my bf of 7 mons received a call on his cell phone from his ex gf.he would not answer it and later i asked what she wanted.he said he did not know as she did not leave a message.something was fishy with that so later when he went to bed i checked his messages and there were no new messages but there was a saved massage from her from that day.when i lisened(yes i know i was wrong) to it and his ex went on about how she has been dreaming about him,missed him,needs to have him back ect..i could not listen to the hole thing.i asked him again the next day if she had left a message and again he said no.when i told him what i did and knew he must have listened to it as it was saved on his cell phone.rather than tell me he just did not want to tell me to upset me he blowed up at me.saying how dare you listen to my messages and thru me out!i know i was wrong but i feel he totally over reacted.whats your take on it?
2006-11-09 15:17:20 · 12 answers · asked by sarseddgghhh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yea u were wrong but u were provoked. i can't believe i'm sayin this but he's wrong. news flash toots, your guy is either cheatin on u or no longer interested in u and this was a convenient way for him to get rid of u. it's one of those 2 things, i guarantee it. good luck. be happy it's only 7 months invested b4 u found out what an @ss he is.
2006-11-09 15:23:31 · answer #1 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way you're both wrong. You already know what you did was wrong but he shouldn't have reacted the way he did. At this point you have every right to be upset with him because for him to react like that only proves that he might be having second thoughts about his ex. To save the message at that, which means he listened to it and was planning on listening to it again, which mean either he liked what he heard or he was trying to determine the sincerity in her voice. Either way you guys need to sit down and have a talk without yelling at each other and without throwing someone out. You shouldn't listen to his messages and go through his personal stuff but at the same time, he shouldn't be bothered by it so much if you did (if he wasn't hiding anything), you see what I mean? A faithful man with good intentions would have gotten upset and mad but not blown up and thrown you out...I'm not saying he's not, I'm just saying yes he overreacted and there's a reason for it. Best of luck!
2006-11-09 15:27:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it is true that you really should not have listened to his messages, sometimes women do things like that to prevent them from obsessing about a topic. I know plenty of women who would do the same. In this case you were worried that he was lying, and you were right. If anyone should be more upset, it is you. Although he cannot help that she called him and left the message that she did, he didn't need to save the message. It does not necessarily mean he is still interested in her, he could have just enjoyed the flattery. It could mean however, that he is interested.
He probably blew up at you because he felt guilty for lying and because you found out the truth. A lot of men cannot deal with confrontation, so they get mad and make you leave. That way they don't have to answer your questions. My advice is to give him time, let him contact you. When he does, you tell him that you want to know if he is still interested in her. Tell him you know you invaded his privacy, but what's done is done. You felt strongly that she left a message, and that led you to find out the truth. How can he be that mad at you for that-you were right!
2006-11-09 15:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by Lawgirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what- I would have listened to the message too, and my man would have thrown me out also. But you know I wonder why he blew up? Maybe because he's pissed he was caught in a lie or because he feels guilty and is up to no good. I would go with the latter, although maybe not. My advice is next time you find something fishy, keep your mouth shut and remember it-then keep your eyes open so you can rule it out or build on it. I know it sounds bad to do this but the less you reveal you know the easier it will be for him to mess up and really get caught.
2006-11-09 15:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're a substandard person. Like I pronounced in the different question you asked. you have a relatives and persons that matter on you and you're making fools out of every person. You need to pass down in a astounding demonstrate of galactic-scale flames. of course I have no sympathy for somebody who's p?ssing and moaning approximately what your lover is doing jointly as you cheat on your husband and undermine your loved ones along with your ridiculous strikes. You made the mess, now sit down in it.
2016-12-28 17:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time you find a new paramour, else it won't be long before he is cheating on you with his ex. Which very much might be the reason he hid what happened and then rather than saying "I wanted to spare your feelings" when you called him on it, completely blew up on you.
2006-11-09 15:20:52 · answer #6 · answered by Jade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you NEVER should have told him
now he won 't save the messages any more and you can 't find out what is going on (between them).
and his any reaction was just
that he didn 't had to justfy him self.
there is deff. something going on (still)
.
2006-11-09 15:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are both in the wrong. You both betrayed each other's trust. He acted out of anger, give him some time to cool down.
2006-11-09 15:20:24 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd say, you caught him in a lie, so you were right to check up on him. I think he is pretending to be mad to put pressure and attention on you, rather than on him.
2006-11-09 15:23:41 · answer #9 · answered by Phil S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DR. Phil says, people who have nothing to hide, hide nothing. Dump this guy.
2006-11-09 15:21:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋