My ex boy-friend wanted me to give him my virginity, but i always said no. It's not that i didn't love him i just got tired of my mom and sisters telling me that he was a dog, and that he wasn't going to become nothing in life. I always feel like they really didn't know him. I understood him. I really can't get over him. I broke up with him because i didn't have the energy to fight with my mom about how i loved him and she just didn't understand. When i cried i called him and he would sit there and listen to me. Everytime he call me i feel them same feelings coming back. I dont want to go through that again, but i love him to death, or i thouight i did. He lied to me and he cheated on me, but i forgave him, Sometimes i feel like a fool for even taking him back, every time he had a girl friend he would always come back to me. I dont know no more, sometimes i want to pick the phone up and call, but i want to be stronger and get over him, but i just dont know how. I dont know what to do.
2006-11-09 15:09:57 · 13 answers · asked by Fallin out of Love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
pray.
it always helps.
you really do love him.
you are able to forgive him
for his flaws his mistakes even though they hurt you deeply.
it doesn't matter wat ur sister or ur mom thinks its wat you think.
ask ur self.
wat do you want the most.
and wat do you want right now.
love is confusing
i don't even know about my situation.
but does he love you?
its not you that has the problem its him
is he willing to commit to you.
you've shown ur love.
his there to listen.. ppl make mistakes and thats a part oflife but...
he has to be willing to sacrifce his flaws and try to be better to you.oh and the virginity thing.
you'll know when the time is right.
2006-11-09 15:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sleeping with him was a good decision. Like you said he wanted you to give it up, but think like this if he really loved you then he would have waited for marriage and not try to pressure you! And the fact that he lied and cheated just means he is a player. It is a sad truth that he cannot be trusted. You need to be strong and get over him otherwise there will be much more pain in future. You should be happy because you tried your best, but if you didn't get the same in return then it's not your fault! And the fact he came back to you when he had other girl friends also says that he cheats on others! or comes back to you after he gets dumped, do you really want to be with such a guy?
2006-11-09 23:19:13 · answer #2 · answered by A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To get over him, you must keep yourself busy. You have too much time on your hands, that is why your thoughts go to him right away. If he loved you he would not have ask you for your virginity. Your mom is right in trying to protect you. Now you need to help her help you. You yourself said he cheated on your and always come BACK to you. Why do you wonder????... BECAUSE YOU ARE A VIRGIN AND HE MUST TAKE THAT FROM YOU. He will continue to press for it because he KNOWS you will eventually give in because he knows you love him... And most man pray on that. Honey once you give it too him..... I promise you WILL NOT see him again. But the worst part is he will have taken something from you that you will NEVER get back. You are mistaken if you think he care about you or your feelings.!!!! I had one man who tried to make me give in and he did not give up easily... I told him he WILL give up before I GIVE IN. He left saying he will tell the other guys that i won't give it up and i will not have anyone to want me again...... ( I did not mind because it was a good thing. But he thought he was hurting me.) I laugh when he left because if he does that he is showing people that I was a good clean decent girl.. And what girl would not want that title?? Listen to your mom, she knows and understands,.... MORE than you know. You should be glad that there is someone who cares about you so much to steer you right, even when it makes you want to hate her. Your mom has been there and back. She wants you to have better. She does not want you to have a baby at a young age, she does not want you get a sexually transmitted disease that may never go away, etc. That is love honey, real motherly love. You are lucky!!
2006-11-09 23:36:14 · answer #3 · answered by vhat40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he cheated on you! you shouldn't give him a second chance.. or else you're just giving him another chance to cheat on you..
if you and him had a family, kids.. how sure are you he won't cheat on you? if he loves u, he'll wait.. i agree with the others... he's not worth it.
im not saying that you should listen to ur mom, but just listen.. and decide for urself.. just be strong.. there are a million of other men who will treat u right.. so don't put ur heart on the line
good luck!
2006-11-09 23:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be an idiot... he doesnt even love you, more than likely your hott, if he wanted you that bad. he cheated on you... not so much commitment there... hes had several different gilfriends while u2 were split up, not thinking of you all the time huh? and the grand fannale... hes asked you 2 have sex several times, everytime u say no, if he keeps asking he doesnt care what you want he just want you in the sack.
2006-11-09 23:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by 约瑟夫 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree you should definetly get over him. He cheated on you and had no problem leaving his other girlfriends for someone else (u). So whats to stop him from doing it again. It would be different if he hadn't gotten other girls. But he obviously got over you somewhat if he could date someone else. Trust me there is plenty fish in the sea. You need to find someone who will respect your decision not to have sex not only by not trying to change your mind but also by not going somewhere else to get it.
2006-11-09 23:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by hem_084 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you it seems like you are insecure with your self, you mom and sister might be right about this cheater , get over him and keep going.
2006-11-09 23:16:13 · answer #7 · answered by Robots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your mother and sisters. This guy is just giving you what you want to hear to get in your pants...
2006-11-09 23:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by Chuck J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over him. he cheated on you. Yor to young for that kind of love. Best be separated then to get hurt again.
2006-11-09 23:13:29 · answer #9 · answered by carloveits 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you but it sounds like he is just interested in sex. Listen to your mother.
2006-11-09 23:12:34 · answer #10 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋