Along my 25 years I have dated several guys, I really don´t know why but after a while they loose interest. Finally I meet thid guy 2 months ago and every seemed to go well but now I have the feeling he´s not interested, why can this be ? I´m kind of shy and I have a really hard time opening up, I´m not easy and I´m not ugly . What can I do I really like this guy his different from anyother guy I have dated he´s nice a gentleman but lately he´s been calling less and almost not asking me out and I know for sure he´s not dating anyone else. I don´t know why when I go out with them I shut myself so badly that no chemestry is in the air. What can I do? I´m sad and frustrated.
2006-11-09 14:44:18 · 18 answers · asked by crisy m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It almost sounds as if you push these guys away. If you don't open up and let them get to know the real you, they feel that you are not interested in them. You need to talk to this guy and explain to him how you are. You need to be more open with these people in your life.
2006-11-09 14:48:06 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's easier said than done, but you need to get over your shyness! You need to open up and be genuine...I don't mean you have to gush out all your emotions and deep secrets, but just be honest and friendly. If you don't want lots of pressure to be outgoing on a date, how about inviting him to do something a little more active? Try playing a sport together, or kayaking, or any new and interesting! Something that you both might be a little nervous and excited about, then you can laugh at eachother and feel excited together, that will help form an emotional bond without you having to sit down and have some deep conversation that makes you anxious. Doing something active will hide any lulls in conversation that you might be worried about.
2006-11-09 22:56:06 · answer #2 · answered by Julia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First ...Your still young and a little immature...
You need to get in touch with YOU...
You can't put yourself out there, if you aren't sure who you are.
Find out what really makes you happy, it's not going to be easy and fast...take your time and be honest with yourself.
Really get to know what you want and what you like....
Be a friend to yourself and then you can have friends.
That's not just a saying....
Your relationships are based only on sex...once that is over the guy doesn't know who you are, cause you don't.
Do your homework...it's for you. when you feel better....
So will those around you. Good Luck...
Remember...YOUR WORTH IT!!!
2006-11-09 23:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by J B W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone cares for you the right way it really is for better or worse...True feelings don't just go away over little things......Sometimes us women make the feeling right in our mind and the man is just in it for awhile...Just talk to him and see what the problem is. If he needs time, as they usually put it, let him go and miss you, if he does really care he will come back to you if not find a winner. There are a few good men left you just have to dig through the morons to get to them...Don't settle! you will be sorry in the long run....
2006-11-09 22:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write him a letter about how you feel. i did this with my boy, and it turned things around dramatically.
find out why he's neglecting you, and ask him if he even know's he's doing it. After 2 months the honey moon period is wearing off, and that's when guys loose interest. Don't loose hope, but stop closing yourself off to him. Force yourself to open up. Spend a night together going over family albums from when you were kids, or have a night in watching old tv shows.
2006-11-09 22:49:09 · answer #5 · answered by justanother 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't just dip your toe in the relationship - even guys will want to know you and have open communication with you. If you're too shy, they'll lose interest. What's so interesting about you to keep them around? Chew on that...
2006-11-09 22:48:35 · answer #6 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk to him!!! Two months is enough history together that you should be honest about your concerns. If he is truly not interested any pain this will bring is coming anyway. If he is interested it is important that you find out if you are possibly giving a signal that you are not interested.
2006-11-09 22:48:46 · answer #7 · answered by livewithoutfear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem,.. has a guy ever really hurt you before? you may be shutting new guys out because subconsciously you scared of getting too close and getting hurt again. If you havent been hurt then maybe your scared of commitment...
2006-11-10 01:49:26 · answer #8 · answered by Toy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think there is a prob w/ u. guys prefer girls who share thoughts & ideas w/ them. if u will not talk they will find you boring and if that happens they will start losing their interest in you. or it could be u r acting like someone who's hard to get but the fact is, its obvious that u like them too. being conservative is not bad but if its too much then its not good at all either.
2006-11-09 23:13:32 · answer #9 · answered by rea del rosario 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im kinda young to answer this question, but any idea helps right? HMMM... let me see... Your shy? As much as posible, try openning up to him. and talking to him helps too. try calling him from time to time, i myself get fustrated when the relationship is driven by me alone. bring him to the mall, ask him what he wants to do. try cycling every week. by cycling i mean, one week do stuff he likes, the other do stuff you like. or something like that. I do hope this helps. and if not, well... atleast i tried. im only 17 after all. good luck and godbless. do tell me if it works out.
2006-11-09 22:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by carloveits 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋