I need your advice!!! thanks!!?

Question

I dont know what it is, but women tend to go FAST with me.. we go out on a date twice, and shes in my room making love to me... I dont know, I guess there's nothing left to talk about the next day. I guess I get bored then, I feel like She's a sluTt and too easy, i lose respect for her..... what should I do? These women I date are decent, not some whore on the street. I mean I french kiss the first date, and maybe have some petting... am I right here? I just thought that would be a good start in the dating process.. Anyway, if you can tell me the best dating process I would appreciate it. My friends tell me that I treat women as Trophies.. I dont think so, i want a relationship... I just am very picky...

Answer 1

Well I can tell you where you went wrong.

First, You shouldnt kiss on the first date, A peck on the check is fine after the second date, but a french kiss on the first date is a "nono".. And do you know why its a "nono"? Because if you base your relationship On Physical, and not personallity/spiritual, then It will fail.

Second, Why in the world are you sleeping with them? it sounds to me that you are PUSHING and accepting their invatation of "going fast" with you. It takes TWO to tango, my friend.

Here is what you need to do, in order to have a successful relationship with someone.

1. Take her out on a date, treat her well, With no physical touch, but with words and getting to know each other.

2. Take her out again, and there again, dont do any physical stuff.. You need to see where your relationship Lays here. If you can succeed 7 dates without any physical touch, then maybe you can get somewhere.

3. Once you feel a CONNECTION with them, morally, spiritually, then I say, now is the time to start getting physcial..

4. DO NOT SLEEP with anybody! Why in the world are people doing that? Im serious. Once you do that, your giving your WHOLE body over to someone whom, YOU MAY NEVER MARRY! Once you sleep with them, It ruins it all.. And do you know why? Because Im telling you, if you just base it on physical touch, then you will NEVER Have a full and GREAT relationship with a girl..

Respect the girls, and dont encourage them to be fast with you. If you were picky, then this wouldnt be happening my friend.
THINK ABOUT IT

Answer 2

I need your advice!!! thanks!!?
I dont know what it is, but women tend to go FAST with me.. we go out on a date twice, and shes in my room making love to me... I dont know, I guess there's nothing left to talk about the next day. I guess I get bored then, I feel like She's a sluTt and too easy, i lose respect for her..... what should I do? These women I date are decent, not some whore on the street. I mean I french kiss the first date, and maybe have some petting... am I right here? I just thought that would be a good start in the dating process.. Anyway, if you can tell me the best dating process I would appreciate it. My friends tell me that I treat women as Trophies.. I dont think so, i want a relationship... I just am very picky...

Answer 3

Dating rule #1 is what you need. You seem to hurry it with a French Kiss. First dates are first of all about learning about a person. 2nd is a hint more romantic and personal (no french kissing sorry! it comes at about date number 9) and so forth (making love shouldn't be done usually until engagement because of STD's) I hope this help you out!

Answer 4

ahha. there is your problem friend..you are setting up the mood for these dates and you are definetly setting the mood towards sexual. french kissing and heavy petting are all good and fun...however, that has high sexual under tones and that appears to be something you don't quite want right away. but if thats not what you want then maybe you shouldn't set it up that way...maybe you should resist the inital urge to make out..despite feeling that you have major chemistry because you know where thats going to lead. i think you need to take a slower pace....walk her to the door kiss her on the cheek and say you'll call....that will earn points with her not to meantion keep her panties on. then call and talk and actually try to get to know her better..next date a french kiss (not a heavy makeout session..just one or two french kisses)....and most def. no HEAVY PETTING...remember you want panties on and to get to know her better....then make out session...then petting..then sex....give it time in between take her to do some of her favorite things (which you'll find out what they are the day you call after the sexless first date) and take her to some of your favorite places..get in her mind.. then her pants. maybe this cycle has happened so many times that girls who know you or know of you just think you're expecting sex...or the frenching and heavy petting early on..they'll think thats what you want from them..so you have to send out the correct signals here..and maybe then you'll have an honest relationship. good luck.

Answer 5

Maybe you wouldn't feel like shes too easy and your friends wouldn't think that you use women as trophies if you wouldn't have sex with them on the second date!! Geez, hasn't anyone taught you sexual morality? I don't want to come off as some goodie-two-shoes-jerk or anything, but what you're doing is wrong. If you want a relationship, then get one, not two dates and sex.

My advice to you, be honest, modest, and sexually moral.

Answer 6

Maybe you need to exercise the brakes on a relationship. Keep it at just kissing. Or find things to do like going out with your friends instead of going to your place. It takes two in a relationship. You can let her know that you want things to go slow.

Answer 7

You need to slow down yourself. Maybe the women are getting the appreaction that you want a fast relationship. Maybe slow it down and go on a couple more dates before you jump into bed with them. And you also shouldn't think she is a slut, it takes two and you sure aren't saying no, and you might be talking them in to it from your body language. Just slow yourself down and maybe you will find a girl who won't sleep with you after two dates.

Answer 8

tell them that u do like them but they r going 2 fast try not 2 french kiss on the first date maybe 1 time when u drop her off but not any more that that maybe she'll get the message

Answer 9

if you want a relationship that is meaningful you got to look for a chick in other places then a bar or where you would find a fast chik.
the kind that know how to conversate.
then they want to go out to a date.
you can usually tell right away what kind are interested in dating long time before giving it up. pick up on the q's. :)

Answer 10

Then be picky in how you share your love. Moving in w/ tongue and hands is not being picky w/ your own sexuality - believe it or not, it takes a slut to use one!
Try dating a woman for 3 times before you kiss. You'll find ones who respect you for more than your mattress.