The thing is my boyfriend got yell too. But i feel like since i'm 21, i should get my own freedom to go out until late hours. Don't u guys think so?
2006-11-09 15:19:56 · 17 answers · asked by rx_cinamon57 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FIRST OF ALL I HOPE YOU ARE A RESPECTABLE AND RESPONSIBLE 21 YEAR OLD !!!
HAVE AN IN DEPT TALK WITH YOUR PARENTS; COVER THE TOPIC OF TRUST !!!
SHOW THEM AND TELL THEM THEY CAN FULLY TRUST YOU !!!
BUT DON'T EVER FAIL THEM OR YOU'VE RUINED IT FOREVER !!!
GOOD LUCK TO YOU !!!
2006-11-09 15:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 21 then yes you do deserve some freedom, but if you are living in your parents home, regardless of your age, you need to abide by your parents house rules. And regardless of the house rules, you should have some common courtesy toward your parents, such as letting them know when you will be gone and for approx. how long, not come in at all hours of the night. No matter what your age, your parents are still your parents and will worry about you. So if you want to not have to answer to anyone, get your own place, until then abide by the rules and take others into consideration.
2006-11-09 23:25:24 · answer #2 · answered by whatelks67 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you still live at home? If you're still living at home, then, even though you're 21, your parents are going to feel that have the right to lecture you because you're still under their roof. If you want your freedom, move out on your own. If you are already out on your own and not dependent upon them for finances or anything, then yes, by all means, you should address this with them very seriously as you are, at 21, an adult. They can offer advice, constructive critisism, etc, but they shouldn't be screaming at you. They shouldn't be doing that at any age!
2006-11-09 23:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. I am an 18 year old still living with my mom. My mom pays all the bills and food, so I go mostly by her rules. I do see your side. My mom hates my boyfriend and if she had her way I would never go to his house, but I still do, I just had to stand up and say she couldn't tell me what to do. Out of respect for her (since she worries) I call if I'll be really late, or if I won't be home at all. If you call and tell them where you're going I don't think they should have anything to ***** about. I feel your pain, it's a blessing and a rough spot to be when you still live at home with Mom and Dad. Hang in there! Good Luck!
2006-11-09 23:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by Alyss K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
21 means that you are an adult, I think that maybe there is more to this situation than you are letting on. If there isn't then you need to sit down with your boyfriend and your parents to find out why they were screaming at you. A lot of parents are over protective (understandable really in this crazy world) but they have to realise that as an adult you have to find your own way. Good luck hope this helps.
2006-11-09 23:27:05 · answer #5 · answered by Jono H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be 21 but, remember you are living at the house of your parents and if they do not agree with you about keeping late hours, then my suggestion would be to move out of your house if you do not need to follow any rules that your parents have when living there.
2006-11-09 23:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one true way to solve that problem but it can only be made by you and it determines just how grown up you think you really are. You have to move out and find your own spot. Then you can come home whenever you like and you answer to no one but yourself. You can visit your boyfriend as much as you like and visa versa. You shouldnt be in the closet about your boyfriend. Youre a grown woman. But in truth the only way you will get to see that is by living on your own. Yes it might be a larger responsibility than you are used to but consider that responsibiltiy a trade off for staying out all night and coming home when you desire as well as seeing your boyfriend whenever you wish. Second, if he got yelled at, was it by your parents or his? Now if you are a friad to move out then you cant complain about your parents tripping though i will say you have the right to a bf. Just be respectful of your parents.
2006-11-09 23:27:53 · answer #7 · answered by Wheres the Rum Gone? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends really. Are you still living with your parents? If you are, I think that they should be allowed to give an opinion or two on what you do. Still though, you are an adult, so in my opinion, you should be trusted to do what you want. They're probably just worried. My parents are the same way, but then again, I'm younger. ^-^
2006-11-09 23:25:07 · answer #8 · answered by .Cami.B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live in a house with other people regardless of your age you should let them know when you will be late so they wont worry. its just a matter of considering others. As far as them making rules if you are living there and they are paying your bills then they get to make the rules. Maybe its time for you to move out.
2006-11-09 23:23:13 · answer #9 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Agree with u but parents are parents.. they'll think of u as a baby forever till u got married especially if u're a girl. Perhaps u should've told them that u'll be late.
Talk to them I guess... tell them what u feel and what u want..
2006-11-09 23:26:05 · answer #10 · answered by fr4ng1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. If your are 21, you have the freedom to do what you like, whether you are living with your parents or not.
Come to think of it, I'm twenty one. If for some reason I were living with my parents right no, I don't think I would want to if they were control freaks and tried to do lame **** like impose a curfew on me.
2006-11-09 23:23:17 · answer #11 · answered by Jade 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋