alright, i'm only 14 years old, and i know that's very young and all, but i feel like my whole life is just passing me by and i never advance at all in my social OR love lives...and im not trying to whine to anyone, sorry if this annoys you, but for a few years now ive been very depressed-i've found myself crying alone on my bed because, simply , i think i deserve a boyfriend, atleast someone to love me and hug and kiss me, and, frankly, other girls don't. i know the only reason they have succeeded is b/c they are-er-easy, but i still envy them, which i know isn't very good and christian, but i can't help feeling depressed when i think of them getting to do all the things you do when you're, well, attatched to someone. ALL I WANT is someone to love, and ive never had anyone. ive never even been on a date. plz answer these questions: 1)how do i get a date?(NOT ONLINE!) and 2)could this be something more than teenage angst? could it b depression?
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*if ive never been on a date, how should i change this?
*ive actually lied down and CRIED for hours about it. could it be srsly depression?
2006-11-09 13:52:08 · 7 answers · asked by aerie anna 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes a chemical imbalance can cause depression so it wouldn't hurt to get checked out by a doctor just to be sure. As for the rest, I'll just give you some advice my mom gave me. Don't try too hard. Don't worry too much about dating -especially at 14. It sounds like you're a Christian; if so, take everything to God in prayer and know He loves you, cares about every part of your life and will listen to you. The joy of the Lord is our strength. I know that lonliness can be a terrible thing because I've been there. You should be proud of the fact that you haven't backed down from your principles- ie not being easy. If you are a Christian you should seek out a Bible teaching church and join their youth group. God bless and don't let yourself be defeaqted.
2006-11-09 14:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by utuseclocal483 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand that you are entering womanhood and you have the rest of your life to tie yourself to men. Write me 10 years from now and you'll tell me you're sorry you ached for men when you were 14. The key here is that you want someone to love who will love you back. Apparently this is not happening in your life. This is real to be depressed. Try and join some community groups or school groups where you have something in common with the other people there.; Often if you pursue your interests, you will accidently find someone who has the same interests and you might even date. You certainly wont find anyone by isolating yourself and crying in your room. Get out and enjoy yourself. Make a list of the things you enjoy and start matching that list with groups that are around. And dont think anything is nerdy like nature or birdwatching or gardening or mystery clubs or soccer..whatever. When you find your likes you will find like people. When you find like people you often find a love.
2006-11-09 13:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by juncogirl3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not clinically depressed - it's totally normal to feel sad or worried about relationships, especially at your age. But if you're really concerned, maybe go talk to a school counsellor or ask your parents if you can have a session with a psychologist. Don't worry, you'll get plenty of dates and boyfriends in time!
2006-11-09 13:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by shortcake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know you shouldn't worry I'm 14 and i don't have a girl friend but i don't really care well sometimes i wish people liked me more but i will worry about that when I'm older. well i hope you get better and God bless you.
2006-11-09 14:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by DarkDejection(JF) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not your time yet to meet the right guy yet. it may take you awhile but in the end it will be good. just take it slow. i rushed to fast. by the time i was 17 i was engaged and had a baby. dont rush things. you are to hard on yourself. take it easy.
good luck.
2006-11-09 13:57:12 · answer #5 · answered by twisted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask the question, you're most likely depressed.
2006-11-09 13:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by jazzmetalbassist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea ur gettin around to it.. if u need anyone you can always email me and we can chat
2006-11-09 13:56:03 · answer #7 · answered by obvlious56 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋