do u think this whole sexual abuse issue in the last few yrs, is basically making it harder to get a girl?

Question

I remember a time, just a few yrs ago, talking to girls was easier, there wasn't so much emphasis on sexual abuse , rape, touching , what ever u call it, now its out of hand, if u look at a hot chick these days, people think ur a perv.. jeezzz. ive been thinking about this, and i can't get my head around it, why they were these sexy clothes, they make a man go all silly, and then when u get a attention its like ur being abused, for example, some guy would see a hot chick, n yell " HEY SEXY ", the women would go " go get ****** " ... were giving u good comments and u shove it back in our face.. why all u girls dating really queer looking guys with no guts.?

the whole yelling thing is not my point, its like women are scared of guys these days, there always thinking the worst. the other day for exampe, i friendly told this lady in her car at the traffic lights, when i pulled up next to her at the lights, her petrol flap was wide open. she panic'd like i was gonna rape her in the middle of broad daylight at a busy intersection. gee people act strange these days.

can i just add this, Pacific_crush, can u read the question first, PROPERLY. before u say something..coz thats how **** can start, know what i meannnn....

Answer 1

Hey spoolinta-did I get it right?--I'm not sure everyone, so far, really got your point. & maybe I haven't, either! But I'll try. Some of the answers were right on, as far as the "Hey Sexy" stuff & so on. HOWEVER. Let me give you MY woman's point of view. OK? Some women go out of their way to attract men, & then pull the "freaked out" stuff if it's picked up on. Yes! Indeedy they do.
Some women LOVE the attention, & pretend to be offended by it. There are certainly more subtle ways than what you've mentioned, yet...I find it very difficult to comprehend women who cry: "SEXUAL DISCRIMINATION! ASSAULT!" bla bla bla, when a man is only responding to signals they themselves have sent out. Use your noodle or whatever those little grey cells are called.
A lot of men have had to go through hell over silly accusations. I don't abide by THAT, nor do I by men who truly demean women.
There is such a fine line, it may be difficult to follow. Yet--litigation for any old bit of nonsense seems to me the game these days. Ching ching--let the cash register ring. THERE ARE INJUSTICES ON BOTH SIDES. Let's hopefully keep a rational balance.

Answer 2

I dont know where you live , but I dont see any of that here. All I see is that there are still nice girls who are normal and like to be treated like a lady, and then there are openly sexual and freaky girls who want to be treated like that. The ones I like are the good girls in public and a sexual freak behind the sceenes. BUT , you still need to treat a girl with respect......who the hell goes around saying hey sexy to women? Thats pretty lame. Going up and talking to a girl and making her laugh and being NORMAL is the best way to make a friend and possible lover I think.

Answer 3

Yes, I think it is in some sense. Some guys are scared that if they even try someone will yell abuse or something. Not saying it doesn't happen. That is where the guy needs to go back to being gentleman and win the girl's heart first then let her now how he feels, that is the safest way to do anything.

Answer 4

Girls/women are never going to react positively to "cat calls". Yelling it so that everyone can hear is more about making yourself feel manly and less about giving someone a genuine complement.
Women like for a guy to take notice when they have taken the time to look really great, but they hate it when that's the only reason you bother to say something to them.

Answer 5

First of all, yelling "hey sexy" isn't seen as a compliment by women. And yeah, I give guys the finger if they yell stuff or whistle at me. Honestly, I find that most women aren't dressing in nice clothes to look good for guys, but to kind of compete with other women (weird, I know). That's why we are obsessed with fashion...guys don't care about fashion, but other women do and we want to look impressive to them. If I dress really sexy, it's usually just for my boyfriend and we're going out somewhere together. When women dress in overtly sexy clothes, I doubt it's for the visual pleasure of creepy strangers.

Answer 6

i grew to become into truthfully attempting to settle on if i could grow to be Catholic or not whilst the abuses got here to mild. you're oversimplifying the full subject. listed decrease than are some information which you surpassed over: a million. The valid coaching of the Church condemns -- and continuously has condemned -- the abuse of infants. 2. maximum priests weren't abusers. 3. The bishops who coated for sexually abusive priests have been performing on the suggestion of secular psychiatrists who mentioned that pedophiles have been "in love" with their victims and mandatory to be moved removed from the victims to circumvent recurrence. a similar suggestion grew to become into given to (and utilized by ability of) the favourite public colleges, Boy Scouts and different businesses the place pedophiles tend to conceal because of the fact they get unfettered get right of entry to to victims. (And sure, shrinks comprehend better NOW, yet they did not back in the Nineteen Sixties and before, whilst maximum of this abuse occurred). 4. the money spent on sexual abuse circumstances is going to grant victims with the help they desire -- rarely an incorrect cost. 5. issues have ALREADY replaced...new rules have been positioned into place to assist look after infants. 6. Dads and stepfathers have a greater value of sexual assaults on infants than the different demographic -- ought to we only shop all our infants removed from their own dads and stepdads to guard them? 7. Marriage does not "treatment" pedophile inclinations. that's a psychological ailment that may not be able to be cured. in fact, clergy in different Christian denominations who're allowed to marry have a similar value of those abuses as Catholic priests.

Answer 7

The sexual harassment thing has gone way too far, but I think women want men to act more mature too, like if a girl is dressed to turn you on...you need to have control of your mouth and body parts until the girl is comfortable to let you move in, and only when she gives you the OK!!

Sounds like you don't like it that women take control more now!

Answer 8

Well you were being rude. You just don't yell at a girl how hot she is, you have to show her respect else she won't give you her time.

Answer 9

some of those guys went to them and talked to them like they were normal people. i used to get yelled at Hey baby, damn your hot, owww, damn!, can i get a little of that... I felt all they were doing was making fun of me.