Homosexual Adoption?

Question

What are your views on this? Are you against it for for it?

Even though the bible says homosexuality is a sin, does this really extend to family life? Whats the difference between a loving homosexual couple adopting a child and a single mother rearing a child without a father figure or even mutipul father figures?

Your views please......

bif2lucky: Im actually homosexual myself and myself adn my partner are looking to adopt sometime in the future. Im only asking for other peoples views here.

Answer 1

hey there. i think its a very honourable thing you are thinking of doing. it takes alot of courage, being in a gay relationship, and deciding to raise a child with some of the scary homophobic attitudes out there. luckily, times have changed alot, and there are alot more open-minded people out in the world now. i was surprised, but pleased, to see how many positive answers there were to this question.
i am going through artificial insemination at the moment, (for the last 2 years infact) and have come across NO homophobia towards my decision at all. i am, infact, coming across fertility issues so am meeting alot of doctors, and consultants who also have no problem treating me. there was actually research done to say that a child being brought up by two female parents was as positive, if not more positive sometimes than a child being brought up with a father figure in the house. however, this was ONE piece of research, and i am sorry but i cannot remember who carried it out!
also, you may be interested that my partner has an 11 year old son who has adapted very well to me coming into his life. he still see's his father, (me and his dad get on well too) and does not feel threatened, or that i am taking on a role that i shouldnt. his school know he is in a home with 2 women, and have respected that when carrying out pshe lessons, and dont blink an eyelid when we turn up for parents evening. his friends parents also are fine.
so i would say - dont be put off your decision by some of the small minded views you may come across on here - if you can offer a child a loving hom, then go for it, and good luck!

Answer 2

The right as a human being to choose to have a child is basic. The choice is not always answered by nature...ie fertility problems. So to my thinking if a man or a woman choose to have a child and it becomes a reality then so be it. The child is born and the hope is always it shall have a good and happy childhood.gay couples have gone down this route as in the female can use donor sperm and the male may find a woman as in surrogate mother etc...
So to the issue of adoption. Now all said above is fundamental
The case of a gaycouple adopting, is slightly different. The adoption of any child from natural family to "chosen" or "allocated" family however you want to view it is a man made decision. It is always fraught......and always has potential to be wonderful, ok, or a disaster.......so gay or otherwise does not dictate the outcome. It is too simplistic tho to say as longas a child is loved is all that matters. Yes of course love is vital but it is not everything. A sense of identity is important, a sense of belonging, these things matter more and more as life carves its path. Therefore individual personality traits come to the fore.....for some children there may be a deep psychological issue while others cope and adapt and accept.
The adoption saga repeats and repeats and the angst is clear on the messages left on adoption sites. So in an ideal world it would always work......with whoever.....but in the real world it does not always work. I do feel tho if any couple are aware no matter what their persuasion .....of the phsycological issues which are present from the onset.....then it can help a hundred fold. Love however can conquer all if the blend is right.

Answer 3

I respect people who hold their religious views from the bible but I personally feel times have moved on.

I know an incredible single mother (who by definition has everything against her demographically, bad neighbourhood, young pregnancy with questionable character) but her daughter is a sweetie, intelligent, lovely kid who obeys her mother but they have a fantastic laugh with each other & are a real team. Her mum never sugar coated anything & always talked to her like an adult & her kid is set for fantastic things in the future.

However, she is an exception & a lot of kids end up orphaned so if there are two homosexual guys or lesbian women who are in a stable long term relationship, are financially sound & genuinely wish to raise a child to the best of their abilities then why shouldn't they be able to raise a kid in a good environment - especially if the adoptive child otherwise faced a life of minimal care institutions or un-bothered foster care.

Sure questions will be asked about 'two daddies' or 'two mummies' but generally, most intelligent people in society now accept that being gay is not a choice and should appreciate the couple in question are only trying to do the best they can for a child who may have had a much less happy outcome if they hadn't intervened ..... that's my opinion, good question .....

Answer 4

I don't think that I should make the choice. It's up to the individual and whether they think that they would make a good parent. I don't think that people have the right to tell you that you can't adopt a child as this would be an indictment on your freedom. The reasoning should be whether a child is better in a loving homosexual home or having no family at all. I would take the homosexual parents rather than live in orphanages if you gave me the choice of the two.

Answer 5

Firstly, in my opinion, the bible is a dated history book which is open to mis-interpretation. Speak to gay christians if you feel strongly about this subject.
Secondly, as you say,there is no difference between a loving homosexual couple adopting a child and a single mother rearing a child without a father.
Look at all of the single mothers who have got pregnant by accident. Some of them grow up to resent their child., and therefore, do not give their child the love and nurturing that he/she rightly deserves. Look at some of the youth of today who get themselves into crime.
You are choosing to have a child! And as long as you have chosen to have a child for the right reasons, you will be ok.
Alot of my gay friends who already have grown up children, have suceeded in bringing up their children really well. Their children have had happy loving lives, and they have been educated well and all of them have acheived qualifications and good careers.
As we know, there will always be bigots around, so be prepared for those who may tease your child for having poofs for dads. This may not happen, but there may also be someone somewhere who may make a comment of this calibre. We have learnt to deal with these ignorant people. And it usually makes your children stronger and more open and accepting to the many differences in our society.
Your sexuality does not undermine your abilities to be a good and loving parent. I wish you all the best for the future!!!!!

Answer 6

there are naturally solid and undesirable apples in each and every group. That mentioned i could think of that proportion-clever there would desire to be as many undesirable heterosexual mothers and dads as gay mothers and dads, probably greater when you consider that for each gay determine who adopts adoption grew to become right into a decision. a similar won't be able to be mentioned of all heterosexual parenting. only what's it that homosexuals are accountable of that would desire to exclude them from adopting or parenting? the undeniable fact that they love somebody YOU (not this questioner however the favourite you) do not approve of? Love is love is love. A rose by ability of the different call....i comprehend some homosexuals i could be delighted to have parented me.

Answer 7

It's morally wrong, theres no getting round it. It is not natural for children to be raised by a homosexual couple. Its very corrupting and the impact it will have on children will be one of utter confusion. All morals and standards will be blurred and its teaching them that homosexuality is normal and natural and we know from what the bible says that it is not. A single person may be able to raise a child perfectly well but the best and most successful way to raise children is when they have a mother and father who are stable marriage. Homosexual union/marriage between two people of the same sex is not on an equal footing to a marriage union between husband and wife and its very corrupting and damaging to be influencing our children that it is.

The truth often hurts but you did ask for our views

Answer 8

There are so many kids without a home that it's just crazy! I think it's wonderful that a gay couple can give a child or a couple children homes. Also I think gay couples show more diversity when adopting then normal couples. If anyone has seen that Rosie cruise with all the gay families it was amazing to see the diversity in race and age. Many couples just want a baby which leave the toddlers up without homes. However many gay couples just want a family so it doesn't matter if it's a baby or not. One couple even adopted a couple kids who were brothers and sisters so they could stay together. How great is that?

Answer 9

A lot of the "Christian" responses here are fairly typical of the small-mindedness I usually see in the religion. They can't get past the "ick" factor and imagine that somehow a hetero chikd will somehow be "converted" by gay parents. I know three people who were raised by gay couples, and they are all perfectly normal. Complete with the usual happiness and angst that comes from groing up.

The "Christian" responses I've seen here come primarily from baseless assumptions. Have any of these people even talked to a homosexual? I seriously doubt it.

Answer 10

There's absolutely no difference. There's a gay couple in my family who are raising an adopted boy, and I think it's awesome. The kid has a great home and the two guys (my cousins) do an excellent job of raising him. I don't care what anyone says; the kid's not growing up "warped" or "confused", and everyone in the situation is doing just fine.

I know a lot of people who are so against gay adoption that they would actually rather a child be with a borderline abusive heterosexual couple than a totally loving homosexual couple. They're that against homosexuals adopting kids. I will never understand it.