My ex and I broke up a year ago when I got pregnant. He really is a jerk in a nutshell, but I still miss and love him so much. We rarely talk and if we do its on yahoo i/m and he messages me. We dont even have each other's phone number! He asks about the baby and we just chat about things in general. I dont want to seem desperate and message him first, so I never do. I see that he is online right now and I really want to have a real conversation about where we are and to let out some feelings..Should I contact him?
2006-11-09 14:35:08 · 22 answers · asked by confused346 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, he is my daughter's father. We were in a relationship for a year. When I became pregnant, we argued so much and he decided that if I didnt leave him, I would be miserable..since he wasnt ready for fatherhood. He moved to another state when I was 4 months preggo. He came along at a time in my life when I really needed love. I had some deaths in my family and he made me happy again. It is true that he can be a jerk, but deep down he really is a good guy. I know that we could be good for each other and good parents to our daughter, but I dont know how to talk to him about it. I am afraid of rejection. The only time we talk is when he messages me. I see that he visits my myspace page all the time because of my invisible tracker, so maybe he does still think of me? Do you think by me not talking to him it makes me look disinterested? Im so confused!
2006-11-09 14:48:30 · update #1
you deserve so much better than this guy! no, do not contact him. he broke up with you when he got you pregnant! he doesn't even come to see his baby from the way it sounds! he does not deserve you or that child. I think what you're missing is having a real relationship with someone. and in order for you to do that, you're going to have to forget about this jerk. there are good guys out there who will love you and love your baby, and that's what you need and deserve. as long as you keep hanging onto this guy you're never going to be able to move on with your life.
I wish you and your baby the very best.
2006-11-09 14:49:41 · answer #1 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're heart broken, I know it's tough. I think she is messing with you though. If she is texting you once in a while, she is still making sure you are there in the background while she has her fun. It sucks but, that is exactly what she is doing. My advice to you is this: 1. Tell her exactly how you feel. You will always wonder "what if" if you don't do that for yourself. 2. If she doesn't come running back, and I'm sorry, but I don't think she will, you need to cut yourself off from her completely. 3. Delete her from your facebook, don't answer her texts, and move back to where you have friends. 4. Put yourself first! It doesn't seem like it now, but there is someone else out there for you...trust me on this. Good Luck!
2016-05-22 01:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you honestly still have feelings for him, I would be completely open with him and tell him that. Or do you want to keep on being miserable? You need to know where you stand so you or both of you can move forward. What about the baby? Is it his? Don't you think he should take some responsibility and help out? Don't act desperate and don't act pushy; just be honest.
2006-11-09 14:41:04 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who got u pregnant? is he the father? if he's the father why u guys broke up? wait for him to tell u what plan he has in mind. You said he's a jerk in a nutshell but u still miss & love him. if u love him, well, accept the fact that he's a jerk. if u cant then forget abt the feelings u have for him.
2006-11-09 14:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by rea del rosario 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your true intent is to find closure then yes talk to him. If you seek to be immature about the thing then don't even bother. However, (assuming you've had your child) you should contact him for the sake of your child. Your child does deserve to know who his Father is. Even if you do deem him a loser. Second, You might say you love him, but it isn't healthy to love someone who mistreats you. In the end you lose instead of gaining and moving forward. Resolve your issues with him and see how you are going to work out your situation with your child. Then move on with your life. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
2006-11-09 14:40:38 · answer #5 · answered by Wheres the Rum Gone? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself Why you would want him back if he didnt treat you right in the first place?!
If he doesnt try and contact you any other way beside computer, then it doesnt sound like hes thinking the same way you are. But if youre curious, just ask " Hey do you think that theirs a chance that you and i will ever get back together again"? and then go from there. Good Luck!!
2006-11-09 14:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by Crissy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you miss HIM or do you just miss having someone in your life? and if you think you can put up with his jerk ways then go ahead and contact him. if you want him to change then probably not because he needs to be willing to do it on his own and then win you back.
also, if he is dating someone else then probably no.
and, the worst he can say is taht he isn't interested and then maybe it will help you move on.
good luck.
2006-11-09 14:39:09 · answer #7 · answered by SD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you'd rather be with a jerk than be by yourself.
Leave him alone and begin the process of healing yourself so you can be ready when the right person comes into your life.
2006-11-09 14:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you should have your lawyer contact him and arrange to get child suppor from the deadbeat. If he's a 'jerk in a nutshell," why on earth does he deserve your love? Please use some good judgement for a change!
2006-11-09 14:39:19 · answer #9 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean this with my whole heart:
Delete him from your Messenger, hire a lawyer, and sue him for child support. Then he'll see that you have a backbone.
Anything less than that and he continues to think you're a toy he can take off the shelf and play with, and then put back when he's done. Open your eyes, girl.
2006-11-09 14:38:38 · answer #10 · answered by Ade 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋