My boyfriend and I have been dating for two months now and we are always doing things together. We're usually alone, sometimes with a couple other people but for the majority of the time it's just us. We're both very quiet, shy people and it has spilled over into our relationship. Although we tell each other a lot, niether one of us have the nerve to make a move. Not even a kiss on the cheek. As the girlfriend in the relationship how can I make him more comfortable to make a move and to make a move myself? I'm afraid if I don't kiss him soon he's going to reject me or want to break off the relationship because of it. He doesn't know it but I love him very much as I've known him for a very long time before we started dating. I don't want to jeopardize a fantastic relationship with a silly thing like this. Please help.
2006-11-09 15:08:42 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have held hands already and he's put his arm around me a couple of times. The last two months I've been getting settled into a girlfriend "mode", if that makes sense. I'm 21 and never actually been in a real relationship before this, I was always so focused on everything else. I really just want things to go smoothly.
2006-11-09 15:23:02 · update #1
stop being a pansy and just git it dun
just go for it
being nervous is for people who dont know what to do or are unprepared
2006-11-09 15:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by RichUnclePennybags 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate. It's nice that you can do things both alone and with others, and understandable that you don't want to jeopardize such a special relationship. Becoming physically more intimate can affect a relationship (often for good, sometimes not) so it's a good thing that you haven't jumped into it, not a bad one.
I'm sure you'll know when the time is right, but if you haven't held hands yet, maybe when you're out for a walk or watching a movie, you can just reach over and take his hand. Nothing huge. That kind of physical contact isn't usually threatening and can open the door to more.
Also, a little hug and kiss on the cheek good bye are usually acceptable and not over the top if you're not really sure how he feels.
2006-11-09 15:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by Shoshanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything you're not ready for just because you don't want to lose him. First of all, if he hasn't made any moves yet, he's probably not going to dump you because you haven't. But don't be afraid to take the lead if you want to. On my first date, I wanted to hold his hand really bad, so I took the popcorn container and grabbed his hand. he told me later that he had been wanting to hold my hand all day but was afraid I didn't want to. Just don't worry so much, it'll happen when it happens. Don't try to force it too much. This guy sounds great, even if he is a little shy. I think it'll work out just fine.
Take care,
p.s.
If you are willing to hold out until January, New Year's Eve is a great excuse for a first kiss. Print out some New Year's Superstitions and include the one about kissing at midnight, he should catch on, lol.
2006-11-09 15:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problemo! Then you make the first move ^-^ Start with a casual conversation while watching a movie or a TV show.. Slowly, play with his ears slightly.. Then, lean a bit then kiss his cheek. If he asked why you do that, simply say that you wanted to initiate the first move.. Also add thay you hoped he'snot turned off or anything.. There' snothing wrong with a kiss or two and you'll relaize how cool it is to kiss your BF when you made your first move ^-^ don't think eh'll get turned off though.. It's like your adding some spices on a cooked foos to make it a wee bit tasty ^-^ Hehe good luck =D
2006-11-09 15:13:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation. My current boyfriend and I are very shy and took quite awhile to have our first kiss. My advice for you would be to talk to him about it. I know that might sound difficult but he is probably having the same concern as you so if you get it out in the open both of you will feel better.
The movies make you feel like your first kiss is supposed to be a magical moment, but in reality it isn't for most people. I would suggest just getting that first one out of the way.
2006-11-09 15:15:32 · answer #5 · answered by baimoo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think that when the time is right, it will be easy to make a move. Just give it some time.
2006-11-09 15:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do it all babe
2006-11-09 15:10:50 · answer #7 · answered by Blackdog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋