me all about what had happened, prommising to never do it again & professing her love for me. My question is am I stupid to stay & what of the friend?
2006-11-09 15:22:40 · 9 answers · asked by Dez Myr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can ask 4000 people, and all 4000 will tell you to dump the tramp.
"Just dump her"
2006-11-09 15:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by Phil S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, think about it logically in terms of marriage. I know that the heart is not logical but if you married this girl how many weeks would it take for her to start cheating on you again and do you want a divorce? What about the kids you could have with her? Do you want them to go through the pain of Dad's and Mom's divorce? Do you ever want to doubt that they are yours? How will the kids be affected from the fallout of your divorce? The best way to avoid a divorce is to marry a faithful, smart money managing person who shares your faith, values and ethics and does not drag you down but lifts you up and encourages you assisting you throughout life, and believes in the permanence of marriage. Think logically. Bring out your protective instincts now think about your children and the legacy that you want to leave behind. If you marry a cheater she will still cheat on you. Some where out there is a beautiful, intelligent, faithful girl who wants very much to love and be loved and would make a great wife for you and you are doing her a huge dis-service by continuing a relationship with this other girl. Your future wife deserves more than half of your heart and you deserve more than to be mocked and made a fool. Take it from me the best way to find the right person is to be available for her and you can't be available when you are spending all your time and energies on a girl who won't give you the least amount respect that you deserve by being sexually faithful. It is hard to let go and I know you are hurting and that you are in love. Please think of your future children they deserve more than this woman as a mother.
2016-05-22 01:58:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is obviously the type of girl that needs more than one guy. She probably will not change so you must decide if you love her enough to give her some room in this relationship.
If you can she will probably be the most loving girl you ever had...to you. Don't worry about what else is going on. As someone once said, "just because someone else has read this book - that doesn't make my enjoyment of reading it any less". Ask her to be more discreet in her affairs to save you "face" Good luck.
2006-11-10 02:55:58 · answer #3 · answered by Ricky 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Drop her like she's hot! There are no excuses for cheating. I believe that once someone cheats you will always live with that doubt. Think, do you trust her now that you know she did this? If not, the relationship is doomed to fail. You probably deserve better.
Remember this "Once a cheater, always a cheater"
2006-11-09 15:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is going to tell you to break up with her. Not everyone will encourage you to forgive her. Forgiving someone and moving on is different than just staying with her and putting up with what she's done. Personally I think you should do the former.
2006-11-09 15:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by ixi26c 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
think about it is this girl really worth the hurt. move on i think once a cheater always a cheater. read tips on dating and relationships to help you better on this site
2006-11-09 15:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by yummy _ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not good, probably Broke Up with Her....... or go straight up and ask her....
2006-11-09 15:26:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she's one of those flirt with every guy gurl
so just leave her
2006-11-09 15:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by bedtime_ted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be more appealing.
She's losing interest because you're not charming enough.
2006-11-09 15:31:09 · answer #9 · answered by Everyone 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋